Please help me, i am really concerened for my friends safety!!?

Question

ok. my bf is what i believe, is being abused by her family. Her mom esspecially. Whenever i am on the phone with her her mom or older brother is yelling at her. Just today, she was getting clothes out of her dryer and accidently burned her hand on the dryer, i heared her mom say: "you moron! the dryer is obvioustly hot!" also this morning, her mom asked her to do the dishes, and my friend said "no, mom i really dont want to the dishes right now." and her mom smacked her and grabbed her wrist and bent it back, to the point where it went numb. My friend then said "mom please! Stop! go away!" Her mom then snapped back "DO NOT TELL ME WHAT TO DO!"

Her mom is also parranoid and whenever im talking on the phone with her her mom is usually listening in to the conversation!

She also always swears at my friend and her bro when im on the phone, my friend is also 13. her bro is 15

her bro and mom always call her mean names like r****d, moron, stupid. what should i do?

Answer 1

ask her about it, if it seems like there is an issue then convince her to go see the social worker or the school psychologist, for advice on how to deal.

Answer 2

well if she is being abused what you have to do not just contact someone but you have to have evidence like a pic of a bruse or something and also an eye witness

its hard to believe but if you call for help for her and you have none of that then your just going to make things worse

talk with her brother try to get her to spin the night at a girls house near you and talk with her then

Answer 3

I think you should talk to her, and find out whats really going on.

If she doesn't want to talk to you or tell you the truth, talk to your parents or someone you trust, even if you aren't sure she's getting abused. She has five more years until she can move out, and a lot can happen in the five years.

You'd rather be safe than sorry, so tell someone (adult), and they can help you decide on what to do next.

Answer 4

You can't change her family-- even if you wish you could.

But you can help balance all that awful stuff by being positive to her, and trying to remind her that she's important and and special to you.

That kind of abuse really destroys self-esteem (especially when it's your mom), so where you can try to just make her feel good about herself. Don't go overboard as that will just feel fake... but if she's done something nice, note it.

You can also be a sanctuary for her. Try to get her to come over, and maybe even sometimes sleep over. It would be great for her to have some breathing space.

You should also encourage your friend to call the police if her mother gets physical. While it would be difficult to make a case stick (as in Mom would probably not even get arrested)-- the Mom would still probably wake-up call from it.

And then some Don'ts:

-Don't overstreach yourself, only promise to do things that you can actually do.

- Don't do anything that she doesn't approve (like going and telling her mom off) unless you really fear for her. Then call the police.

- Don't force her to talk about this if she doesn't want to. Just normal is already a big thing for her.

Answer 5

That is a very sad situation. I say you tell authorities as soon as possible. No child deserves to go through that. Tell your parents, or  teacher or anybody you trust! Fast!

Answer 6

i would call social services, or talk to a guidance counselor at your school, or a priest or rabbi, i would do it quick.  if possible, offer your home for her to stay in, until things get better.

Answer 7

I agree with the others who have commented.....you should talk to her and see if she will open up to you about it. If she is afraid to tell you, I would still tell someone (an adult) because a lot of kids/teens going thru abuse are threatned not to tell anyone so she may be terrified to tell you. She deserves a friend like you to be there for her, and she will appreciate your concern.