Please help! MAJOR older sister problems!?

Question

My older sister is 27,And has a 4.5 year old daughter.My sister is basically a teenager on the inside.She gets SO excited when her daughter goes to leave for her grandmother's house (from her ex's side).She has no respect for my parents,or for me or my brother.I.e.My mom asked why she talks so nice & calm to my dad,and mean to her and she said ''Well if you'd give ME the respect ill give it back''.She leaves the table and brings her cellphone to the dinner table,and texts while we eat dinner.I looked through her camera, because i took a picture of her daughter and she had a pic of her a**,and it showed a piercing inside.My niece told me ''That's mommys Piercey in her booty''.I was like..Nice.She has a really bad influence on her daughter,because she lets her listen to rap music and my niece goes around singing ''I got my drink n my 2 step''. I told my sister she should listen to some kiddy music like Kidz bop.And she's like I'm HER mother.She went into my room and searched my closet

Answer 1

Tell your sister that she needs to get her mind right, tell her to grow up and live outta her little fantasy that she's obviously raised her daughter in. Tell her everything you want to tell her but in a nice way. Maybe your mom shouldn't have her at the house unless ur sis will let y'all take teach her brat some lessons.  Good luck!

Answer 2

There may be underlying issues with your parents and her that you do not understand but if you think she is really doing something wrong then video tape her and her daughter together and show it to her. If she has a heart then she will see the wrong way she is leading her daughter, or maybe she won't. Parenting is hard and there are no real right or wrong decisions but it does sound like she is quite immature so I would try that I actually had to do it to my own sister who is younger and she snapped out of it right away. Good luck

Answer 3

whats wrong with hip/hop?? or aleast let her listen R&B???

Answer 4

My sister was and is kinda the same way. She's the wild child. We don't love her any less, and  she was not raised wrong we were all raised the same. I used to try and change her too, but there is one thing that you'll learn and that is that you cannot change some who does not want to be changed. The more you try and change her, the more she would rebel against what tell her. What I've learned is that people who don't learn from warnings will have to learn from experience. That means you'll have to let her make her own mistakes, that is the only way she would learn. Life is going to have to be her teacher. It'll be hard to watch someone you love go through tough times, but it'll be necessary. And instead of saying I told  you so, you should be there to let her know that you love her and you'll stand by her in her troubled times.

Answer 5

no offense, but what u've written makes me imagine u as a very naive, rather dumb person easily influenced by ur parents. ready to bite on ANYTHING to imagine herlself better than the big sister u've been trying to match growing up. u want to bring her down a notch in ur mind. looking for all sorts of excuses.

and u also sound 80 years old. what u say ur sister's doing doensn't seem like some major crime. it seems like she's having lots of problems in her life and she also has unresolved issues with ur parents that might as well be their fault, too. u, on the other hand, seem like a b.itchy prude and a brainwashed brat to boot. sorry. express urself better next time if u want some kind of sympathy and advice.

u're like the cocky straight A student being all judgemental. get a life.

Answer 6

I think you need to see things through her eyes first. Just try to think about why she would act like that. You also should show her something that will snap her back into reality. Maybe a little video clip of things that kids that grow up like her kids do such as drugs, drinking, and stuff like that. Also tell her how it is affecting the family, everyone just sit down and talk to her about what you feel she's doing and where she will end up if she continues. All she needs is something to bring her into the world of adulthood. If that doesn't help, try counseling for her. Maybe she still has some issues deep down that you may not realize.

good luck, just show her some love

Answer 7

Just tell her face-2-face that her lifestyle really disturbs you. Tell her that you may not be a mother but you have a lot of common sense. Try also to have sisterly talks to her at least monthly. These talks can be about anything. And since her lifestyle bothers you so much, you can start of with that. I hope your sister calms down a little bit (and takes that piercing out of her butt, I didn't even know they could do that. Yuck!)

Answer 8

she's gonna have to grow up sooner or later, and the more you feed her ego by getting angry the more she's gonna be immature.  Dont let you bother you and keep a lock on your room..

Answer 9

Tell her if she wants her daughter life better than her she better change her habits and fast.

Answer 10

Why is your sister still living at home when she is 27 and has her own child???

Tell your mum to tell her to start paying rent and half the bills. I bet she moves out soon enough.

As for the respect, she doesn't have any as she is so self centred. Your family has catered to her for too long and she now thinks she rules the house.

Tell her to get out and get a job and support herself and her daughter