Please help me, i am in tears right now. PLEASE! why does highschool suck so bad?advice is much appreciated?

Question

hey, i just got a call from my best friend[im going into 8th grade, she is going to be a freshman] and she just got back from her freshman dance.[school hasn't started yet, its kind of like a welcoming dance to all the freshman, except only freshman are invited] and she calls me sobbing, telling me this was the worst night of her life. she said that she hung out with the losers from our school the whole night. she danced with only one guy one time, but she had met him before. she todally fell for him though. she was talking to a very nice girl named Lisa,[atleast i thaught she was nice] and telling her how this guy really liked her and she really like him etc. and then he asked her to dance. while they were dancing, she set her head on his shoulder, and he just continued dancing normall,y not setting his head on hers.so she asked, "do you have a girl friend?" and he said, "yes, her name is stacey brown" then she asked how long they had been dating for, and he said they had been dating since the 5th grade. they finnished the dance mute. then she walked away. she goes back to Lisa and says, "you and stacey brown are good friends, why didnt you says omething to me?!" and lisa goes, "oops, i forgot! and walks away.so my best friend found one of the "loser" girls dancing in a circle of a bunch of people, and she starts dancing with her, and all of a sudden she says to my best friend, "i cant dance next to you, its imberassing because you dont know how to dance." and then she walks away. now dont get me wrong, sara is a gorgeous girl, its just that she doesnt know it, and she is a normal dancer, isnt awsome at it, itsnt bad at it. and the "loser" is just a normal dancer too. so my best friend goes and finds K[not using full name] and starts talking to her. kurstin asks her, "hey isnt brandon so hott?" and my best friends like, "yes! i like him alot, im gonig to try and get to know him better, ever sence we hung out at the orientation i have liked him" and K agrees then walks away. so then K walks up to brandon and starts hardcore slutt dancing with him. im guessing just trying to make my best friend jealous. so my best friend[lets call her M] turns away and sees a girl froma differant school, that she has heard alot about, and alot of people know, so shes like,"why dont i meet her too?" and walks up and says, "hi G." a G says, "i dont know you." and M's like, "i know, i dont know you either, but i have heard of you, how are you liking the dance?" and then G says, "i dont know you." and walks away. so M walks away imberassed and finds another person from our school, lets call him J. M walks up to J and says, "hey J!" and J yells, "hey M, why dont you tell us all ONE person you danced with tonight!" and laughs. M says the guy she danced with once" and J's like, "what a loser, i cant believe you only danced with one guy the whole night." and M walks away. everyone i named here has gone to a little school with me and my best friend sence kindergarten, likes, theres only 150 people in the school, K-8th. how come everyone has all of a sudden turned into such b*tches?

p.s. M had to go to bed,a dn i told her i would think up some advice to give her and and yahoo answers to help, but i told her i would call her tomorrow, so please, any advice you could give is much aprreciated!

Answer 1

what?

i got lost,

Answer 2

first make sure to have a girl's night with her.

make her feel special(:

thennn

on her first day put her in the cutest outfit everrrr and put her in makeup and make her look extra cute.

thennn

tell her to stay with her friends that she has, if she has any. make sure she makes new friends!

flirting with a couple boys (especially ones who werent thhere) couldn't hurt<3

Answer 3

Tell M to get the F away from J and G, and tell M to P on E and then J will M at Z and I before E except after C.

Answer 4

Okie first off ppl are being retarted I dont understand why ppl would do that im going into 8th grade but I mean I know seniors and I no juniors and sophmores and freshman and we have like 1000 ppl in our school but like I no ive known ppl for like so long so i dont understand but lol if someone did that to one of my friends id find them all get pissed be like hey!!! wats up everyone OMFG YOUR A s**t !! to the sluty dancin girl and then to the losa loner id be like shut up dont be talking because well hum you are a LONER LOSER THIS ISNT YOUR PLACE then I would go up to the guys and say you no she is gorgeous you are mad cuz you can't get her then I would scream HATERs and well yeah thats probly why noone messes with me cuz I acctually do that s*** any way tell her she is gorgeous and in a naieve state and hasnt realized it yet that she is so pretty that they are just hating and to focus on accademics and if someones mean or rude tell her to gain confidence and tell the person listen apparently you have problems okie and i dont want to deal with you your not worth my time insult me call me names tell me im pathetic but at least i dont mess with someone when there down and alone and you no what if my friend yelled at you before you deserved it just dont hold me for her actions. GOOD LUCK! oo and if you do talk to them tell them some random girl says get a life grow up stop hateing and really are you all that pathetic ! best wishes !!!

