Please help, im a single father and im losing my home?

Question

I don't know what to do, and i have as little as 3 days to find a place to go. To put it bluntly, i live with my family to help care for my disabled parents, my brother lives with us and is schizophrenic and he tried to attack my 8 yr old daughter. I had to beat him up to get him to stop and had him committed. My family sais i can "cope" better than him and since i have an order of protection on him for my daughter, they said when he gets home, i have to leave. this happened two nights ago and hes getting out on friday. There are no shelters here, i have no one to stay with and less than 100$ in my account.... i don't know what to do, is there anyone to get ahold of, or grants for emergencies or anything, please help, we will be sleeping in the car by friday. thanks for any help.

Answer 1

I feel your pain. Three days isn't time enough to do anything.

You can contact social services, your church if you have a church home or find a close co-worker who hopefully can help you out. You say there's no shelters where you are, curious, what part of the state are you in? Even if they did have any it could take any where from a week to over a month to get in, and if it's like it is here, they'd separate you and your child because she's too old to stay on the men's side.....you get the picture.

I'd think if your family really cared about the well being of your brother they'd send him where he could get the help and meds he needs. How is he going to "cope" with your disabled parents, and who will be tending to them?  All I can offer you dear are my prayers for you and your off spring, and tho this may sound cold, be thankful you at least have a car to provide shelter for the two of you.  

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are in this situation.

I recommend contacting a church in your area. They may be able to help immediately. Also try contacting the housing authority in your area and apply for housing assistance.

I would say that you need to use this time as an evaluation of your life.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

maybe your parents have a will? now might be a good time to use it if thats ok with them    

Answer 4

With you gone, who will care for your poor parents? Certainly not the schizophrenic brother!

They aren't being realistic, if he's attacking small children, what will he do to them? She was no more able to defend herself against him than they will be considering they are disabled. May try talking to them one more time, as it sounds he may be better off in and institution, where they can see to it that he gets, and stays on his medicine.

If all else fails.. contact your local food stamp office, they may be able to give you a list of nearby places that are safer to stay at than living in your car with your children. If you were in my neck of the woods, it'd be no trouble getting you help, as we have places where they give families an apartment - rent free, for up to 6 months. Long enough to get on your feet.. I'm wondering if they have something similar where you are, definitely wouldn't hurt to ask around. Also, the church idea, is a fine one. They are always willing to help those in need of true help.

Good luck, I hope you find a safe place for you and your child.

Answer 5

John, if you are a single father, have you checked on getting TANNIF?  I am not sure if I have that right but if you need it, I will get more information on it.

Even if there were shelters in your town, I doubt if you would be allowed in one with your daughter.  Most shelters that allow children are for women and their children as long as any boy they may have is under 12.  

There may be half way houses for your brother that you may check on.  It seems like if you are providing care for your parents,  not  having you there would be more of a burden on them so what do your other siblings want to do about that?  Are they willing to pitch in to help care for them and your brother?

There are organizations that help people who have loved ones that are mentally ill.  Have you checked on any of them?

Again, if you want it, e-mail me and I will try to find some resources in your area