Please do not judge me..i am just looking for info not saying i'm doing it right yet?

Question

is it absolutely crazy for a girl to loose her virginity at 14? how bad does it hurt? Is it normal to be skeptical about putting all your trust in a condom. How would you get birth crontrol if you mother doesn't even know you have bf's? just tell me everything about this subject. thanx

Answer 1

I was 14 when I lost my virginity. I wish I would have waited longer.  I went to the Free Clinic (kind of like Planned Parenthood) and got on birth control.  Condoms, for the most part protect against pregnancy if used properly.

The first time can be painful when the hymen breaks upon penetration. There can also be some blood. Not all girls bleed and not all have pain. I never bled but there was a lot of pain.

The hymen is the thin membrane that sometimes covers the opening to the v****a if you're a virgin. I say "sometimes" because, even if you haven't had s*x, the hymen can do a bit of a disappearing act due to an overzealous workout at the gym, horseback riding, tampons, and even passionate "heavy petting" with your boyfriend. (It's not an impenetrable barrier, anyway, as it has holes to allow menstrual blood to escape.)

For some, the first few times might make you feel sore, as it's been an unused muscle or even hurt if you aren't properly lubricated, or if the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and/or your body isn't ready.

Relaxing, foreplay, (oral s*x, more foreplay – touching, kissing, etc) being fully aroused or better yet, you having an o****m FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or Astro-Glide can help.

Answer 2

you can go to planned parenthood, condoms don't always work, 2 of my kids were conceived while using a condom and yes, s*x hurts the first few times.  for me it hurt alot.

Answer 3

use a condom and i know a girll who was pregant by the time she was 11

Answer 4

you can make your own appointment at planned parenthood and they will do a free exam and prescribe you BC for free or nearly free if you're under 18 or under 21 and a full time student. I would say wait till you're at least 16 though, and then go buck wild

Answer 5

just wait... if you're skeptical chances are you know best, and thats why you're second guessing yourself. i have a friend who didn't think anything could go wrong if she used a condom, and she was on birth control (without her moms knowledge) she got pregnant and an STD which she passed on to the baby. it srewed her up, she ended up having the baby taken from her. you're too young to handle, not just the s*x, but the responsibility that comes with the deed.

do you really want that reputation? chances are if you break up with the guy he could tell everyone that you're a s**t. use your head if you're ready for it, make your own decision, but be wise

good luck

Answer 6

IMO, yes it is absolutely crazy for a girl of 14 to loose her virginity.  Even 16 or 17 is to young, but 14!!!  well, 14 is way to young.  

Anybody who puts their complete trust in a condom is just asking to be pregnant.  You can't completely 100% trust any form of birth control.  I've had 4 pregnant friends this past year, every single one of them on birth control when they got pregnant.  Luckily all but one is married and the one who isn't is 22 so she is old enough to take on the responsiblity of a child.  

Planned Parenthood has a website that will give you some straight talk about birth control and s*x.  There are even videos on how to put on a condom.  It's accurate, responsible info.

http://www.teenwire.com/