Please help me, I am about to loose confidence driving car.?

Question

Please help me, how should I gain my confidence after last night I bang my car on the wall.

I am about 39 started learning car from last week. I picked up driving fast and was gaining confidence quickly.

Day before yesterday I drove my car along with wife and 7 year daughter through fair rush, on first and second gear. I have not made any mistake. Then In the next morning (yesterday) at driving school I was full of confidence and instructor was very pleased at my driving . He asked to change timing to have practice in bit crowed.

But last night, before we go to sleep at around 11:30 my wife said lets have small ride so that I can practice more. We had good ride but just near my home I smashed my car on a wall while avoiding a parked two wheeler. There is always mess of parked two wheeler near by. I know what happened, I was slightly over-confidence and I pressed accelerator instead of break. I was excited at that time. But now I m thinking what if I would have killed somebody

Answer 1

no way, simply put don't get cocky for a lack of a better word, anyone who's learning to drive gets cocky, I did and I nearly killed my self once in an Isuzu while driving fast and not learning the correct ways to dodge a vehicle...but that hasn't stopped me, I am now going on my 6th year of driving without any accidents that I occasioned and without being in any accidents other than one fender bender and getting backed into...

good luck with it! the good thing is that you see your mistakes and correct them in the future, is like driving a bike but of course, the possibility of death, injury or property damage is a bit greater...

Answer 2

Just relax , take your time , try not to be late for anything (hurrying on the road is a bad bad idea) , practice some more , and don't quit. You can only gain confidence if you keep practicing so keep doing it.

You only fail when you quit.

Answer 3

Practice, practice, practice....

Make notes on things you are having difficulty with.

Practice these things frequently.

The more experience you have the better you will retain information.

Never get over-confident when driving.  The second you get over-confident is the second you will make a mistake.  I have experienced this principle in other events.  I was on the golf course once, when I decided to try to hit a Par 5 green in two shots after I made great drives earlier in the round.  I ended up knocking the ball into the water, ruining my confidence and my round.  I should have used three shots to get on the green, instead of two.  We all make mistakes.  We are human!

Don't get discouraged!  I know a woman who was in upper 60s when she learned how to drive.  It took her a few months, but she is now a great driver.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

Have confidence. The key to assertive driving is the ability to possess an assured outlook. If you are confident in your skills as a driver, driving assertively will come easily.

Know your vehicle. You can't be an assertive driver if you are fumbling for k***s, looking for third gear and craning your neck to find the mirrors. Spend time getting to know your car and you'll feel more comfortable taking control.

Pinpoint your destination. Some of the most passive drivers on the road are those who are unsure of their destination. Review directions before you leave home and know exactly where you are going. This way, you avoid dangerous habits like putting on your turn signal prematurely or changing lanes at the last minute.

Honor the speed limit. Simply put, maintain the posted speed limit or a few miles above. Society is in a hurry these days. It would be wonderful to slow things down, but most people have kids to feed, dogs to walk and a morning commute to face. Driving at a speed that is significantly lower than the speed limit is dangerous, annoying and unproductive.

Avoid hesitation. Being wishy-washy about your intentions on the road is confusing to other drivers and can be dangerous. Assertive drivers rarely second guess themselves. For example, if a stoplight is yellow and you are approaching the intersection at a fast speed, glance to the left and right and if you see no danger, go through the light. Slamming on your brakes at the last minute greatly increases the chance of a fender bender.

Answer 5

hey.dont worry about those things . all people get exited.it is natural to human beings.try to slow down a bit white you feel exited. try to be calm.good luck.

Answer 6

accidents happen. Its not a total loss if you learn something from it.  Next time just take your time.  Try not to get in a hurry.

Answer 7

pay attention and don't think that you are a great driver because your behind the steering wheel

Answer 8

yes indeed. stop driving. get a bus pass. very low rate of killing somebody that way.

Answer 9

Anytime you get on the road you run the risk of getting into an accident.  The best thing for you to do is to be respectful of the fact that driving is a serious matter.  Too many people on the road don't pay attention to what they are doing or have no consideration for other drivers.  It seems like you've realized early on how serious driving can be and you learned that lesson without hurting yourself or anyone else.  Good for you!!  Just take it slow, keep the distractions to a minimum and you'll be fine.  Good Luck!!