Please help any tips on how to win back wifes heart..?

Question

OK lots happened and my wife said i have changed... with good reasons but them mean nothing now ive decided to leave the past in the past trust and not worry or bring it up anymore. So ive made a the changes she has needed except 1.. she want the man back she fell in love with and now after all this drama im finally ready in my mind to do whatever it takes to keep my woman..just dont know how or where to start beside just being sweet and not arugring with her about anything .. just saying ok and support her no matter what.. question is i need some tips on how to turn time back 2 years and become the old me... ive really let all of the past go this time because in my mind im ready but how to start over agian... i need to show her not just tell her this time... she will need proof of this how do i give it to her? show her thats she truly all that matters... i need to win her heart back...

Answer 1

In the sense that wrongs were done and minds and hearts were lost to the abiss of going down the wrong choice I sould agree

Answer 2

First you have to realize this takes time and patience.  This isn't going to happen quickly, it may take months or even a year or so.  Often the key to winning someones heart is in he little things.  Holding hands, teasing, kissing, taking her on dates, taking time to just talk to her and listen to her.  She isn't expecting you to never disagree with her or agree to everything she says because then you would just be a wimp and a person who is doing stuff just to be with her.  She wants you to be the man who does stuff because he loves her and enjoys doing those things.  The other thing you need to do is get rid of all your assumptions about her.  Treat her more like someone you just met in terms of exploring who she is and what she likes.  Over the years we often forget that our spouse changes as well.

Answer 3

Actions speak louder then words.

Start with one day at a time,,,,

Answer 4

I would think only time will take care of some of it.

It would help if you two got out and had fun together. Start dating again, my husband and I make a point of doing this. We do stuff like we did when we were dating. We go to museums, we over night in nearby towns, we go out to dinner together, we walk hand in hand through different malls, to the movies, we go walking in the park and sit eating sandwichs just talking, we for long drives.

You know life gets way to serious and you HAVE TO make time to laugh together and have fun. People grow, they change an it is impossble to be the same person but go out together, laugh and you will remember why you fell in love.  

It works, give it a try.

Answer 5

i truly wish you good luck with this one,

never go back is my motto because in my mind people can't change and the deep scars mentally or physically never go away. :(

so be lucky your not my husband.

but you know your wife and her limitations so i think you know what to do deep in your heart.

problem is when people change they dont usually stick with it they soon go back to who they became when it all went wrong?

Answer 6

the VERY FIRST THING you need to do, is realize that you cannot turn back time, you seem too focused on your past, believe it or not. Its great to start over, but its YOU that needs to focus on YOU. You should go and talk to a professional counselor, a man, who may have a better understanding of the problems youve had. It will show your wife, youre making a sincere effort and help you deal with whats been done. Dont be one of these guys that says "oh i dont need to see someone for help, i'm too macho...too proud, blah blah blah", it takes a bigger man to seek help when help is needed. You can also suggest that you set aside 15 minutes a day, per day, to discuss with your wife the days events, that way things never build up into a problem. Is there something that happened today that needs addressing? Anything, it will also reteach you how to communicate. Now, i dont know what you did, what has happened. If you cheated on her ,well then, forget all the above, (that is my opinion only, as to me thats a done deal, its over). but you didnt give the details really. You also need to know HOW to argue, Arguing is good. But you dont raise your voices, you sit calmly and discuss the issues. If she starts yelling you need to point that out, nicely, sweetly as you say. As yourself, are you sure youre still "in love" with her?? if your not, or she is not, then theres no point, less than 5 percent ever get that back in a marriage once its gone.

Do things around the house, make it habit. Cook dinner for her a few times a week, BUT not just for a few weeks, dont do anything for a "month",  you need to keep it up, A successful marriage is a full time job and requires full time effort to make it last and grow better. Good luck

Answer 7

First, you can't worry or turn back the past...you can only move forward.

Second, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!

Third, STOP TRYING SO HARD....be yourself that's what first won her heart anyways!! Don't call as much - don't try to date her everynite either....just be more spontaneous...and remember do you (meaning still hang out with your friends and stuff...just don't be so d**n obvious)

Fourth, remember she still has feelings for the other dude so understand that when trying to get her back.  Don't get upset because remember you are the one that made her have feelings for the other dude.  Just try to be like her other dude on the side (if you understand what I am saying)

Fifth, Have fun with her like you use to - try not to bring up the past...do silly stuff together like go-kart racing/put put golf/ the arcade or a carnival......

Sixth, don't EVER EVER bring up the other dude she has feelings for because that will only ruin what you are trying to do....Basically don't be concerned about the next dude only be concerned about yourself!!!

For some reason its a turn off when a guy is trying to get at you and he brings up or asks about who or what man is already in your life....Don't worry about that if you are trying to steal me away....just act like you are the only one in her life......trust me!!

Good Luck!!

Answer 8

Dude...I know how this is going to sound...but unless you can satisfy her in bed...you will not be prince charming...go down on her and make her see fireworks again...Take Care

Answer 9

congratulation to you, remember how you met your woman in the first place, remember that passion you both had for each other an how you created that passion, passion never dies just needs to be rekindle, you have come from your heart to let her know you are very sincere that you want things to work for the better of your marriage, remember she had your back, now its time for you  to show her that you got hers. prove your you have to work in harmony with each other

Answer 10

Well I am sure everyone is telling you it is best to move on. I think as well it is best to move on, but I realize that can be easier said then done. It is easy for us to say move on, but until we walk in your shoes we should not jump to say such things. But if you absolutely feel that your wife is worth it and you are not just ready to throw in the towel, then here are a few tips that you may find useful to win back her heart.

1.First of all ask yourself “Why did the relationship go bad?” was it really something you did? Or was it something she did? Or was it something you both did?  Most likely it was something you both did, but for now let’s just focus on what you did wrong. Ask yourself “What changes can I make with myself to make us both happy?” What are her concerns about you? What changes did she want you to make? So the first step would be to take into consideration her concerns, then perhaps try to make those necessary changes in your life. Once she sees positive changes in you, this could be a plus in winning back her heart.

2.Play hard to get. Sometimes when a person knows you want them so bad, they take your love for granted. So, if you are always chasing them they do not get to realize what they are missing. I think you should perhaps take a step back, let her miss you, let her wonder. Let her see you are strong even though we know deep down you are weak for her. After a while when she sees you are not chasing her like you used to, she will start to wonder. And if you are lucky she will start to miss you and want you back in her life.

3.Get yourself together! You are most likely falling apart and falling apart is not attractive. If you are falling apart at the seams and this new man seems all strong, who is she going to want? The man that got him self together. So keep it together;  join a gym, get a makeover. Next time she sees you, let her see a new and improved you. Let her see a man that is confident, strong, s**y and in control.

4.Take things slow. You will have to ease yourself back into her heart and you don’t be to overbearing. Go on dates but keep them casual. Try to court her slowly but follow her lead. If she is not responding to your leads then this is perhaps a sign to slow things down even more and take things one step at a time. Focus on being her friend more then anything and getting her back comfortable and trusting of you.

5. Lastly, keep busy! Don’t sit around the house moping, waiting for her call. Trust me she is not sitting around waiting for you. So in the mean time try to connect with close friends and family. Or go out and make new friends, this will help you keep your mind off her a little bit. This will also help the time go by while you wait for her to make up her mind. As well, you never know who you will meet out there, you may find someone who has even greater potential, you never know.

But good luck, I hope this helps.

Answer 11

Actions are everything.  Be yourself and if that is not good enough for her move on!