Please help about life

Question

hi thanks to all for helping. being a teen is very hard. trying to fit into school, making new friends. my friends are very good to me but the only thing is that in the summer time they cant hang out more the 2 times in one month which is very odd. and in school time in a couple of weeks well we dont have any classes so i said we should call and hang out more and they said ya but I'm busy so i dont know. i dont know what to do about that, i might have lunch alone again ( in the libray) because no one is going to be in my lunch period ( lucky me ). and I'm extremely bored and i really want to do something. all i do all day is hmm sleep, eat, clean.. ( how fun) i want a job but of course no matter where i looked you need to be older and have experience... I'm not saying my life is bad but I'm saying it could be a little better. i feel lonely, depressed and very bored. i want to go out but i cant ( since mom works and we only go out sometimes and brother has a life since hes 23 ). what can i do to stop being sad. because when i watch a funny movie or something else i love to do i feel happy but then the happiness goes away. i dont know why maybe because ( my father passed away when i was in middle school and in middle school i used to get picked on all the time :[ ) so i feel that something bad is going to happen next just like that. what can i do? i used to talk to guidance counselors but they made things worst for me. they didn't help at all. i dont like to cry, but i am now. what can i do to stop being so sad and depressed? why cant happiness stay longer for me? i dont need medicines or a doctor because I'm not crazy but teen life is too hard !!! stupid PMS ( girl thing ) ok thank you for reading all of this and helping. :]

Answer 1

Oh sweetie, i am sooooo sorry. oh, i think you have clinical depression. I am so sorry. I wish i could help you. :'( I think you should join a school club. sorry to hear about your father. why isn't your mom around? you should tell her that you feel bad and maybe she can help you. if you have grandparents why dont you think of moving with them for a while? it would be good for you. Think about it: hard candy, macaroni and cheese, milk and cookies! If that doesn't help you should think about joining band class, it gets you scholarships, friends, and you get out of gym! :) Don't cry. Things will get better. How old are you? Try working at a grocery store. They hire 14 year olds to bag groceries. Save up enough money so you could buy a car and drive yourself to church! it would be good for you. Pray every night and things will get better. I hope these things work for you. Next time you are about to cry, pray. :) Don't Cry.

Answer 2

i know what you mean, being a teenager is really hard! My parents got divorced before I was two and I don't remember living with my mom and dad under ONE roof, not two. Every now and then I always think about how life would be different if they weren't divorced and other things too. I always find my self wishing about so many things, and I know they'll never come true. I had a really bad school year this past one, and it made things really tough for me. Anyway, I know how tough life can be and i still have yet to have on good day. I can't remember one day where somemthing didn't go wrong. So as you can see, I feel your pain. All we can do is stick together and go through the pain together, Of what I know, there isn't any way to really feel happy for a long time, it's never happened to me before. So if you'd like to talk to somone about anything, and are willing to hear someone else talk to you about anything and everything, please do e-mail me. Click on my picture or name to the left, and I would be so happy if you e-mailed me!

We gotta stick together :-)

Answer 3

hey. thanks for your answer to my question.

my advice is this: buy a notebook. make it your personal rants and raves. just start writing anything that comes into your head. especially when you're sad or happy because then you can look back at what you were doing when you were happy and try to avoid what you were doing when you were sad.

find some music that really touches your soul. if you get sad play the music at least until you don't feel as sad anymore.

find a good book you can lose yourself in. the nice thing about books is they last longer than movies and let you process things that upset you without obsessing over them.

join a club. it sounds like you're still in highschool. even if they sound stupid, the friendships you can make in dance clubs, academic clubs, church groups can last for a long time and help to supplement your other friendships. i'm sorry to hear about your father. i believe in you, just learn how to love yourself and instead of wallowing in your current predicament try to brainstorm on how to improve the future.

love.

Answer 4

don't worry I think that it's just because your a teen.  don't worry about anything bad happening in your new year at school because it's not like every year something bad needs to happen. I am so sorry about your dad! :( and just don't take any c**p from anybody. ignore them if they pick on you.  like I said I'm still going through this myself so this might not be the best bit of info your gonna get.....but I hope I helped!  

Answer 5

I agree you are not crazy in the least.  You may want to consider a small dose of antidepressants.  I take them and it has made a world of difference in my life.  I am more outgoing, even temper, nothing really bothers me now.  I live my life and enjoy it immensily.

I would go see a psychiatrist and see what he recommends.

Answer 6

Your life is largely what you make it to be.  Be creative - seek out the person in class that everyone makes fun of and give them sympathy and support.  Or find the person who really really struggles just to get passing grades and see if you can help and encourage them.  In helping others you will find you are really helping yourself.  God bless you.

Answer 7

You should try to make new friends where you can, when you can't be with your other friends. Even if you have to force yourself out there. And maybe you know you friends moms need a babysitter or something. Or ask your friends if they know anyone who needs a babysitter. That's always the easiest way to make money. And who knows, maybe you'll meet new people?!