Megs!

Answer 5

dayyum they all prolly jus hatn on her

an high skool aint bad

its hella funn

i luv being in high skool

its greattt!!!

Answer 6

kay that was a little confusing but... I came from a k-8 school. When I got to high school everyone from my school was trying to be SO COOL. Like it was almost stupid. They tried to fit into different groups. You just have to try and find the group you fit into. Your old friends will fade away. You can really tell a good friend from this. Some people will go back to normal in a half year and some people will stay the way they changed....

welcome to high school... I promise it will get better.

Answer 7

Well, just remember that highschool goes by in a FLASH. Trust me on this. Just ignore the people that try and bring you down as it is a lame attempt to cover up their own insecurity. You are a good friend. Keep it up.

Answer 8

life isn't perfect. things always get better. you can't just expect everything to turn out perfect. If you waste time thinking about it, it just seems worse and worse than it really is. Ignore it. If you don't look past it first, others never willl. She needs more self confidence. good luck!

Answer 9

Bacause they are little freshmen, a chunk of the freshmen population get all big headed now that they are in high school becuase they finally feel like they have "made it to where it's at!" the popular people act like *** holes almost the whole year, until all the higher classmen show them that the little kids have nothing to be proud of and really shouldn't be treating everyone like ****. the upper classmen actually tend to hang around the quote unquote "losers" of the under classmen because the "losers" tend to be more fun to be around because they aren't treating everyone like ****!

EDIT: Lol looking at everyones answer i'm pretty sure I read that wrong, so try not to dwell on it if I told the exact opposite of what you wanted to hear! =)

and that WoW comment was uncalled for!

Answer 10

That's terrible. She needs to be confident when school starts and act as if the dance never happened. If confronted about it she needs to make a joke about  and laugh it off. High school is hard for everyone she's not alone.  

Answer 11

So I'm not going to lie I wasted a piece of my life reading this, and the advice I have for you M or J or G or whoever in the h**l you are is learn to spell. (: It's quite embarassing "imberassing" that you've made it all the way to highschool with the mentallity of a fifth grader. And as for the big exciting freshman dance I would suggest to give it more then one night to make friends. Maybe you guys should both hang out with the losers who are "normal dancers" and gain some of their intellgence.The funniest part of this whole mess is that you said you needed to call her K so you wouldn't use her full name just to turn around in the next sentence and use her full name. Get a life and go to myspace instead of yahoo answers. It's a much more "highschool". Thanks

Answer 12

Sorry I'm cant read <----------------------------- illiterate

Answer 13

Seriously? What JERKS! i totally get it though, high school does suck. You just have to get past all of the insecurity stuff and be yourself. Because if you go through life trying to be someone that youre not, you will never be happy with who you are. Trust me, im a junior, and ive had my hair share of stuff. Im from the US and i moved out of the US for 3 years. Whenever something bad happened to me, i brushed it off... Your friend just needs to find a good group of freshmen friends, and not talk to all those jerks!!!

Answer 14

Just shrug it off this will happen often.

You guys will look back to it and laugh it off.

Answer 15

I honestly think your best friend is trying to hard to fit in.

You can dance .. you can jive .. having the time of your life

See that girl .. watch that scene .. diggin' the dancing queen ♥♥♥.

Answer 16

Looks like your friend didn't build up enough social strata through the years. Maybe you and your friend should go back to playing WoW like we all know you do. If you were a sensible person and had respect for your friend and yourself, this question would have been asked of a parent and not Y!A.

Answer 17

Take a deep breath and calm down. This is called being a teenager. In a week, you will be over it. Your friend will have a fantastic new crush, everyone will be friends and you'll all skip off into the sunset. This is nature.

As for people being cows, well, if you think school is hard to deal with....

Answer 18

Too much angst for me to bother reading.

Long story short: High school ends. You'll get over it.

Answer 19

ya i just ended 8th grade this year trust me it sucked i got in fights with my friends and enemies we always made up ( that goes for friends) but it gets better over time and if it doesnt and u dont wanna tell anybody then talk to them and i dont mean nicely u need to lay out the law like what they did to u if they dont ease up then u leave them alone if they bugg u target the main things they say until they are finished and use it against them then the tables are turned and then when they are really uncomfortabel u leave them stuttering in the hall or wherever and dont look back it took me all year to figure that one out so i used all year against them some times even nice people hav to be a b****  to straighten ppl out hope i helped even though i dout i did  

PS once u graduate it really dosnt matter cuz ppl dont hav time to be like that so it all gets better

Answer 20

well you all are VERY young and you shouldnt be worring about all the drama. Im a senior and ma advice is that you shouldnt worry about things like who likes who because it wont matter in 4 years because most of the people you will never ever see in your life again you should be more focused on your education so you can graduate..

