Please help, ..groping father-in-law?

Question

My father in law just grabbed me on the breast and squeezed it, hard, telling me I was still gorgeous We were alone in the kitchen. I was stunned into silence.I should have slapped him. I don't know what to do.I told my husband but he is in shock, He is afraid his dad will deny it. What can I say to him to make sure he never does it again? He has done this before to his wifes widowed friend. I saw him do it years ago. He had an affair on my mother in law years ago so he is no angel. Should I say nothing? I am stunned. I'm scared of him now. I think he thinks I will keep quiet. I don't want to cause trouble for my husband or mother-in-law... please help me. I feel sick.

Answer 1

talk to your mother in law, it may be the only way.

Answer 2

Yikes! That's terrible. I guess if he does it again just slap him, threaten to reveal him to his wife and son and walk off. If he keeps going, you might just want to get away from him and back with other people before it turns ugly. Try to never be in a position where you're out of sight of everyone else and he's around. Well, not in a place where you're far off from others anyway. If you're in the kitchen and the rest of the family is in the next room, that's ok cause if it went too far you could yell out and people would rush in, including your husband. This man could be dangerous if you're alone with him, so be very wary.

Answer 3

hes just being friendly

Answer 4

I would tell everyone. This guy is a pervert. He touches women without their permission. Are there any children around this guy? I would tell your husband and then man's wife. He cannot do this to anyone. Let him know that you will not tolerate it and if he ever does it again you will call the police. I know you don't want to cause problems but you didn't cause this problem. He did. You must say something. You have to.  

Answer 5

Hey u can do one thing.Just cut his p***s of or give a complaint in the police station of sexual harassement.otherwise give ur address,I will come and take care of him([e-mail])

Answer 6

This should be something you husband takes care of for you... But it does need to be taken care of, or it will continue to happen....I'mm sorry this happened to you.Don't let things bring you down, some people are really screwed up...

Answer 7

If you don't say something to your husband NOW, it's the same as condoning it. He will definitely do this again cause he thinks he got away with it, or maybe that you like it .STOP IT NOW !

Answer 8

If he does it again, kick him in the nuts, make sure it hurts, and he'll think twice about doing it again to any girl.

Discuss with your husband whether to have a talk with the mother in law or not.  Something must be done and this man should be put in his place.

Answer 9

Well obviously what he did is not okay. You and your husband need to confront him about it. Pull him aside so he's alone and the three of you sit down and have a little chat. You and your husband let him know that what he did was in no way right and that if he does it again then you're going to go to his wife about it. She should know that he done this but it would create a massive amount of drama for the family so unless he doesn't heed your warning, it might be best in the long run to keep her out of the loop but you know the situation better than I do so I'll leave that up to you.

And if he does it again, smack the everloving h**l out of him. And not just a simple slap. Closed fist, multiple punches. If you don't know how to throw a punch, have your husband teach you. A good, solid punch is something every girl should know how to throw.

Answer 10

What a weirdo.  

If you decide to say something, don't do it at a big public occasion like at the dinnertable.  I'd sit him down with your husband there too, and mentioned that certain ways he's treated you have made you feel very uncomfortable, and see how he reacts.

In the meantime, I'd try to never be alone with the man, bring your husband everywhere you go, even if it's just on the way to the bathroom.  And if he manages to corner you again, you're going to need to confront him directly... I have a feeling he gets a rush out of accosting you in the next room, and if you don't take some sort of action he may get more aggressive.

Yuck, good luck.

Answer 11

ick, what a creep....Tell your father- in-law that if he ever touches you again, not only will you kick him in the nuts, but you will tell the whole family, talk to the lady he touched up before you. This is sexual assault, the fact that you are family makes no difference. Tell him you'll go to the police and charge him if he ever touches you again. Stay out of his reach and let him explain it to everyone in the family why you are avoiding him. Turn it on him.