Please help, family issue...?

Question

My parents are divorced and i live with my mom, brother, and grandma. In the past i used to cut because no one listened to me when i wanted to talk which doesnt happen a lot. my brother calls me emo and fat. My mom is...i don't know but she comes home and sleeps and doesn't talk unless she is downing me. My grandma is crazy and i hate her so much!!! i seriously wish she was dead all the time and i have no love for her at all. one reason for that is because after she got out of the hospital 2 years ago after having mersa she tried turning my brother and mom against me. i think it finally worked. =( she tells my brother all the time that i'm mad at the world and have no purpose..is it true? i have good friends that are always there for me. but i learned to watch my back and trust no one. i'm not a bad teenager, i make straight a's, dont drink, no drugs,no smoking,i play sports, i don't go out with guys when ever i'm asked...my grandma also calls me the devil because i don't like going to church. i just feel lost and im tired of going to church only to fall asleep to the pastor's sermons.BORING! do i sound 'emo'? am i problemed? i've lately considered suicide but i talk myself out of it because of all my friends and the fact that im terriffied of dying, plus i listen to music really loud till i forget everything...i've also recently started cutting again which really helps. what should i do? im 14 almost 15. i can't just drive somewhere...legally... or move out till 18. my dad left when i was 4 so it's no use trying to find him. i love my mom and would never want to leave her, but when these thoughts of suicide come i think i should do something to stop them. i'm also trying to keep this quiet so i won't tell any of my friends...it's embarassing to have such a disconnected family. please help...i'm not sure what i should do....

Answer 1

call  cps

Answer 2

You need to tell your mom this.  And talk to your school concler.  And i know u have a purpose.  and hey i think church i boring too.

Answer 3

call child services, they will figure things out for your family.

figure out what is best for you.

they might make you live with your dad or another relative.

look to change your perspective on life, don't let them get to you..

emo? noo, just stop thinking you are emo. get them out of your head, like you said you're involved so maybe get MORE involved you know?

i'm sorry your family causes you trouble, every family has your issues and you just need to find a way to cope with them (:

Answer 4

I remember a time not too long ago when my sister used to cut. It went on in different phases of starting then going to the hospital and stopping then starting on again over the period of 6-7 months. I'm pretty sure she won't start again because we found out awhile ago that she had depression.That was easy the first few times but then I got sick of helping her sfter she beat up my friend. It's complicated what life throws you. But, you don't need to dodge it by cutting yourself. What your grandma is saying to you is wrong and I think she knows it.Yes, I believe in God and go to church but that doesn't mean I'm going to sit here and try to convert you. But, I will tell you this. God thinks suicide is selfish. When you cut yourself to get rid of the pain all you're doing is making the addiction worse. Suicide is selfish because by you killing yourself you think it's rthe only way to get rid of your problems and the only way for you to escape. But, really when you think about it people will miss you. Your mom, your brother, maybe your grandma, but the ones that will feel the most pain are those friends that will do absoulutley anything for you! So what you need to do is stop cutting! Talk to someone. I mean anyone. I know school is starting agin and if your school like mist has a guidance counselor then talk to him/her about it. They won't tell your mom because all they will do is listen to your problems and give you advice. Plus, you get a little break from school. And who loves those? I'm sure everyone! So try to stop cutting in the meantime. It might be hard but look online for suicide prevention support groups or something where you can chat with people who have the same issues as you online or a hotline! Good luck and I hope you get better.

Answer 5

whatever you do please don't commit suicide it is wrong and cutting is bad try and stop. Have you try to talk to your mom perhaps you to could go and see a therapist and try to not do harm to yourself. Stand up at dinner and say"look i luv all of you and i feel really disconnected no interruptions please i want to talk. this family is falling apart and i think it is time we do something about it mom let's go to the gym one day. e. t.c" i'm really sorry i can't help you a lot because i have never had this experience but my friend's family is like that so i kind of know about it. Don't commit suicide or cut please please don't.

Answer 6

Please, please, please dont cut yourself. I know it must relieve some of your stresses, but it is not good to harm yourself in this way sweetie!

You need to find someone who you can talk to confidentially about your problems...maybe you could call Childline or something, DO IT NOW! x

Answer 7

thats your problem you and your family are disconnected you have been through so much that you all have decided to bury it in dark corner all over so its tearing you all apart, you guys need to realise be a family do things together talk to each other and things will be fine because either way you leave and go any where legally unless your eighteen

Answer 8

If you will re-read your very own question you will see that there are at least 75, and probably more (I got tired of counting) references to "me" or "I" or "my."  That is your basic problem.  Whether you want to call in "emo" is up to you.  The point is that your are so self-absorbed, as opposed to conducting your affairs in the interest of others rather than soley yourself, that you leave yourself with no option but to focus on the faults of others in their relation to you.  Get off of yourself, serve something larger than your own interests, and you will be amazed at the results.

Answer 9

why don't you go to a teen counsel or someone you could talk with anything since you don't want your friends knowing. you need an outlet and cutting is a very bad outlet. your family issue is not the very worse thing there is. just be thankful your mom and brother are still there around you alive and breathing.

Answer 10

I don't know ANYONE with a normal family-Everyone just pretends they have a normal family(like you do to other people)

Try talking to a school counselor, if you canThey are prepared to deal with ALL kinds of problems teenagers face.

Also, as you know, suicide is not an answer-But when you are a teenager, and not old enough to get out of the house as much as you wish, everything feels like it will NEVEr get better-I promise you, it does-I oftenthought of suicide as a teen, and somehow managed to get past it (although I went down some wrong paths first, and made some mistakes.) Try your counselor, or talk to a friend's parents, if you can trust them (I understand it's hard)...I wish you lots of luck, teen years are not easy, and it seems liike the bad is never ending, but it will get better....

Answer 11

yOU NEED TO  call a social worker or kids help phone

Answer 12

Call me crazy but most peopel have issue with their family at some stage. so you need to know that youare not alone in the world. Brother ans sister are gennerally there to nag and anoy their reletives and church is not always the most interesting thing in the world.

Unfortuanlty sometimes we have to dothings or sometimes it is best to do things to help situatiosn that we don't always want to but you have to take that and make a positive of it.

I am not church goer myself but to ese the stress at home i would suggest trying it once in a while. y6ou don't even have to go to a service but you can drop in to say hello. It might sound crazy put presits an dpstures are knowen counsiors and there are also very easy to talk to about things and do so in compleat confodance. this would meant that noone in your scoohl need to know and none of your firends either. It would also keep your gran of your back for a while and open up a place for you to go when you feel you need help.

However dealling with this type of pain is also a hard thing to deal with. but i don;t think that cuttin yourself is nessery the best to deal with it. i am a medical person and work in a hospital, what helps alot of people is phyisical exersies. maybe when you feel you are getting to that stage you could go for a jog or to the gym, it helps burn enery and relse built up tention tht causes some of those feelings, it also gives you a feeling of accomplishemnt that will help lift your spirts and in the long run help you loose weith if tha tis a concer that you have.

hope this helped...