Please help, advice needed....

Question

Im 16 years old and was with me ex for a year and a half, we where really close, and lived around the corner from each other, We was going through a bad time, and he turned around and said to me one day he had " Fallen out of love with me" So i guess i had to accept this however much it hurt, So we went our seperate way"s, A couple of weeks later i found out i was pregnant ( With him )!, i decided obviously he had to know, so i asked him if we could meet and i told him!. He didnt react to well, and told me that he would only support me through an abortion, because he did not want a baby, At first i was going to have an abortion for him because he made me feel guily, so he met up with me a few times to talk about it, Then a few weeks later i decided i wanted to keep the baby and he should no influence it. i met up with him and told him i was keeping it, and sure enough he walked away, I tried to contact him after that and he woudnt return any of my calls, Sometimes he would ask me what im up to and make contact, other times he would simply egnore me. Sadly a week ago i suffered a misscarriage i was devastated, i just cant recover from it, i contacted him and he hasnt got back to me AT all, nothing not even one word, I still have ALOT of questions left unanswered, do i meet or contact him to ask ?! or leave it and see if he ever contacts me?!

Answer 1

This guy sounds like a JERK and he doesn't deserve your attention. Just consider him a part of your past and move on. I know it's easier said than done. There are way better guys out there, guys who will give you the love you deserve. I'm sorry you lost your baby, but in a way it's a blessing. Now you won't have to have your loser ex in your life anymore. When you do find a new boyfriend....please wait to have s*x with him until you are married. Trust me, you won't regret it!

Answer 2

He can't provide what you need. He couldn't even if he wanted to. Go and cry on your mum's shoulder and tell her what a jerk he is. I don't know what questions you could possibly need him to answer. I think, more likely, you have questions, didn't like his answers and want to hear what you want to hear. Leave him alone. If he's supposed to be part of your life, he'll come back.

I'm sorry about your miscarriage though. If I knew who you were, I'd buy you some flowers :)

Answer 3

well...i think you should call him one more time if he does not pick  up leave him a message telling him that you had a  miscarriage and that if would just try to understand the thing you just went thru and if he culd find it in he's heart to call you back...and if he does not then he truly has no heart you trust me you do not need people in your life like that.

i pray for you.. and i hope the next time you decide to have a child (and pleazz try to be a lil more older..you do not need another immature male as your husband or father of your child) but if you do i hope and pray he/she is healthy and beautiful!

GOD BLESS

Answer 4

Look, as wrong as this guy sounds for you, at least you have to admit he told you the truth. He said he didn't love you anymore, before any of this happened. Finding out you were pregnant didn't make him love you again, agreeing to get an abortion didn't make him love you again, and you having a miscarriage didn't make him love you again. He doesn't love you. He is not going to return your calls because you need a lot more than he's willing to give. He doesn't want to get involved.

You're going to have to find a way to deal with all this without him. I'm sorry.

Answer 5

I would leave him alone for maybe a week it is alot to take in for him since first you were like okay maybe I can get an abortion and then you say you will keep it and now the baby is gone. Maybe just give him time to digist it all.