Please help its very embarassing question please be sirious when answering.

Question

ok so im 16 and i was starting to s*x with this girl that is very atractive to me and i couldnt get or keep my d*ick up or hard i dont know if it has to do with the fact that i havent been getting enough sleep and also i havent been eating like im supposed to i have only been eating breakfast so please give me some tips on how i can stay hard and keep my ***** up. thank you in advance

Answer 1

don't have x*x! wait till your married.

Answer 2

Sounds like performance anxiety.  Take it slow and easy.  If you are focused on the foreplay, you'll worry less about getting it up.

But maybe at 16, you don't need to be having this casual s*x.

Answer 3

You may have just been anxious.  It's okay.  It is normal, it happens sometimes, but it sometimes puts more pressure on a guy psychologically.  

If you care to try again, think nothing of it, because it doesn't predict failure next time.  

Sometimes being excited just kind of goes over the top, and an erection is lost.  Taking some time to talk a little, lie back, even go for a walk together, try again...it'll be okay.

If you notice that it's happening when you're alone, you might want to talk to a doctor.  If you're ever really worried about it, a doctor can  be very reassurring.    Access to a doctor at your age for this can be difficult...if so, write the issue down, so you can just hand it to the doc when you visit.  Tell your family you need a physical, and have some questions for a doc, if you'd rather not talk to them about it.   They'll probably figure it out, that it's sexual, but maybe won't embarrass you.

Answer 4

Manuel, this is more common than guys let on. Usually it's not physical but psychological--you're nervous, or scared, or faint from not eating. (Dumb idea, BTW, eating only breakfast. Your body needs 1200 calories a day or it eats it own muscle tissue.)

If you are able to get and maintain an erection by fantasizing or masturbating, then you've got nothing to worry about. Take it slow and easy with the girl, and--gulp!--develop a closer relationship with her before you attempt sexual contact again. If you know deep down that she likes or loves you whether you perform sexually this one moment or not, you're far more likely to be able to perform.

Answer 5

dude, u were probably just nervous. same thing happened to me the first time. next time, just relax, take it easy, and start with some basic making out, and keep your bodies touching. trust me dude, let nature take its course, b/c after a while, it will get up, and your problem will be trying to get it to stay down, lol. take care, and tell me how u make out with this!

Answer 6

Since you said you've only been eating breakfast, you might just not have enough energy to get an erection. I used to have a similar problem.

Answer 7

It's called performance anxiety. And it happens to every guy at least once. When a guy is scared, nervous, or worried, tired etc., it can make it difficult for him to relax enough to maintain a full erection. You just need to focus on relaxing and not worrying. Also make sure your girlfriend is on birth control and you are using condoms, doing this will take some pressure off things and you can relax more.

I hope this helped.

-Connor

Answer 8

I personally would take it as a sign that you weren't ready to have the relationship you might have thought you were ready for. Maybe you should wait. Then again it may be because you are too anxious, don't be embarrassed, it's happened to the best of us, but as a personal note, I would wait awhile and start at a different level, maybe just relaxing and getting to know her a little better, tell her that you have the feelings but would like to take your time and be certain that this is what's right for you and her. Remember to always love and respect yourself as well as her and don't feel forced into something that may not be the right time for you at this time. There are plenty of other ways to start a good relationship other than s*x.

Answer 9

most likely it's related to anxiety

Answer 10

You really need to relax.  I know this is difficult being in a new relationship, but that is probably the cause of all of your problems.  16 year olds rarely have physical problems with s*x, just mental/emotional. Try to relax next time, have lots of foreplay, and be sure to use protection.

Answer 11

You were probably just nervous. it doesnt have to do anything with eating or slepping. just relax and let everything flow naturally

Answer 12

Ahh you were just a little nervous. First time dont sweat it. Try and keep your confidence up. Your the alpha male not her. If anything try watching some p**n before that always works!