Please help! Depressed B2B here...?

Question

Hello everyone! I need help.

Heres the story, I had set my wedding date and began working on booking the reception hall and such, well I told my aunt (who I really want to be there) what the date is because she called and asked. & Now she can't make it for some reason that I don't even understand ("The weather will be nice down here")... So I'm thinking, too bad for you, I'm having my wedding anyway. But at the same time, I really want them to come... What do I do?

Also, what are some good fall wedding colors? I was thinking sage, rust, cream, and plum. What do you think?

Answer 1

first of all CONGRATS to you and your fiance!  

if i were you i'd tell your aunt that it's important to you that she be at your wedding and ask if she won't reconsider attending.

those are nice color choices.  i especially like the sage & plum.

Answer 2

could you possibly ask your mom to talk to her?  i do think fear, or pride, or discomfort is the issue here, not you.  

my grandmother stopped attending weddings and no one knew why, well, it was because she suddenly couldnt see well and was too proud to tell anyone but she was afraid she would be ill or trip or fall at the wedding in front of everyone.  

perhaps a way to approach it would be to say, what could i do ( or mom or dad or whoever)  to make it comfortable for you to attend since it is so important for me to have you here?  what can i do to make this easy for you to attend?  then tell her again you would like to do all the things you have listed above.  ask her if there is anything else.  tell her this is your private gift to her.  and her presence would be her gift to you.

i once had a friend who was crushed that her mother would not visit her after she married.  crushed.  well it turned out there was a new freeway overpass built near her house that the mother was terrified of and was too proud to explain that  to her daughter.  so now the daughter gets mom and brings her out and everyone is happy.  

Answer 3

Don't change your date because of them! I would be pissed if my aunt said that!

Answer 4

Love your colors for a fall wedding.  As for your aunt, just do your wedding the way you planned and if people come come, great; if not, too bad for them.  You are giving her plenty of notice and it seems silly to rearrange the day for her.  What if someone else doesn't like the time of year your aunt picks?  You can't make everyone happy, so concentrate on you and your fiance.

Answer 5

If that's their only reason for not coming, it sounds pretty selfish. I mean its not like your asking them to come for a month. Its one day.. maybe 2 or 3 since it seems like they live elsewhere.

Don't change your date to convenience them. Its your wedding day. If they come, be grateful and enjoy their company. If not.. oh well you will still have a beautiful day.

Those colors sound nice.. fall colors are very earthy.

Answer 6

She doesn't want to come to your wedding because the weather will (possibly) be nice where she is...?

You've done your part, honey... You invited them, and if the only excuse they give as a reason is a trivial as that, then THEY don't want to go... simple as than... just have your wedding when you want to, and celebrate with the people who love you enough to show up...

I mean, if it were something health related, then I could understand... But the weather being nice? Seriously?

Sorry, honey... But don't let that get you down... enjoy your day!

Answer 7

I know how you feel. I'm getting married next winter, and my aunt,who I am also very close to, has been very wishy-washy on coming or not since she isn't very happy over the fact that I'm getting married to begin with (could that be the problem for you?). She had had her hopes set on someone else I dated a while back.

The reason she gave, however, for possibly not going..was that "it would just be too cold to go." (As if she'd be outside for more than 2 minutes on the walk from the car to the building)

As much as I love her and want her to go, I've done my part and so have you. Maybe try talking to her a bit more and explain how important it is to you? I think that's what I'll end up doing and hope she'll understand.

Best of luck! Hope your wedding day goes great :)

Answer 8

If your aunt can't tear herself away from the "nice weather" in her hometown for one weekend to come see her niece get married, she's got some problems indeed, no offense to the dear lady.  Is it possible that she just doesn't like weddings and is using any old inane excuse to try to get out of coming?  Oh, well, either way, you can't reschedule your whole wedding around one person's inability (or unwillingness) to attend, even if you really did want her there.  Keep the wedding date, send her an invitation anyway, and hopefully she'll come to her senses and get to your wedding.

Sage, rust, cream and plum are gorgeous wedding colors.  I'm so excited for you!

Answer 9

If they want to be there they can probably rearrange their schedule unless it is for something big like a medical procedure or something.  Have your wedding on the day you have chosen.

I was married in October.  I used jewel toned flowers to decorate with - plum, burgundy, forest green - and the general fall colors as well.  It was very pretty if I say so myself!  :)  I had a friends little sister who was also married in October and she had rust colored bridesmaid dresses -  

Answer 10

Will your aunt be driving or flying?  How old is your aunt?  How bad will the weather be?

Have you thought that maybe, she can't afford do come to your wedding?  

If she either has to fly or drive a long way and she doesn't have a lot of money, that might be why. She might not want to tell you the truth, because of pride.

When I got married.  My husband's brother didn't come to the wedding.  We didn't know it at the time, but they were really hurting for money and they just couldn't make it to the wedding.  

I think sage or plum are nice colors.

Answer 11

If she really wanted to come she would be there. If you change it for her then it might cause someone else not to be able to come. Just leave it.  

Answer 12

You did all you could. Now it is up to your aunt to attend or not.

Your colors seem nice for fall.