Please help! i really hate my mums boyfriend!?

Question

I'm 12 and i really hate my mums boyfriend and my mum just says ' well your not going out with him!' when ever i try to tell her how i feel ... i just think that hes a bit dodgy ... and hes really up him self and arrogant... and yet kinda thick ( I'm not being harsh even my mum says it...) and just blame everyone and everything else for his downfall...

Answer 1

Your Right...Stay away from this Man.....she should put you first and not make excuses for him...can you talk to Dad?

Lock your bedroom door!!!

Dont trust him !!  

Answer 2

Honey you have every right to tell your mom how you feel. I married a woman and her daughter was 9 at the time. If daughter did not approve me...there would have benn no relationship. This is because mom cared a lot and also knew she could get just about anyone she wanted...On the other hand...maybe your mom has limited options in bf. In any event....you need to tell her what is going on...she might end up marrying him and if things don't get better...they tend to get worse. Take Care sweetie hope it works out for you.

Answer 3

you should tell a close personal friend or a realative that you are really close with it might help and i know it can be really difficult at first but it really helps!

Answer 4

Unfortunately there is not much you can do at the moment, your mother has made it clear that its her life and that she is content with her boyfriend, I know this maybe hard for you as you probably see what she can't at the moment but if you keep kicking up a fuss your mum just may start resenting you, we understand you have your concerns about this man and you feel he is not right for him but perhaps you just let it run its course.

In time you mum will probably see that he is not the right guy for her, you have told her how you feel and she has chosen not to do anything about it, perhaps you should give her some space and respect her decision, again i understand this is hard and probably frustrating for you but at the end of the day its her life and she is old enough to know what she is getting herself into.

If I was you I would stay clear of him if you feel uncomfortable around him, but if he tries anything funny I would tell your mum and make her listen to you. At the end of the day she should really hear you out and respect what you have to say as even though she is dating him it does effect you both.

Answer 5

DO U HAVE ANY FAMILY WHO'LL LISTEN 2 U AND HELP U,AND PLEASE FIND A GOOD TIME OR ASK  YOUR MOM 4 A DAUGTHER-MOM DAY WHERE U 2 GO 4 COFFEE OR SHOPPING AND AT THIS TIME JUST TRY 2 TELL HER YOUR TRUE FEELINGS AND ASK HER 2 HELP U DEAL WITH YOUR FEELINGS.

Answer 6

I'm going through the same situation, Except their married. Hes drunk every night and  always threatens, Hes very mean to me, Just try talking to a friend who's going through the same problem or talk to a friend who will listen, The best way is it to completely ignore that man! Try spending most of the day out, Chilling with your friends, Movies, Anything you enjoy or join a club, If hes abusive verbally or physically  to you (The situation im going through) Talk to a psychologist or someting, Try talking to your mom tell her exactly how you feel, Just stay away and ignore that man if you can't do anything about it if hes drunk everynight like what im going through  just make sure you stay in your bedroom and locked the door, Ignore him best way have nothing to do with him at all

Good Luck to you xx

Answer 7

i have the same problem but theres nothing you can do about it except try to stay out of his way and pray your mum and he break up

Answer 8

i know how you feel right now.

:( :( :(

Answer 9

Well, all you can do is take a big step back and let your mum get on with it, I'm sure she wont approve of some of your boyfriends when you start dating, just stay out of the way when hes there, and stay close to your mum and support her as much as you can when hes not, shes probably feeling unattractive and the fact that somebody fancies her is turning her head, she will see through him eventually, most women do! just tell her you love her, and try not to judge her too harshly, life can be lonely sometimes.

Answer 10

   Stay away from him then, Or when your mom told that she is invited him over.Ask your mom to eat at your friends house  

Answer 11

I kno how u must feel my mum split up with my dad when i was born and has had lots of boy freinds that i dont like but she has one now i think hes kool but i hate it when he shouts at me i feel like saying to him * Your not my dad* but i cant so i just hold my anger in and let it all come out on paper u should try that when ur angry at ur mums boyfreind just go in ur room and draw a picture and u will fell much better trust me it works with me :]

Good Luck !!!!!!!