Please help having trouble with friend

Question

My best friend and her husband recently moved into the same apartment complex as my cousin and his wife. I introduced them since they are neighbors and now they are hanging out together non stop. My cousin and his wife are total pot heads and drunks and now my friend is becoming just like them. She get's so drunk that she actually walked into a wall. I'm so mad at them. I know part of it is jealousy which I know is childish but I can't help it. I feel like I've lost my best friend and I totally hate my cousin for this. How can I get rid of all these angry feelings?

Answer 1

Express how you feel to your friend first. Tell her that you know she wasnt doing as much drinking and smoking before the introduction and that you feel like she's going in the wrong direction. Try not to tell her you want them to stop hanging out , that can make someone feel like you are being controlling. Try and also say that you feel liek you are missing out on your friendship and you feel distance. Tell her with the "i feel... " b4 the sentence so theres no blaming. Then after that express to your cousin how you feel like they should slow down on the narcotics/drinking. Be calm and try not playing the name game & sounding jealous.

Answer 2

well they are not saying that you cant join in...im sure u would be welcome...but if u dont like doing these things, accept thats its you who is keeping urself away not them, and stop feeling jealous cause its not their fault.... im sure you are welcome and they still like you