Please help! My mom won't stop harassing me and my boyfriend at our homes. ?

Question

I live with my son and lives with his parents and gets his kids on the weekends. Anyway my mom doesn't want me with him but were both over thirty and she doesn't care. I am moving and changing my phone number but she said she'll find it anyway. She calls me and leaves threatening messages and say's she's going to slap him if he's at my house. She recently went to his home and told his mom that he better stay away and she also told his kids bad things about their dad. She's out of control but she is still my mother. We've had enough! Please help.

Answer 1

thats not okay i dont what i would do

Answer 2

She sounds crazy. Get a restraining order. Mom or not, you don't have to put up with that because you passed through her vaginal canal.  

Answer 3

Does she have reason to not like your boyfriend?  Does he have a criminal record, is he ever abusive and have a poor job history?  If so, that's probably why she's doing this.

If she leaves threatening messages on the phone, you can turn her in.  Remember one thing - family is forever and she'll always be your mom.

How many boyfriends have you had in the last 15 years???  I suspect this one won't be around in five years, but your mom will.  Think this over very carefully before you act.  You can get a restraining order is there is cause, but like I said - she'll always be your mom.

I hope there is a way for you to calm this situation down without going to the authorities.  Have you tried making time once or twice a month for you and your kids (without the boyfriend) to spend time with her?  Maybe that would help.  Just a thought.  Good luck.

Answer 4

I would get a restraining order against her, get it legally on paper so if she does do anything stupid.  Has she been to someone to talk to for her issues?  It sounds totally unstable to me.  I know she is your mother but she should not be butting into your life like that and its very cruel

Answer 5

Sounds as if mom is more than a little unstable.

Nothing good can come from letting her slide on this just because she's your mom. She's stalking him, by going to his house.. harassing both of you, terrorizing small children, the woman is way out of bounds.

You say she's leaving threatening messages, good! Save them, and let the police hear them! She could very well be unbalanced just enough TO carry them out, or worse.. take it too far.

I mean, I have heard of controlling mothers, but yours takes the cake. You can't deal with her on your own, or she would already have stopped her behavior. Time for some outside help from the police, and maybe some counselors for mom.

Do it for mom, she obviously needs help and doesn't see fit to get it herself. Do it for you, so you can live in peace.  

Answer 6

Doesn't matter if she's your mom, this is harrasment. Get the heck away from her and call the cops if she goes overboard.

Answer 7

Tell her shes your mom and you love her but this has to stop. Its horrible shes telling your boyfriends kids bad stuff about him.Tell her that if this doesn't stop than you will report this to the police or get a restraining order against her.After you say this just get up and leave so she knows you are serious and not just saying things.