Please help big problem!!!!???

Question

I have a little sister that's 14 and she wants to have a baby really bad. She told me that she has s*x with her boyfriend 5 times a day to try and get pregnant. She doesn't use condoms. She got caught in school having s*x. I'm really worried about her. Our mother passed away a while ago, and our father is never home because he's always working. Please, i don't know what to do.

Answer 1

well some people want babies becasue they think that they are the best thing in the world nd that they would be able to handle it. well they pretty much dont no the harm that a baby can have in yor life.

like going through high school with everybody making fun of you, the responsibility of tking care of one, the hurt from the giving of birth, the 9 months of labor, the time that takes up, which means less and less time hanging out with friends and boyfriends, your family knowing what you have done, and knowing that when yor child grows up shell know that the mother had a baby early, which always makes problems. if the parents dont know about this, them have  talk with your sister about these issues, because having a baby is not something that you can give back. usually the people that do those kinds of stuff have never really realized the negative things about this problem. most people go into depression and suicidal thoughts because of baby issues. may be the real reason she wants to have a baby is because shes having problems of her own and doesnt no how to deal with them. the baby jsut might be the thing she needs to spend tim with because she has noone to talk to or spend time with. she has a whole life ahead of her, she shouldnt have to ruin it now. no need to rush things. hope i could help.

Answer 2

talk to her about it seriously. don't plead or beg, let her know that you want the best, but you wont be there to get her out of her mess.

talk to her school councilor and preferably her boyfriend.

make them aware of the consequences.

talk to your dad, or it will be your fault if something happens to her when he could prevented it.

good luck.

Answer 3

TELL HER she is to young to have a baby and for having s*x 14 is sooooooo young that is not right  

Answer 4

Maybe tell a neighbor or another adult you trust. If you go to church, ask a youth minister about it or even a good teacher at school. Dont handle this on your own, she sounds like she needs help and also if she has a baby she wont be able to support it, only bein 14. She may even have to drop out of school which is not good.

Answer 5

Put her on the Maury show when they have those episodes about teens who are out f control and who want to have a baby.I have seen a lot of those episodes and 99.999% of those girls change their ways

Answer 6

this  is  what my  brother  said you should do:scare the guy shes having  s*x with .you should also drive her to and  from school.tell the guys father that their having s*x.he also said you should  beat her up if she's still trying.and if every thing else fails send her to move with a relative.

Answer 7

take her to planned parenthood

Answer 8

Ok you cant approach her like a mom you have to approach her like a friend. Most girls want a baby at a young age because they know that no matter what the baby will love them no matter who or what they are. Its a form of security to some girls or so they think. I am a young mom and i love my children but if i could do it over i would have waited. It is so hard, i have not went out in 4 years. I dont have any friends because they are all enjoying the young years with no kids. I have no car, and i am a stay at home mom with 2 kids. Its not exactly how i pictured it. Plus the father of my first child left us because he was too young too which is what would happen to her. You need to explain to her that if she had a child right now it would ruin her life. It would make everything so much for difficult. She would have to continue school and get a job and stay up late nights with a crying baby. Also explain to her having a child at such a young age puts her and the baby at risks for many complications. Ask her if she has a child with down syndrome..is she ready to handle that? Is she ready to get up in the morning and go days without a shower or social interaction, no sleep, sometimes hardly any food. Its not just like in the movies it is a full on commitment to this child who depends on her. How can she raise someone when she is still being raised. If you cant get through to her you need to find someone you can trust to intervene and stop this.  

Answer 9

She is having problems adjusting to your mothers passing (I am sorry to hear that).  Talk to your Dad or school counselor about getting her some professional help.  She sounds like she needs supervision until the counseling starts working and she learns to have more respect for herself and make better choices.

Some planned activities with supervision would keep her out of trouble.  Do you have a nearby relative who is willing to spend some quality time with her on a daily basis?  Or family friend (adult)?

I've included a link to Big Brothers and Big Sisters, Planned Parenthood and Family Counseling.  I would suggest contacting these agencies as soon as possible.

Be there for your sister as much as you can.  Listen to her concerns and love and support her.  Schedule some activities to do together. But remember, you are not the parent, and your Dad does not expect you to be.

I hope things get better soon.  Good Luck to you all!  

Answer 10

ask her why she wants to become pregnant

she may have this wish b/c she is without a stable parent figure and she's lonely, so she wants companionship by having a baby

be there for her

be her mother and her father when he's not there

comfort her when she's lonely and give her advice

just show that you care

hope it works out!

Answer 11

wot teenager isnt disrespectful?? u must be so worried she needs 2 no that avin a baby isnt easy , y dont u get her 1 of them virtual babys i see how she deals wid that, also tell her she is breaking the law avin s*x underage, i hope u sort it out

Answer 12

Wow... the only thing you can do is talk to her... try to convince her that she should wait because if she has a baby now not only will it be hard on her being a teen mom but it could also be hard for her daughter when people find out the age of her mother... I hope this helps

Answer 13

WoW its illegal to do it under age!!!  Tell The Cop of the Guy and they will Sort Him Out.

