Please help!!! Why the mixed messages?

Question

I'm soooo confused. I'm really introverted and I don't understand these confusing signals. Why do ppl say good things about me but don't want to hang out with me and/or mistreat me. For ex., there's this one girl from high school. That has told me severat times I"m the sweetest person she ever meet, but rarely returns my messages (she's really outgoing and she doesn't do this to everyone). There's another person that yawns when I call, and drops hints until I end the conversation but I was a top friend on myspace for both of them, out of over 100 friends. The priest recently started another position. I over to help him pack, and he told me I was a good soul but he never tries to contact me and ignores over half of my messages. This happens a lot. I normally don't communicate with people I'm sort of a loner.

Answer 1

It seems all those people want to give you more self esteem.. they want to tell you that you are a good person but maybe they are not real friends.. just people who want to let you know''  don't be a loner, you got something to offer, you are a nice guy.. so go and meet other people.. if they yawn when you phone that's kind of rude but it also conveys a message.. you phone too often.. they probably just want to tell you you are a nice person but are not genuine friends.. you should believe in yourself and others have told you that you have a good personality.. so why don't you join a club.. meet new people .. a hobby club or a sports club.. where you meet some people of your age group and just be open minded and friendly.. and talk to them and perhaps you make friends with some.. don't try to be clingy.. but be interested.. then they are more likely to contact you back and want to meet you also on other occasions.. You try too hard with the others.  by phoning them and emailing them.. they never seem to phone you or email you so it's one sided.. it has to be give and take... to make a friendship.. so forget about those. and make new friends.. show that you are approachable and interested but don't phone them or email them..  you should communicate with people.. just not phone all the time when you never get the others to phone back.. that indicates they aren't interested..so talk more when you are with others and email and phone only when you know the friendship is really reciprocated..when they, too, make an effort to invite you to join them or when they phone you .... xx

Answer 2

yeah...ow i know what you mean. you could always ask them, if you are brave/trusting in your friendship enough. i mean, yawning? ouch. but top 100 myspace surely means something. so yeah i would try to ask them about it casually , you know?

Answer 3

Ohmyfreakofchickennature!  I so have the same problem.  E-mail me and I might be able to tell you what is up!!