Please help. I'm so confused.?

Question

I'm sorry its long but I need some advice. (I'll give ten points too)

OK for some weird reason I wanted to go to a Private All girls catholic high school. So i did. lol

I've been there for two weeks, and I'm miserable there. I've been crying a lot ever since I went there. I'm not making any friends, and I'm not catholic. There's like religion in every class, and I didn't know that so I feel very awkward.

My old public school started two days ago. I really want to go there. I told my parents that. My mom is fine with it, but I think my dad is really upset. He said that I shouldn't give up so soon and like i cant run away from my problems. But I'm not happy there!

So should I go to public or Private? I would stay at private for another week or so, but then they'll be all loaded up with work,and I would be so far behind.

Also, I'm worried if I go back to public everyone there is going to call me a quiter and give me a hard time.

Please help! thanks..

the main thing is is that I don't want to make my dad upset. I want them to be proud of me!

Answer 1

I agree with the other poster, you should be happy and in a environment that you feel the most comfortable because you retain more knowledge.

also, a quitter is someone who quits. not faces pressure and pushes through it(i.e. facing your peers when  going back). Weigh all options and good luck.

Answer 2

My advice is do what you want to do! Decide your self1 Dont depend on some other for these small things. It is the first step to success in your life. You should start making decession on your own so that you will know what it is and in future you will become a good decession maker so that you grow in your career.

Good luck  

Answer 3

ermmmm this is britain public school and private school are the same things, do you mean state school ?

Answer 4

As it does at all new schools it takes a while for you to settle in (especially an all girls school). Id try staying for as long as you can and as friendly as possible, try talking to everyone and talk about their interests (try and focus conversations on them as they feel like you care for them) eventually I am sure you will find some great friends with the same interests as you.

Answer 5

Why wouldn't they be proud if you dont succeed in a regular school?

If anything real parents would understand that private school isnt for you, Talk to them!!

Answer 6

I started high school at a Catholic school where my oldest brother went. I was the only person from my primary school who was accepted, and I hated it. My parents made me a deal- I had to finish out the term and then make my mind up. I chose to go to the public school where my friends and other brother were. I left school in year 11 because I had an opportunity to travel and when I came back I found a job where one of the Catholic school girls also worked. She lasted 2 weeks before she was fired (and is now on the dole), I have been there 7 years and am now one of the senior staff members at only 23. Moral of the story is: You will work well when you are happy. Do not let anyone else's feelings influence your decision. My Dad was disappointed too, but now I have a job that I love and I'm furthering my studies, he couldn't be prouder. I'm also now friends with some of the girls from the Catholic school! Good luck with whatever decision you make :-)

Answer 7

Well... I don't think you should do anything but if you want to do it. You mustn't be motivated by making your parents proud, even if it isn't a bad thing to do, but by what you feel and want to do.

On the other hand, you took a decision. You wanted to go to a catholic school, and you went. You should now assume the consequences of your decision, you can't run away, even if it's hard not to.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Maybe you could change to a non-catholic all girls’ private school?

In my experience even the Church of England schools don't have much religion except in religion classes.

Of coarse I don't know where you are and you might not have them where you are.

But just see if you can change to a different Girls private school. Different people too.

Your dad will still be proud of you because you would be changing for religious reasons not giving up.

Don’t worry about workload I’m sure you can make it work they would be unreasonable to expect you to do what had already been due.

You almost have to want to fail to not do well in one of them.

But truthfully I think you need to give a school at least one term to know if it’s for you.

I think you should put in your applications for a non catholic girls school starting next term or semester and persevere where you are. You never know by the end of the term you might have made some great friends then you can cancel the appointment or you can say you ‘gave it a good go, thanks, but it’s not for you’ and move on.

But while your there have fun try a new environment enjoy the school uniform and the different way that people judge you.  It’ll be an experience you will remember and an set of opinions that you will be able to validate with experience for the rest of you life.

Answer 9

I think that you should go back to public school.. I mean if your not happy in the private school you might get upset and be behind your school work, causing your mum and dad more upset. Don't worry about people calling you a quitter, you might have friends there to support you. So be happy =]

Answer 10

maybe give it a bit more time.. like a couple more months or somthing and see how it goes and then if you still wanna change back then tell your dad at least touve tried again and you really want to go back to public school!!

and people wont make fun of  you when you get back!! im sure of it!! xxxxx

Answer 11

i don't understand why your parents would enroll you in a catholic school, if you are not catholic. If it were me, just talk with your parents and tell them it was a bad idea to begin with and that you are sorry for wanting to try something new. Go back to your public school and just attend Sunday services with your parents to a church that is your religion. I'm sure it would make your father proud for speaking what you feel as well as leaving the religion in your life. it's like a win win situation.  

Answer 12

Your dad is likely just upset because you pushed so hard to go to the Catholic school and now after 2 weeks you want to change your mind.  I'm surprised it didn't occur to you that religion classes would be on the curriculum since it is a Catholic school and you should have been given a list of courses required prior to enrolling.  Having said that, if you are that unhappy and you don't see that changing then switch to the other school now.  Nobody will think you are a quitter for doing that.  If people say anything just tell them you realized you made a mistake by going to the other school and leave it at that. It will be forgotten in no time and really it is not an issue anyway.  If you do change schools you will be there for the duration of high school since you cannot keep changing schools.  You likely will be happier at the new school since you probably already know people there.  

