Please help, I'm clueless....?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Lately, our relationship has been rocky. We got into an argument today and I seriously cannot take it, anymore. Basically, tonight he made his point straight and told me how he really felt. He said some really hurtful things and not to mention....his anger has been out of control. I could go on and on, but basically I need your advice. Should I leave him and move on? Please..any advice would help. Greatly appreciated!!!

Answer 1

Do you love him?

If so, seek help get counciling

If not leave and move on! You deserve to be happy and he deserves to be loved too!

I wish you luck and hope things get better for you

Answer 2

out of control anger is a deal breaker.  Sounds like it's time to move on before he becomes physically abusive.

Answer 3

he's got anger issues and is hurtful. the question is what is your incentive to stay? from what you said there isn't one. move on and find someone that treats you like you want to be treated.

Answer 4

Leave him.You know you want to.

Answer 5

An answer would be a lot easier if we knew what his points were and how he felt. Then again, his frustration comes from your acting clueless when  you are really not. You just cannot stomach the notion he is over you.  So, you leave.

Answer 6

Your question belongs in Singles and Dating.  

Answer 7

I had a very similar relationship and decided to cut all ties with him. I explained that I didn't like the way I was being treated and wouldn't accept it anymore. We broke up for 6 months without speaking or seeing each other. If he called I hung up, if he wrote I marked "return to sender".  So, after 6 months of being apart, he showed up at my job one day and asked me to dinner.  He said he'd thought a lot about what I'd said and he was working on it. We took it slow at first.....and now we've been married for 15 years. I'm sure that won't work for everyone but at least you'll know if he's willing to change.  If not, you don't need him anyways.

Answer 8

You answered your own question. If you truly can't take it anymore, It sounds like it's time to say good-bye.

Answer 9

Well nothing keeping you together now is there?  No kids, no marriage, no problem.  Git while the gittins good.

Answer 10

Its very tough to get on an relationship and its very easy to break in a second, that took over a time to get settled. Small small thinks should not ride you, you are strong and face this situation silently. Believe me, it is like a air bubble. Thing will get settled out soon. Be cool and calm and give time to this relationship.

     I have lost someone just for one misunderstanding, living life just like life without breath. Do not do like me believe me its very paining.

Answer 11

Sometimes it's hard to leave what you've become familiar with, even if it's the best thing that you can do.

Ask yourself what it will be like with him in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years.  Do you see yourself with him?  If you answer "no", then leave the relationship now before you invest any more time.

Answer 12

You need to leave, if you feel that, there is not working it out with him, you need to leave and just move on with your life.  It won't be easy, but you need to be happy as person.

Answer 13

So you have been going out for 2 years and your just now learning how this guy feels.  It sounds like there are some serious communication issues.  Cut and run baby, Cut and run.  You want to be with someone that can tell you how he feels from the get go.  But in a manner that won't hurt your feelings.

If you want to have a future with this guy, the two of you need to learn how to talk to each other about your feelings.

Answer 14

Why would you stay involved with anyone that treated you like that or that made you feel like that. You deserve better and have wasted 2 years on this guy. I am sure this is not the first time this has happened. Respect yourself enough to understand that there is someone better for you out there but you need to be patient until your paths cross.  Believe in yourself and expect better from a man.

Answer 15

Only you can answer that question.  I can tell you that if his anger, etc, is bad now - it will only get worse with time/marriage.  I'd say cut your losses and find a real man.  

Only you can make that decision.

Answer 16

Sounds like the two of you are at the end of the road.  If his anger is out of control now and he is becoming verbally abusive, chances are that it wont be too long until things become physical.

You know what the right thing is.  You need the confidence to do it.  

Answer 17

well i hate to say that my relationship is like that sometimes too,and its just  part of a growing couple, its totally natural to lash out at your loved one and for him to do it to you, my man and i have been together for 2 years next month, i just think that we have become so close that our hearts get hurt over little things, your man may say hurtful things, but tomorrow you will be over it, i lash out all the time and so does my man, all you need is a night to get over it:) i use that method all the time:) good luck:) i hope that i helped:) you can im me if you need to talk more, i am a girl:)

Answer 18

You havent packed your bags yet?  even you know its over with the start of the question. if there is anything you want to take with you like your dignity then leave now and dont look back.