Please help, i don't know how to handle this!

Question

I have a 13 year old son. But i caught him watching p**n on the internet...and he was jerking to it.

please someone what approach whould i take to discuss this.

My opinion is that hes a guy and thats kinda in males nature..but i still dont feel comfortable knowing my kid is doing that

Answer 1

Its normal...let it be...

Answer 2

His father or a male role model should talk to him.  I hope you already had the s*x talk with him.  He is too young to get in to p**n.  You should use parental controls on the internet and monitor his online activity.  

Answer 3

Put it out of your head and forget what you saw... he is probably more embarrassed than you.

Make sure you let him know that what he is doing is normal, but it needs to be done in the privacy of his room or in the bathroom.

Answer 4

You should get some blockware, and have a long talk with your son about how his urges are normal, but that is not the proper way to go about it. Have you given him the s*x talk? If not, now is the time. Kathleen S said to pretend it never happened and tell him it's normal. So, if she caught her son drinking or doing drugs would she take the same approach? I am a Psych student, and one of our case studies was on the damage of p**n to young men. It skews their images of s*x, women, proper relationships, etc. It can easily become an addiction as devastating as drugs or alcohol. Nip it in the bud, or regret it later.

Answer 5

my son is twelve, and i am scared of this as well. you HAVE to talk to him about s*x and that he is not allowed to have it! there is nothing wrong with masturbating however so tell him if he is going to do it you dont want to know about it and it needs to be private. also put some blocks on your computer so that he is not able to view those kinds of things. im sure though he will easily find other ways to see it, freinds houses and what have you, you may have to be more strict on him now.  

Answer 6

Its normal, I would let him know it's OK tomasturbate in his room. But watching p**n can warp his sexual image of women( i understand this is a diffrent subject) and should be used after he is an adult.  Also if he was in his room with the door shut, and you walked in on him...it might be time to knock (I ment that in a nice way, not a jack *** way). I understand with kids it is hard to know what privacy they need, and when they need more or less... oh an I know this is random...but this is a strange question for the wedding section

Answer 7

Is there not a male that can discuss this with him? Get some sort of software that blocks those sites. I honestly wouldn't make too big a deal out of this. It is illegal for him to be accessing p**n, so that is why I think you should invest in some software to block it.

Answer 8

Hate to tell you this he is at that age,Weather he is in his room or on the PC he going to do it, it is natural for young boy to do this,Now is the time to talk to him about the birds and the bees.I have 4 teenage boys and luckily they have a father that could talk to them.But I know  you will not feel comfortable about talking to him but he needs it .Be open and honest with him and let him know the lines of commuication is always open..

Answer 9

Well that is very natural for a boy his age to do.. But if it really bothers you that much block the internet for p**n. And I wouldn't say anything to him about it .I'm sure that would just kill him if he knew that you know.

Answer 10

Well yes its natural but hes so young to be watching that.

Answer 11

see its something you know that he is male and going to do that someday... you have to accept the fact... i know its really difficult as a parent... but maybe educating him towards this is better... trying to stop him will only worsen and you know that.. and also understand being a parent it is strange and a bit... but accept it as a kid's growing and lead him to the fact that you will be ok and will appreciate if he is truthful to you... this is an occasion to build a friendship with your son... he is old enogh... you know once you treat him friend... you will be secured for life towards his truth fullness... so good luck...