HIGH SCHOOL SUCKS i mean its fun and all but dont worry about who is popular or not because if your friends think your cool then by my standards your COOL lol..

dont do drugs it fcks up ur brain  

Answer 21

I'm a freshman this year too, and I'm learning right now that the best thing to do is ignore the "losers". When your friend finds real, intelligent, loyal friends, they can stick it out together. As my parents told me, "High school is the time when you make the friends you have for the rest of your life."

Answer 22

(tell her)just chill for now, drink a cold glass of water, clear your mind (try), lie down and try 2 sleep or relax,you will get over this in the morning. in the morning just sit down and talk 2 her.

Answer 23

thast life

**** happens

and fyi

looks like your friends a loser

its not nice to call ppl losers

you and your friend dotn sound all that cool

Answer 24

Tell your friend. Don't worry about it, just blow it off. The fact is people suck sometimes. Life can be all "Predator / Prey" a lot of the time. If your not the predator, youre the prey. It sucks but that's how a lot of people are.

Next time go to the dance with a friend, always have "a wing-man". It's safer that way.

Laugh at the bullshit people throw at you, and throw some back. Try not to react like they've hurt you. Don't show weakness or much emotion. Respond like they're totally beneath you. Remember, some things just aren't threatening - such as a pre-pubescent needle d**k, who probably went home alone after the dance and beat off into a sock. Or some insecure stuck up ***** who's been giving away hand jobs like they were handshakes since the 6th grade, because daddy's a self absorbed alcoholic.

On the other hand, sometimes people are just cracking on you, just trying to lighten the mood, and be funny. (It's just unfortunate that they just so happen to be socially retarded and haven't a clue what "subtlety" means). So just crack back and keep the conversation going, but maybe in a different direction.

Being a kid is an emotional roller coaster because you're constantly getting hit with new experiences, and meeting new personalities that you're not sure how to respond to. Therefore, you constantly feel off balance and out of place. Just keep those feelings on the DL, play it off, and watch and learn how other people adapt and overcome similar situations - and try to do the same. Above all, don't worry, it won't last forever.

Answer 25

Those kids are losers. They aren't being themselves and they turned into b*tches. They probably used to be sweeties when you guys went to school with them when you were young. You and your bestfriend are pretty good people and not b*tches like them.

I don't know what to say all I can help you with is she should go up to them and tell them how she feels. Or ignore them  

Answer 26

i'll tell you why. Because at that age, drama is pretty much the dominate feature of your life. Drama drama drama and more drama. Teenagers in particular are renown for their moodiness and over dramatic tendencies. The smartest thing to do is to just stay riiiight out of it.

There will always be people who want to hurt your feelings or be a total ***** towards you, and until these people get a severe reality check, that's not going to change. You can't change the way people act, you can only change how you react to their actions.

Tell your friend that at that age, everyone is brainless and gormless. In a few years (hopefully less, maybe more) everyone will have grown up and gotten over it. In the meantime, i find it's fun to just stand back from the drama, and laugh at it all! I mean, come on, some girl was s**t dancing a guy? What a total dork! I mean, how degrading, just to try and hurt someone's feelings. Who's the real loser here?

Lastly, even though it may seem to be, I do not get why the boy thing has to be such a huge deal at that age. Seriously, why does it matter so much? I say wait until you meet someone who really and genuinely likes you, and whom you won't split up with in about a week or so. What's the point of that?

Anyway, hope this helps :)

Answer 27

Trust me, as someone who just got out of that sh*t hole they call highschool....just leave it alone. Try not to get involved in the drama...it never, ever ends up good. Don't play people, don't play games with guys to get them to like you, its not nice and hurts a lot of guys feelings. Be the nice girl who lets everything roll off her back, doesn't let anyone bother her and doesn't bother anyone. Advise your friend(s) to do the same.

If people want to be b*tches, let them be... just stay away from them. Find some nice people to hang around and get a nice clique going.

Answer 28

When you get to high school it's all competition; who's prettier, who's popular, etc. If your friend is as pretty as you described her to be, then she is getting her first encounter with the envious arseholes in high school. Tell your friend not to worry about it, and become friends with people who won't judge her or stab her in the back. We losers aren't all that bad!

Answer 29

am i the only person who can't be bothered reading that?