Please help i am Saudi inneed of help !?

Question

hey everyone salem 3aykom please dont judge me i met a girl on the internet she is saudi also and we always talked on the internet and cam2cam cellphones and everything,i fell in love ewith her and she fell in love with me,my parents wanted to go and ask for her hand,and everything ligally but when her parents new that she was in a relationship with me and she was talking to me online and cellphone her father said no and beated her and beated her than her brothers also did that,and they want to sew me can they ? i love her but now they want to sew me and they are making problems am i wrong ? can they sew me ? please help thank alot god bless you all ! thx

Answer 1

Dude,

if ur saudi, you would know that you are an idiot!

Who the h**l starts a relationship with the opposite s*x online?

YOU!!!

if you truly 'love' her, get a sheikh to speak 2 her parents and if everything goes well, engage so you could get to know her well.

then if love in the air, MARRY.

Adios

Answer 2

How old are you?...

You have a good command of english.. which somehow makes me question this question..

If you are Saudi, you should know fully well the answer to this question.. you are obviously educated enough to know a 2nd language, surely then your parents have taught you well and you are not a dummy.. You know the morality rules of this country.. You knew ahead of time what you were getting into. Im sorry, but I truly dont believe this question.. (just my opinion and im not trying to degrade you, but thats my thoughts)

Answer 3

...you didnt mention how old are you and the age of the girl.....anyhow, it is possible that they beat her to death but to sue you in court, I doubt it.....I can't think of grounds to charge you in court since you just known her in the internet. There's nothing wrong with that since you haven't met her yet in person......if you really love her, talk to her dad and family that you wanted her to be your wife (if you're at the marrying age already).......goodluck....

Answer 4

Just me gave some good advice...

forget her & yes you may face a penalty...d o n o t c o n f e s s to anything...

good luck man..........

Answer 5

i don't think they can sue u in court.

Answer 6

see, this is why i will not marry a Saudi girl

Edit  : Mintee, for goodness sake, what does a second language have to do with this case ?

Answer 7

First of all.

How old are you?

Second of all.

Yes they can sue you.

Third of all.

Everyone is wrong here. Her dad and brothers are wrong for jumping to conclusions.

You're wrong for meeting this girl online and not the old fashioned way. You should of known that this was coming.

Answer 8

I think Just Me gave you some good advice.

I hope that her brothers are that good that they don't talk to girls because they beat their sister for talking to a guy.  Any guy who talks to girls should think about that their sister could be talking to another guy.  What makes it ok for a guy but not a girl?  I understand them being disappointed, but for them to hit her is just wrong.

If you want to marry her, then you have to have the support of your family, and you can't give up on her.  It will take a lot of patience, but maybe the other family will say ok eventually.  Also, I hope that if you do marry her, you will trust her 100% and not question her.  She was talking to you online, so how many other guys did she talk to first?  I'm sure as a Saudi guy you have asked yourself that question because I know how protective Saudis are of their wives and sisters.  You have to walk into a marriage with full trust, otherwise you'll have problems from the start.

I think the only thing you both can do right now is to make a lot of Dua and pray a lot.  Pray istikhara.  If you don't wake up for fajr everyday, then start doing it.  The only one who can truly help you through a hard time is Allah.  Now is a perfect opportunity for you to increase your iman.

Answer 9

im not sure if they can sue you, but look :

Relationships over the phone, are really, really tricky.

I remember of a story of a girl, who married a guy after a relationship like that, but when she lived with him.. saw how he was in his daily life, his looks, etc... she was like "what did I get myself into?" Now they are divorced.

Im not saying all end like that, but relationships like that arent really as realistic as many involved in them think....

Because you always dont know many things, and what you dont know, you paint a perfect picture of, your mind works that way. Your mind, as a human, makes it seem like everything will be perfect, and distances itself from reality.

Chances are, years later you'd look back and forget her and she'd be a memory and you'd smile thinking about how excited you were.

However if you still want to go on with it... you should know two things

1- The background of her parents, and what they are like... know what they are afraid of.... maybe they are afraid you're the type that, if you were her husband, you'd always remind her that she talked to you from behind her parents back, whenever you fight ( and small natural fights WILL happen )... and maybe even not trust her!

Maybe they were just shocked and can get over it.

It depends what type of a family they are, their educational background, and even the traditions in the village they come from, if they do come from a village, or the "norms" of the city they are in..

Second thing, is how did they know about it? If your parents talked to hers and you proposed officially, THEN they found out, I think the problem would be less complicated..

Theres so many variables, and whoever gives you simple answers isnt being truthful...

Those who say "Oh go for it, go for your love and marry her" etc.. maybe watch too many movies and have lost touch with reality... they give advice that "sounds" nice, because thats all they care about.. what sounds nice... leaving the person involved in the problem, pay the price, emotionally, and even maybe in years wasted.

Even though they probably cant anyway, but if they can actually sue, I doubt that they would sue you anyway because that would just make things worse as it would cause rumers about their own daughter, and they will not want that, and the court would find her just as guilty as you are anyway.

Maybe they just want to scare you and afraid that you are one of the MANY ( yes remember that MANY,  and in my opinion, MOST of guys that get into such relationships with girls in Saudi ) who are not serious about marriage..

So theres many variables, and many details.. so think wisely, and if you decide to go on with it, having elders involved always helps and shows that you are serious.

Answer 10

unfortunately they can, it is better to send an elder man or shekh from your side to convince her dad.