Please don't think I'm weird or a psycho?

Question

I have talked to a man on here for over a year and it's always been light hearted and friendly. I've never seen him in person, never heard his voice, just emails. I've begun lately to think about him more than I should. We are both married and have not discussed a meeting. We live very far away. Anyway, I think maybe I'm just thinking this but the other day, I woke up and could not wait to talk to him. I think I'm falling in love with someone I've only emailed. It's crazy and I know it's impossible. I stopped talking to him altogether now because I know what I'm feeling is wrong or strange. I will miss him so terribly but I can no longer subject myself to being in love with another man. Although I know nothing would ever come of it. Has this ever happend to you.

Answer 1

considering you don't know him, i don't think you're in love with him, you're in love with the idea of him and the communication with him. how is your relationship with your husband? is there open communication? is there common interests? i think you need to find the things lacking in your marriage and work on that. best wishes  

Answer 2

yes, your more in love with the idea of him not him self, plus its easy to lie over the internet  

Answer 3

you're not weird or a psycho, but i doubt that someone you have never met or actually spoken to is worth daydreaming over. maybe you only think about this person because he pays you attention that you may not get in your marriage? it is probably best that you decided to end it. :)

Answer 4

What your feeling is not 'weird' or 'strange' because they are your honest feelings. I myself used to use a dating website (www.plentyoffish.com) and I *thought* I found 'The One' on it. I know exactly how you feel, it's so easy to fall in love with someone online because they seem so perfect. It's certainly not impossible either, but I think that it stems from being lonely or unhappy. I finally met the guy and we dated in real life, but it wasn't long before I realized there was a whole other picture. Sometimes even the person you are talking to could be the total opposite of what you think (even a woman!) I would keep talking to him if he helps you feel from feeling lonely, but I would also try to fill the void in your life and think very carefully.

Answer 5

Just my opinion, but this isn't really "mental health"- this is "romance".

Answer 6

you ever see "You Got Mail" hahah.

Answer 7

No this would never happen to me.. I know the danger that is being this internet relationships.. or what ever u want to call them.. How could I fall in love with someone that I truly don't know? yeah you have emailed him and everything.. but he could  easily lie to you.. I mean how can you really know if  he is being honest with you??  I don know.. plus on top of that you are married? I mean how would you feel if your husband would be doing that to you..

Answer 8

get web cam

to see if his really who he says he is

if he looks it arrange to meet but take a friend just incase

then explain to him why you stoped talking to him

and see if you can find a why to still be friends without these feelings

oh and dude

im 14 and giving advice to an adult

the irony

but seriously tell your husband that your meeting this bloke cos if you dont and he finds out oh oo

Answer 9

Kinda, yeah.

But maybe it's just that you really like him as a person.

Answer 10

Dude that is so stupid. How do you know who you are really talking to?

How do you even know it is a man you are talking to.