Please help? I hate being a woman! ?

Question

I hate it so much. I'll never be happy being like this. I need advice from others who feel they are stuck in the wrong bodies. I feel so sad.

Answer 1

Girlfriend, you better start praying now. God made you for a reason. Don't give in to the temptation of wanting to 'cross the road'. People are not g*y, thay just act like it.

Deny the enemy and he WILL flee from you.

But feed it, and it will grow.

Answer 2

my ex friend, kelly, is a natural tomboy.. she wears boy - like clothes and doesn't care that she's a girl

Answer 3

my boyfriend is a female to male transsexual post op, my advice is to go to you GP and they will refer you to a counsellor and that is what you have to do there is no other way that you can get surgery, that's what my boyfriend had to do, good luck

you will be taken seriously at 21, go to http://www.ftmguide.org/

Answer 4

I feel for you, sweetie.  If I could trade this d**k for a pair of b*****s I'd be a happy girl!  You'll be happy to know that FtM's (Female to Male transgenders) have a much easier time passing (being seen as you want to be) then we MtF's.  If you're not already trying, try to make yourself look like a guy.  Being seen by others as a male may make you feel better.  I know I smile whenever someone calls out "hey, "Hello, mam," to me.  Also, counciling is required for hormones and surgery so go ahead and start it if you are able.  Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

I think you should just think that you are physically female but mentally male.

Answer 6

just be a tomboy u dont have to change your body

good luck

Answer 7

Just get surgery =]

Answer 8

I know how you feel. However, I am the opposite from you. I hate being a guy and want to become a girl. Where are you from?

Answer 9

People who are telling you to jump into surgery right away like it's easy have no idea what they're talking about.

Firstly, I'd look around the internet for some FTM (female-to-male transsexual) communities and forums and start reading the information there and asking questions of the community.  They've all gone through this before and will know the steps to take to become outwardly male.  

The first thing to do is find a trans* therapist in your area and start making appointments with him/her.  Later on you can determine if you'd like to start taking testosterone and have surgery.

Answer 10

Age has nothing to do with whether you are taken seriously or not. I would suggest speaking  to your GP and asking to be put forward to a Psychosexual Counsellor or a local GIC (Gender Identity Clinic).

I was born male and I am on my journey to becoming the woman I know I am. I began my journey 3 years ago and it had taken me years to come out to myself and move forward. Several times I tried to seek professional help and then in 2006, it all became too much and I sought help.I feel loads happier. I am in my mid 30's and wish I had done this at your age!

Good luck with what ever you decide to live a long and happy life.

Luv,

Cerys xoxox

Answer 11

Sorry to hear that you are going through this tough time.  If you feel confident enough and live somewhere where it's accessible, it might be good to get some support face to face, whether that's through a support group, counsellor or whatever.  http://www.ftm.org.uk/ might be able to help, or maybe you can get to a centre for the L*****n, g*y, bisexual and transgender community?  Sometimes they run groups or offer counselling and some cater specifically for younger people in their teens or early 20s.  Having known several transpeople well I would suggest that you do a lot of thinking/talking/soul-searching before you even think about the surgery route ... I assume you're in Britain as this is a UK question, and the NHS process for getting hormone treatment and eventual surgery can be quite tough and VERY long.  You will be required to undergo assessment by a psychiatrist who will want to make very sure that you truly need to have your gender reassigned.

Answer 12

Your gender problem obviously needs explored.

Before any treatment of any kind happens, a person who feels they may be transgendered (or that they have Gender Dysphoria, which is the medical term for feeling you are in the wrong gender) would be referred to a gender specialist doctor by their GP.

Alternatively any therapist/councillor will talk to people about this problem, but beware, they dont all know anything about gender problems. Details of gender specialists can be found online and often whoever is the NHS specialist nearby to you may see you privately much quicker but obviously for a fee.

If and when any treatment commences then it is not surgery necessarily of ANY kind. People who say "get surgery" are completely wrong and misled. The first treatment a gender specialist would prescribe would be after a person is living in the role of their desired gender 24 hours a day 7 days a week, i.e. they have told their friends, family, work, university, bank, DVLA and absolutely everyone.

For F to M transgendered people, treatment begins as testosterone (injections usually) and then funding can be applied for chest surgery which could take well over a year. Privately chest surgery could be sooner but puts you out of pocket over £4000.

