Please explain just how absence diminishes little passions and increases great ones ?

Question

This question inspired by the written works of :

Francois De La Rochefoucauld

1613-1680, French Classical Writer

Answer 1

good question, along the same lines as "absence makes the heart grow fonder" i agree.  when one doesn't see their loved one for a while the anticipation as the day draws closer and closer makes the heart beat faster and faster, either with the flood of memories for the loved one or possibly the rush of emotion, for a new love!  so the little passions, such as letter writing and love tokens are actually going to replaced for the real thing, which cause the emotions to sky rocket and the flood gates of love in the heart to erupt and the passions for that person are a combination of euphoria, enthusiasm, heightened sexual awareness, tension and an overabundance of love!♥

Answer 2

As absence progresses big and small misgivings fade and we tend to increasingly relive the happier moments. Concurrently feelings of unrequited passions take the background and the good ones, turned over and over, progressively bring ncreased passions and inaccurate memories.

Answer 3

No wonder the Sun never stop burning.

Answer 4

'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' comes to mind. One must reflect when the dearest are gone or away upon the depths of human spirit of questions of how and why and who.

Answer 5

I think it's true and it is because absence works as a distance, as a filter between what we call present and our being of memories, the memories of the presence... and that distance, that filter helps us see what is really essential for us and makes us forget the little details... in absence we can grasp better the image of the whole.

they can be the memories of a loved one... I remember the story of an immigrant, moving into a foreign country and marrying a local... he didn't really appreciate the ties she created between him and the adoptive country until she died of cancer, he thought those ties were natural and he took for granted everything  she made possible for him... It wasn't until her death that he realized he can't go back to his former life without betraying her, it wasn't until her death that he decided to stay forever in the adoptive country because... only that way she could live through him, she wouldn't be forgotten, her life would make sense.

and since I've spoken about immigration... it is the same with the memory of your country once you moved to another place. You might read the local news, disturbing news maybe, but there's a distance between you and those events that you simply cannot travel all of a sudden... what remains in you is the essence of your country, things you've never even given much thought to but you suddenly start defending them, a few landscapes that surrounded you like a daily routine back then and now you find them almost magical, people that were not important to you and now you find yourself wondering how they are... and it's all about passion, a passion that you never felt before, a passion devouring all the little details and transforming them, contorting them into major events... and in a whole...

Answer 6

Well, lust and some passions can be fleeting.  When you first like someone, it can be full of passion but sometimes you can get overwhelmed by the moment.   An absence may throw you back on your feet and make you realize that you may not truely care for the person, their personality, and/or their spirit.  So the passion you felt was just a little one in the overall scheme of life.

When you are really in love, distance does not matter, you are always with that person.  the distance only makes your yearn for them more. I know in my case my boyfriend was gone for a year in Iraq, we ended up emailing every day and he called twice a week.  we talked about more than we ever did before.  i could not wait for him to get back, i guess his absence only further fueled our love for each other.

a favorite quote about distances-

"always near and never apart, maybe in distance but never in heart"

Answer 7

true love increases passion,urge  in absence, where as small flings fade away with time

Answer 8

If the romance was just a passing fling then being seperated would cause that passion to die out.  Like a summer fling.  But if it is a truely deep romance then being seperated would not diminish or decrease the disire for the other person but cause it to grow into an unbearable yearning until you could be with them again.  Like some of the war love stories.  

Hope that helps.

Answer 9

I will try my best with this one as i think at this point in my life I have some Idea what the answer is.

Imagine you find the person of your dreams and you think about this person every waking minute of everyday and that fills your mind and your heart with thoughts so many that they tend to push all other thoughts clean out of your life.

But life fights back and soon many of those thoughts about that  person pare down to what is most important, the way that person makes you feel deep inside, not the looks, or the smiles, or the kind words, many as they may be but the warm feelings of longing and the belief in the goodness of that other person and the hope that he/she will return to you on day seem to shine above all others and tell you that this person is special above all others to you.

In the stream of ones imagination this person becomes the tide flowing in and out and telling one that life is worth living. I hope everyone finds someone like that, someone special.