Please help. I'm so confused. Thanks!!?

Question

I'm sorry its long but I need some advice. (I'll give ten points too)

OK for some weird reason I wanted to go to a Private All girls catholic high school. So i did. lol

I've been there for two weeks, and I'm miserable there. I've been crying a lot ever since I went there. I'm not making any friends, and I'm not catholic. There's like religion in every class, and I didn't know that so I feel very awkward.

My old public school started two days ago. I really want to go there. I told my parents that. My mom is fine with it, but I think my dad is really upset. He said that I shouldn't give up so soon and like i cant run away from my problems. But I'm not happy there!

So should I go to public or Private? I would stay at private for another week or so, but then they'll be all loaded up with work,and I would be so far behind.

Also, I'm worried if I go back to public everyone there is going to call me a quiter and give me a hard time.

Please help! thanks..

the main thing is is that I don't want to make my dad upset. I want them to be proud of me!

Answer 1

go back to your public school.

ive been to both, and private schools dont actually give a good education.

in fact, i went to MLC, a private school that sounds a bit like yours. one of the worst decisions ive ever made.

go back, people will accept you. or you could always start again, at a new school - that way you could still see your friends outside of school, but would get to meet some new people, maybe make a fresh start, and you wouldnt have to see all the people who would call you quitter.

Answer 2

I agree with you Dad. Give it more time. You'll make friends, 2 weeks isn't long enough to be sure. You'll get a better education in private school then in public school, so stick it out if you can.

I'd say stay for the first semester. If you really hate it and can't stand it after Christmas, consider changing schools then.  

Answer 3

ok the important thing is that you go to the school that is best for your future. your grades are very important for any kind of college degree. Which means the you need to be driven to exceed.

It is totally okay to quit the catholic school and right away.

points with your dad are that probably cost him alot of money to enroll you. my thoughts are that he didnt know that you didnt understand it is religion based. i find that odd but im not in the middle of it.

ask him what things that he knew were not going to work out for him and have your mom there for back up

Answer 4

Starting at a new school is really, really hard. Is this the first time you've ever had to do it? It usually takes much longer than 2 weeks to settle into a new school. I think you should give it another week or 2 before making a decision. You might have more work to catch up on, but it will be worth it to know that you made the right decision.

When I changed schools for year 11, it took me a whole year to make friends. But then by year 12, I was settled, and I actually had the best year of my whole life!

Nobody can make the decision for you, but I think in another week or 2 it might be clearer to you what is best. Dont worry too much about your parents, they will want to see you happy. Good luck

Answer 5

Your parents are going to be proud of you no matter what. The private school may possibly give you a better education, but you'll do badly anyway if you don't enjoy it. So either give it another week or two and see if it gets any better or go back. Where ever your more comfortable and happy is the place you'll do best in.

Answer 6

you're just culture shocked. ok? soon you'll make good friends too. you can do it. don't go out of a private school, it'll give you a better education for sure. try one week more, make the best out of it then if you really can't then explain to your father :D

Answer 7

You don't list what your motivation was in wanting to go to the private school. I mean you say," for some weird reason" I wanted to go to private school but, there has to be a concrete reason that you thought of it at all in the first place. Did you think you were going to get a better eduction? Did you think it would help you get into a better college? Was there bad stuff happening at your old school? Without knowing what your reason was for wanting to go it is really difficult to give you good advice on whether to stay or not! Without that, the best I can say is that transitions are hard. especially at your age. I've known many kids who really struggled with the first month transition to private school and all the differences ie; new kids, expectations curriculum etc. But, after getting through this rough transition they were all grateful to be able to have a better education and made new friends and had experiences that wouldn't have been available in their old situation. having said that, i really think you need to re-examine your reasons for wanting to be there i the first place. it might help to write down the pros and cons for being there. I would also set some time centered goals for yourself. as in- I will embrace this new school and it's curriculum fully for the next 2 weeks and then reevaluate where I want to be. You haven't really given yourself a chance to try and settle in and see if you can be happy in that environment yet. You may find that after 2 weeks you are doing better, you are finding things more positive and will have had a chance to meet some other girls. I am sure there are other girls who are struggling with their first year there also and you may be able to bond and help each other through this rough patch and end up with some new great friendships!

Try setting the time goal for yourself and try and get involved in some of the things that are happening at your new school. After you get to the end of your time goal (2 weeks min.) re-evaluate. If you are still miserable then at least you gave it a good shot. If you have started to be more comfortable and found some positive aspects then set up a new time goal. Don't make your decision on whether old friends (? friends shouldn't judge) will judge you or if you will be disappointing your dad. Make your decision on what is going to be the best place for you to support your short and long-term goals. Good luck to you!