Please help!!! What do you think of this situation?!!!?

Question

I came across a funny transaction on my Fiance credit card statement. After futher investigation, i found that the expense/money spent was at a brothel!!!

The date the transaction went through was two days after we got engaged over the weekend. We usually spend weekends together and i probably would have spent that weekend together too.

I questioned him about the transaction and i was really upset but he said that he lent his credit card to his bestfriend, who dosnt have a credit card nor a girlfriend as he wanted to get his rocks of.

I dont know wether i should beleive him. We were sexually active the couple of days before that transaction and there is a possibility that he was with me...but i dont know if i should trust him or not...

This happend in Feb and i found out two months ago. He proposed on Valentines day 14th Feb and the transaction was on the 16th.

He vows that it was his friend and that he was with me. Pls help....we have been planning a wedding and this has made me unhappy and has lead me lose my trust in him. His friend wanted to talk to me and tell me that it was him and he has caused this mess but i dont want to talk to him.

What is your opinion? Would you give your CC to a freind to go to a brothel guys ?We have been together for 8 years now and have a home together(bought as an investment, we dont live together)!!!

Thank You in advance.

Answer 1

WOW!!! Whats next you find out you have syphilis a week after your married! Even if he was having clod feet... going to a w***e house is not a way to deal with it!  This was not a spare of the moment thing, this maybe a habit of his! If you really want to look past this I would defiantly consider getting counseling for ya ll, before this becomes deeper issue!

Answer 2

Funny how "the best friend" is always the answer...."Oh, the voicemail/text/p**n/credit card statement w/brothel charges....was actually for my best friend".  Puleeez.  The best friend is the only thing they can come up with.  The truth is, your fiance went to a brothel the weekend you guys got engaged, because getting engaged means he's now fully committed to just one woman (and that means s*x with only that woman).

Think about it....why on earth would anyone lend someone their credit card to someone, and if so, why wasn't it for food, movies, new clothes?  And I'm sure the best friend has his own credit card, right?

I would have a talk with your fiance....you guys are already very committed and have a lot invested, including the home.  Get him to tell truth and ask him why, was he getting nervous about the upcoming wedding?  If that's all it was, and he's really not a player otherwise, I would stick this relationship out.  Good luck.

Answer 3

It sounds fishy to me.  For a start, you need to sign for CC transactions, so how did it even get approved if the friend used it and had to sign for it?  And why didn't your fiance just tell you before you saw it to save problems later on?

Why don't you want to talk to his friend?  It seems to me like you're convinced your fiance is lying to you.  Maybe you should ask the friend one on one (face to face) and gauge from the way he talks/looks at you as to whether he is lying.

It's a tough one, but if you don't trust your fiance, there's a problem from the start.  But, if you were together at the time the transaction went through, it's unlikely that it was your fiance at the brothel.

It's all a bit strange but I hope you get to the bottom of it and it works out for the best!

Answer 4

wow this is a hard one to say. hmmm.... maybe he did let his frined have his CC. also maybe his frined gave him the money to put on the CC and he could take the CC to go to the place.

Answer 5

smells like c**p, looks like c**p, by golly- it is c**p. You should be more concerned about the lying than the hooker. Who gives his friend his credit card to use at a whorehouse? NO ONE! Hooker would prefer cash I am sure.

What's worse than 8 years is 9. Bye bye. Thank god you weren't married.

Answer 6

its possible, but seems unlikley

Answer 7

He's lying.  What a bummer.  I'm sad for you.

If he were lending his credit card to a friend for that loser to go buy some s*x, he would have told you.  He knows you see the credit card statement, right?

What's fishy about your story is that usually those "brothels" have a fake/nonsuspicious name on the credit card statement so that wives and girlfriends don't get suspicious.  So how do you know what it's for?