Or spread rumors that she has an STI but this is a last resort!!!!

(Be Care full)

Answer 14

she must kill her self bec. no one is in her age make sexx 5 times days **** in it.....how is it????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 15

thats REALLY bad.  Tell your dad about it if you get a chance.  You could take her to a councelour or something. If I were you I would let her have the baby and make her deal with the concaquinces by herself. Teach her that being a 14 year old mother is not all that great.. i know you care about her so just let her do what she wants so she can face the conciquinces and learn to listen to you.

sorry bout you having to go through that good luck n hope i helped!

Answer 16

i totally understand you on the very disrespectful thing ive got a younger sister who is 16 and she is the epitomy of disrespectful.. shes in juvenile hall right now so you can see what im saying..

As for your little sister.  it awesome that you are trying to step in and help her.. shes not going to like you for trying to help her but one day she will understand.. i would suggest taking her in to see a ob/gyn or a planned parent hood and having them sit down with her and talk to her about what shes doing and effect this will have on her body.. she obviously is really young and doesnt understand all the consequences that come along with being pregnant. so get her in your car if you have to lie and tell her your going to the mall or something.. do it.. and get her in to these people so they can talk to her and give her ALL the facts about s*x and pregnancy.. maybe hearing it from a 3rd party.. she will realize.. if i were you i would also get your father in on this.. he may be working alot to take care of the two of you but im sure if he knows what is going on with his child. he will make the time to take care of the situation

GOod luck.. and i hope you guys take care of this fast before something bad happens.

Answer 17

DAYUMM! i would tell ya mamma or daddy or somebody that can do somethin and smack some sense into that lil hoe! NO OFFENSE. but wow! that aint good and shes a little rotten thang. SORRY BUT NO OFFENSE! IM NOT TRYIN TO BE MEAN.

Answer 18

Omgoodness, I am so sorry. I think you should show her how difficult it is to have a baby at such a young age, and tell her school about her problem and maybe they will try to help out.  

Answer 19

jesus christ....why does she want to have a baby that bad. im so sorry to say this but she sounds like a total ****...seriously...im sure her boyfriend isn't having that much fun anymore...guys like s*x but not 5 times a day! after the first we don't feel like it anymore, we could go for a second but that's it...

this seems serious so these following solutions would probably hurt her, but its gonna help her more.

talking to a priest or something WILL NOT help, at her age she will become rebellious. you have to tell the parents of her boyfriend, please take control and tell them that they are having unprotected s*x. i know this sounds harsh but...ruin her relationship with her boyfriend. then after that you have to start preventing her from other sources where she can find s*x...like a club or something, give her a curfew and make her scared of you not the other way around. you have to be the iron hand here, cus no one else will, your dad is already busy with work. bombard her with chores that she has to do, drive her in and out of school as much as you can. tell her that you have to take place in becoming her mom, and that she cant do anything about it. if you are close and best friends, im sorry to say but the only way to stop her is to be hard and strong. its better that she hates you as a healthy growing teen, rather than so close to you but slowly ruining her life. she'll understand when she becomes an adult. remember you have to be harsh, its the only way this problem will over get worked out.

hope i helped

Answer 20

You should talk to her and tell her why its not wise to have a baby so young. Talk is always the answer! She may dye if she has a baby on 14!

Answer 21

wowww.

tell the little **** to keep her legs closed.

Answer 22

what the h**l is wrong with her? obviously she has no self respect for herself and you tell her all the things that can go wrong with teenager pregnancy

-she won't be able to care for the child

-she can and there is a BIG chance that she will die during the child birth because of the pain...that happens to young mothers

-lots and LOTS of pain, does she really want to go through the whole process at this age

-if she cares about her life at all she will stop having s*x every minute of every day trying to get pregnant for a baby she is probably not going to want in the end,

-she can't be a good mother if she is so disrespecful she will probably abuse the baby

-she should wait till she's married

and you tell her all of this, i don't care if she yells at you you need to lay down the law and you ESPECIALLY need to tell your dad, i can't believe he doesn't know about this, and does he not have 5 minutes throughout his whole day to even look at what's going on in his childrens' lives, and know that God is always watching her dirty little deeds, no girl should be having a baby at age 14...AT ALL i dont care who you are how you act, what you can handle, you can't have a baby

and you go tell her bf too, i can't believe he's ok with getting her pregnant, does he want to become a father too? oh ya thats another thing to tell her

-once she gets pregnant its a fact that her bf is gunna bail on her and she's gunna be left alone at age 14 to raise a child