Answer 13

I go to a catholic middle school (going into high school) and I'm not catholic either. I love it. I would stay there, maybe try an after-school extracurricular. Don't worry, you'll make friends, I promise :)

Answer 14

you dont wanna be somewhere where you arent happy.

i mean, your dad may be upset, but its not him who's miserable there is it?

explain this to him and im sure he'll understand.

:)

Answer 15

   You made a decision. You need to give it your best effort. If you decide after that to go to public school for the next year, your Dad will consider your choice as being mature and you will have proven to him and yourself, that you are capable of handling change and challenge. It also will prove you are adult enough to make decisions and live with the consequences. That means your Dad will give you more freedom to choose on other things. Besides, a whole bunch of others your age are doing okay at the school and you are just as capable right?

   You aren't happy. It might not be any better in public school.

If you weren't happy in the 10th grade, does that mean you can go back to the 9th grade? After just two weeks? Ever?

   Even though there may be an element of religious behavior in each class, you are not expected to covert to Catholicism and the class will concentrate on its discipline (math, english etc.) as its primary function.

   Your Dad, is trying to help you grow into a responsible adult and he has your best interest at heart (it probably doesn't affect him where you go to school, so it's nothing personal). Trust him. At the halfway point if you are unable to learn, unable to make new friends, he will be much more understanding and accept your assessment. AND he will be very proud of your having been responsible and to have trusted him.

Once he sees you trust him enough to do this, he'll be an easy touch for other things.

Answer 16

when i started my first job i moaned and cried to my dad i did not like and had no friends their but he said you are not thier to make friend you are thier too work and i just relaxed anyway in a while I made good friends and we went out together at lunch times and in evenings and we got really close.   Look give yourself six weeks their and if you feel no different think seriously about leaving.

You probably feel uncomtable just now and they probably notice this and it might make them feel a bit uncomthable but once you get on with one then you,ll get on with her or his friends and before you know it you will think differently so give yourself time and be brave.

When you go to work you will be with strangers, when you move to new neighbourhoods you do when you travel so its a fact of life.

Answer 17

Please.

Liar.

It says your 25, married, with a husbad who is a doctor, and pregnant with a boy.

Seriously? Pathetic.

Answer 18

that happened to me as well.

i went to an all girls catholic school and it SUCKED!

i was there a total of 9 days.

people were bitchy. none of them were friendly and i spent most of my time away crying.

i told my parents that i hated it but they wanted me to stay.

but i BEGGED them and they finally gave in.

they were really dissapointed but they could tell how much happier i was when i went back to my old school.

and all my friends were glad i was back.

i dont know your situation with the friends at your school but i know from previous experience that public is WAAAY better than private.

unless its a non-religous private school.

and with the dad thing, i found that my parents were happier when i was happier and so the dissapointment didnt show.

i dont know how strict your parents are but.

i really hoped that helped and sorry if i just bored you with my little story.

good luck :)

Answer 19

Do what makes you happy,yes you should care of what your parents think but in the end who's the one crying at night.Your miserable and it could make you sick from the stress that you have.Tell them and explain to your dad why you want to go back to public school.Private school does benefit you because of teh fact that its all girls,there is no distractions in class.Do what you want and make sure your parents understand.Oh and who cares what they think about you at your old school if you quit,what matters is what you think of yourself.

Answer 20

When I was in high school I studied at a private catholic school. But I wanted to transfer to public school since I was never admitted into one. But then, I know that I'd feel happier staying than transferring because I had my friends there. To make the long story short, do what makes you happy. But this time, be more sure of your ecision. Try to learn from your mistakes. :)

Answer 21

i dont think you should be so hard on yourself, at the end of the day, you wanted to try something new and its not working out, everyone has to learn by mistakes or experiences, i dont think you should stay there just to please your father, at the end of the day if you stay there and your unhappy your wont be able to study right and your grades might start slipping, im sure they wont mind if you go back to your old school, you can make them proud by going back and getting good grades. but you need to make your mind up before you miss to much school. good luck  

Answer 22

i made the mistake of leaving privet school because they pushed me too much and it was the worst mistake of my life.

privet school is hard but the rewards are really great , better education . stick it out for a little longer.please , take it from some wone who made the mistake of leaving.

Answer 23

why would the people at your old school call you a quitter, one of my friends went to a private school but i would love him to come back. i think you should go back to public school

Answer 24

I would do whatever makes you happy!

Tell your dad how you feel!

I go to a catholic private school as well and it doesnt really bother me that much but I have never known anything better so....

Basicly if I was you I would go backto that public school!

xoxo

Answer 25

When you go to college and get a job, which one do you want on your resume, Catholic school or your old school? And, do you want to meet boys in the future, or just hang out with a bunch of girls? Think about those 2 things very hard before you make a decision.

Answer 26

Follow your heart, your young , there are alot of bigger issues to come in your life..GL...

Answer 27

I'm studying in a Catholic school to but I'm not a catholic so I think i could help let me see,

It's really hard to transfer school and I know that after a while you'll make friends your dad wants you to have a good future so continue its for your own good