Please anyone help..am in so much pain?

Question

I saw the girl that my boyfriend cheated on me with at the bus stop..(its all over now, he ended everything with her and we r over it almost 100%) but i just feel so hurt and my heart aches so much i can really feel pain in my heart.it brings back so much painful memories..what should i do? also she takes this bus to her home and i take the same bus to my home, am afraid i will see her frequently in the future...pls help to make me feel better

Answer 1

I feel for you!! This is truely something that takes a lot of time to deal with! I commend you for being able to forgive your boyfriend and the two of you staying together and commiting to work through this!! This shows strength and maturity on both your parts!!

I know how hard it is to make that first, initial contact with the person that someone you love has betrayed you with; your heart just aches so badly you feel as if you will surely die right there on the spot, and all you really want to do is just grab this woman and start throwing her or hitting her, but you just can't let yourself drop to her level(gotta stay strong for your man, you tell yourself--make him proud); then, your pissed all over again, cause,h**l--this is HIS fault as much as hers--none of this is on YOU!!!Then you just want to run away crying! Oh, honey, I know so, so well how you are feeling!!

But you know, I found that only when I could forgive BOTH of them, AND REALLY MEAN IT, could I find peace for myself!!

When I was able to ask God to forgive both of them, and asked him to BLESS this woman, only then was I able to find peace once again in my life!!

Good luck to you, sweetie!!

Answer 2

the best possible solution is time. I'm sorry for the horrid things. But we gotto hurt to be stronger, as some may say it.

There's another, having someone of the opposite gender be there, I think it helps, you don't needa date him or anything, but a person you can vent too.  

Answer 3

Ive had the same exact situation.

To be honest, when I saw her I called her a straight out s**t. I can't control my anger well so thats I dealt with it.

The funny thing is, that girl ended up transfering schools and I never saw her again.

Gotta be tough some-times hun.

Cheatings a terrible thing and its always going to haunt you. I can promise you that but you can't dewll on the past. and I know its not easy!! believe me I know. Its been almost a year since it happened to me but some-times at night I'm afriad to shut my eyes because my mind leaks back to it.

I cry myself to sleep sometimes.

It gets better though, I promise. and you can believe me

=]

Answer 4

I tend to act on impulse and would probably beat the living daylights out of her for causeing me so much pain (he deserves a beating too no less). Hey if i were there i would do it for yah. lol. Where do B!tches get off ruining other ppls lives?...My ex-ex-BF cheated on me with 3 chicks and i didnt know until a girl i know, who works at a local restraunt told me. One of the B!tches he F-ed has a 4 inch long scar that goes from her eyebrow down her nose to the top of her lip...all i can say is that with my current guy i have no worries about that. I FEEL YOUR PAIN. NOW MAKE THEM FEEL YOURS ( this message is not to encourage violence in any way shape or form)

Answer 5

ohh babe, you'll get over him someday and remember that what ever don't kill you only makes you stronger. God doesn't give you more then you can handle.My daughter has this saying on her my space page, it's cute and usually true......

~ Behind every beautiful girl

    there's a dumb *** guy

     who did her wrong

     and made her strong.~

hope you feel better:)

Answer 6

Your obviously not over it anywhere near 100%. The only immediate answer I can think of is for you to take either a bus earlier or later than she does to avoid bumping into her. Hold your head up high, you did nothing wrong. It is just as much your boyfriends fault as hers, if you can forgive him then work on forgiving her. He did you wrong far more than she did, he was in a relationship with  you at the time and he broke the trust you had in him. This is likely more between you and him and she just reminds you of what he did. You need to talk to him and work on trusting him again if you want it to work.

He is with you, not her. So he obviously loves you and wants to be with you. It will take some time to get the trust level back.

Answer 7

Just seeing the girl will be a constant reminder about your boyfriend being unfaithful.  But you are going to have to believe in yourself, and your boyfriend, hold your head up, and walk on by.  Do not argue with her, or try to be ugly or unfriendly, because that makes you look petty.  The truth is, that if you trust your boyfriend, you have to let it go.  If you have forgiven him, FORGIVE HIM! Don't keep bringing up the situation, and picking at a healing wound.  He is still with you, and you are working on the relationship.... You won! So, just ride the bus.....

Answer 8

Don't worry about it any more.  Leave it in the past and just move forward.  Yes it will hurt and we are humans and have feelings.  It it's gonna bother you real bad just take a later bus.  Your memories will be there anyway so by you seeing her may add even more hurt.

Just try very hard to move on and put it behind you.

Answer 9

  I know this may sound like a dumb answer, but wasn't your boyfriend the one you should be mad at.  If he really cared about you he never would have been with her in the first place.  Since he has moved on from her, now you and her have a common bond, as his ex.  You two should get to know each other better, you could help each other get over him or even get even with him and become good friends in the process.  Since you will probably see a lot of each other on the bus, why not take advantage of your time together

Answer 10

I'm sure allot of people are gonna say "get over it" and "move on with your life" but ima tell you something different,catch her off guard and kick her ***.....it want take away the memory or pain of him and her doing it but you will feel better about your self and you want have to see her any more because she will hide from you instead of flaunting

Answer 11

Your not over it, I think it would be good to go visit with a councilor and see what it is your still harboring. I am not saying you should be able to look at her as if you never knew or cared who she is , but you shouldn't be going into regression like it happened yesterday  

Answer 12

your best defense is to build up your own self esteem and value so you are strong and confident around anyone because you have learned (thru self esteem tips) that you are a wonderful, precious person and equal to everyone - including the other woman so you will see her and everyone as precious and deserving of love just like you.

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