Please help ? family problems ! No rude answers !?

Question

What would you do if you weren't paying rent anymore and you have your two ungrateful sisters and your father that only gets mad at you all the time..and gives you problems..and that they get mad every time you tell them to do cleaning around the house !

My oldest sister is 23 years old and has three children ages 4 yrs,3 yrs, and 1 yr. and never wants to clean the house, gets mad every time I tell to clean and buy, like dish soap,cleaning supplies, toilet paper..etc..

My youngest sister is 15 yrs. always in her room, hardly comes out and when she does is only to eat and put her dish in the sink and not wash her dish.. and never ever helps with cleaning !

My dad OMG ! he's very ? I don't know what to say, I really don't want to say anything bad because his my father, but my dad gets mad when I tell his daughters, my sisters to help with house cleaning and to buy things for the house, I mean is not that want to buy it for me, is just that they use my stuff to and they finish it and when they buy some they hide them..

Answer 1

I think the best way to handle this would be to sit down with everyone and let them know how you are feeling.  Ask them if they would like it if the roles were reversed.  I mean come on do they honestly believe that they can live in your home without paying rent or helping with household costs.  They should be happy that they have someone that cares enough to let them stay there instead of out on the streets.

Answer 2

If they dwell there then they need to pay rent.  You cannot take on all of this by yourself just to "be nice".   Everyone pays rent or they got to go - and then they will be paying rent somewhere else.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Oh honey, I think you should still make them pay you..is your home!

Besides is they're giving you to much problems..

Good luck !

Answer 4

Yes, you should have your dad to get counsling with your sisters and try to be patient with showing them a list that you would like done in letting them know that all has responsibility and not just you. Also let them know that if they borrow something that is to be put back and if used all it is to be replaced. They need to clean up after themselves and the little one's mother needs to take care of her own children. Life isn't having to slave or take care of others and not yourself. Your father needs to put his foot down in showing you the respect that you deserve in all your helping them out and wherever they go the rent will have to get paid and they will have to clean up themselves with buying the stuff to do it. Let them know you love them, but you can't take it anymore for it is to stressful on just one to handle. God Bless You!

Answer 5

Once the house is sold the problem will resolve itself. Just move to a smaller house or apartment. If they are paying you rent let them continue to pay. No matter where they live they will have to pay rent so don't feel bad about charging them rent.

Answer 6

It is hard to ask family pay rent, will result in another fight, they will spread around how stingy you treat your family. Make an excuse, move out by yourself. Keep them as family, but not related to money, cleaning ... etc. Visit them once a while in Xmas, Thanksgiving keep the relationship work. But don't put yourself back in their living area. They will never change their living habit, you will be the only one suffer if you try to fight against them.