Lower surgery could take ages to be approved for funding, but it is not essenhysterectomiesy FtM gets or wants or needs lower surgery for whatever reason - it's a completely personal decision. Whether you're a man or not doesnt depend or what you have in your pants. F to M's often get hystorectomies too. The speed of these depends on where you live and how things are approved for funding.

21 is quite mature! There are people who are 15 saying they are positive about their gender problems. I'd be more inclined to believe a 21 year old. Your GP has to take you seriously, but ask for help, for therapy, for something. They have to help you - you dont have to be positive of what the end outcome will be for this to be the case.

Answer 13

you should consider having surgery

but this is a tough decision

think long and hard about it

because if you do get it, you can never change back

Answer 14

Hey. I'm in the the same position as you.

First off, don't rush yourself, okay? Don't expect to be able to to be certain about this stuff, secure and comfortable with it right away. Don't rush into anything. Give yourself as long as you need to think it through. Do some research online, talk to other people who identify as female-to-male (FtM) trans. Clear your browsing history if your computer is shared and you're afraid of being caught. Butch-femme.com has a supportive community of transmen who will help you out, but there's sites all over the place. Do some reading and think about what it means to you, and whether you can see yourself pursuing any of those options. Find out about hormone therapy and its effects, and what top- and bottom-surgery entails. If you have a friend who you're *certain* will be supportive, talk it through with them. If not, try to find an LGBT-friendly therapist. You don't want to be dealing with this stuff alone.

In the meantime, if you're sure about this stuff, there are ways you can make things more bearable. A lot of people don't transition, keep their female bodies but live as male perfectly convincingly. There's no reason you can't try to do this -- and you'll have to prove you can, anyway, if you do decide to go ahead with transitioning. So, in the meantime, work on making yourself into something more bearable. Stop pretending to be female for anyone else's sake -- be yourself, whatever that requires. Cut your hair, wear only guys' clothes, bind your b*****s, if you can bear it, depending on your chest size and the weather where you are. Work out, if you like doing it, and choose exercises that will give you a more masculine body shape (google it if you need help). When you're out, spend time watching guys, the way they move, speak, act. Train yourself not to walk like a girl, stop using female-only words and phrasing. Practice. You can get tips and help with it all online, and it it makes it a whole lot easier to bear when strangers start seeing you as a guy. Just lately sometimes I'm passing for *male*, rather than just a butch d**e, and it makes such a difference to your state of mind.

  Surgery's not a quick fix anyway, transitioning takes years. A lot of people begin a transition and later decide it's not for them, or react badly to testosterone, or give up because of the strain it put on family relationships -- I just mean, don't feel you have to do something *right now* to fix it straight away. It's a long process, even once you see a doctor to make that first appointment. Give yourself the time you need, and look after yourself, doing it. It's hard stuff. I hope you find a way to work things out.

Answer 15

u av problems wats nicer than being a woman u av the key to mans heart

Answer 16

I'd do some soul searching first to make sure.

and if you really feel as though your in the wrong body and truely unhappy, then do the s*x change operation. I hope you the best!

Answer 17

       I work for Whole foods for five years as a retried ASTL "Manager" now I'll let you in on some of the stranges events that may help you. I work at three stores and with the customers problems with there sexuality was by far strange enough many TV and TS walked in at given time asking for help for dry Milk to increase there breast size. I had to fire emploies for making out with the customers in the bathrooms turns out they were not sure who they were after the police show up TV Ts or Women who became Men. Many emploies I work with had friends or were present in the store going through the same  process of changing there s*x in the end they left or had themself fired for not showing up to work. They always seem confused and in the end they never were happy only short lived they felt happy for a month maybe two. I work with Men called flint,fin,Danny,teal and Grurty they were all women that were going through the same process the operation to have a p***s. What they seem they wanted the most was a friend or someone to help them or care or delovpled them. ( A weigh lifter that lives there life to become the best needs support someone to build them) I was always good at doing that help others grow. What I want is someone like you I help you you help LoL sounds nuts. This what I'm say find someone who needs your help them while they support you to feel the way were ment to be. You need a caring person to no you for you. Look around help someone to get your mind off this subject. All back to painting cavus is driyng.