Please give me some tips on my family

Question

there is my hubby, myself girl 12 and boy 10. We never seem to get on. Sometimes I feel as though they are ganging up on me, as they NEVER help in the house. When I'm, say, cooking a meal, and putting washing out at the same time, u know what I mean girls!, they just all sit there. My hubby doesn't work either as he's got diabetes.My son won't do as he;'s told and runs out the door if I try to cut his hair with clippers, he only does it to wind me up, but the more u shout the more he grins in your face, god, I need help!!

Answer 1

You have a choice in this you know. Don't cook for them or clean up after them. I got so sick of being treated like c**p that I told my kids and hubby that I quit being the MOM. I started to make myself dinner or dine out without them and completely stopped doing chores unless it was to clean my own mess. They apologized within the week and they now help me out when I ask. Teens and pre-teens are a challenge but you can win the war. Good Luck

Answer 2

I know many of people with diabetes that work. As long as its looked after, it will pose no threat to work. I think its more laziness, If he doesn't work, then he should be helping you around the house.

My partner works 5 days a week, full time. On them days, I don't ask much off him, but on the weekends, I expect him to help me out a little

Answer 3

I don't think that diabetes is any excuse to get out of work or helping around the house for that matter! That is of course unless he is missing a foot from it or something along that line. He needs to be working with you to set an example for the kids. It seems to me he doesn't respect you so in turn the children don't.  My honey works 6 days a week and I take care of the house that is our set up. I think what you should do is give everyone a job to complete in the week and reward them for getting it done? I say in a week because you need to start small.  

Answer 4

I like the other answer of stopping all your work and dining out.  I did this once too.  They were shocked at all the work that I did for them!  

Also, don't waste your breath shouting at them. Start talking quietly...almost a whisper.  It settles people down and they have to work at hearing you.  I swear, it works!  I learned it from working in Special Education.  Besides, they KNOW they've pushed your buttons when you yell.

Stop allowing them to abuse you!  

Oh and his hair...let it go.  He'll have to deal with it.  I'd just ask him to keep it clean.  I did this with my son.  He let it go for 2 years...then he got tired of it and cut it off and gave it to a salon who sent it in for cancer patients to make wigs out of.    

How bad is his diabetes?  I have type 2, and it doesn't slow me down much.  If it's bad, I guess you have to deal with it to a point...but he should be able to do his own things around the house.  It doesn't require a full time maid/nurse!

If all else fails, call Nanny 911...or just watch it...you can get some great ideas from there!

Good luck!