Please help me, im really scared

Question

i think im being followed, theres this silver car and whenever i go out i see it, i used to think it was all in my head (im a bit messed up in the head) but i see it everywhere , i cant leave my house anymore cos im sure im being followed and i know people are looking at me.. can someone tell me what to do?

Answer 1

Get the license plate number and description of the car and report that to the police.

Answer 2

I agree you need to contact to the police, with the license number of the car if possible. You should also try to remember and write down as much as you can of where and when you saw the car, so you can tell the police that too.

I would respectfully disagree with the person who said that you should avoid going to the police if you've been involved with drugs, etc. Your safety may be at risk, and stalkers can escalate to more serious crimes. You need to protect yourself, not worry about whether the police would find out that you smoked a little pot or something like that (if you did.) First priority is staying safe-- and first priority for the police is keeping you safe.

If you can, you might want to phone the police and ask them to send an officer to you rather than you going to the station, since going there gives the person in the car another chance to intercept you. Make sure to ask the police officer for identification before letting him/her into your home (always a good idea, but especially in situations like this it's important.) If the identification is at all suspicious, phone the dispatcher again and make sure the officer at your home is the one who was sent from the station. Criminals sometimes impersonate police officers, so it's important to make sure the cop is a real cop.

You should contact the police as soon as you can.

Answer 3

SLAM ON YOUR BREAKS THEN BEFORE THEY GET OUT OF THEIR CAR>> TAKE OFF FAST!! BUT MAKE SURE YOURE GOING ATLEAST MPH BEFORE SLAMMING THE BREAKS, MAKE IT WORTH IT!!

Answer 4

Yes call the police and tell them what you think is going on but before you do that get the license plate number so you can provide that to police.  

Answer 5

I would call the police. You might have a stalker. You must be very careful. Don't go out at NIGHT by yourself. Please be very careful. Their are SOME sick and twisted people in this world. Call the police over and over and make as many compliants as possible so they can take you seriously. Good luck

Answer 6

Get the plate number and call the police.

Answer 7

call the police and have them follow youuu for a bit and see what's up..

Answer 8

Pumpkin I would report this to your Family and the Police for them to take Proper action.No one should be scared to leave their house

Stalking refers to harassing or threatening behavior that is engaged in repeatedly. Such harassment can be either physical stalking or cyberstalking.

Physical stalking is following someone, appearing at a person’s home or place of business, making harassing phone calls, leaving written messages or objects, or vandalizing one’s property.

Cyberstalking involves using the Internet or other electronic means to harass.

Either type of action may or may not be accompanied by a credible threat of serious harm. But both types can cause psychological damage, and each can potentially lead to an assault or even murder.

All states have anti-stalking laws, but the legal definitions vary. Some state laws require that the perpetrator, to qualify as a stalker, make a credible threat of violence against the victim. Others require only that the stalker’s conduct constitute an implied threat. The model anti-stalking code developed by the National Institute of Justice doesn’t require stalkers to make a credible threat, but it does require victims to feel a high level of fear. www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/assist/nvaa/supp/t...

Tips for Stalking Victims

These tips will help you guard your personal information and lessen the chance that it will get into the hands of a stalker or harasser. However, some of these tips are extreme and should only be used if you are indeed being stalked. Harassment can take many forms, so this information may not be appropriate in every situation and may not resolve serious stalking problems.

See also the Supplement to this fact sheet, “Security Recommendations for Stalking Victims,” provided by the Los Angeles Police Department’s Threat Management Unit. www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs14a-stalking....

1. Use a private post office box.. Residential addresses of post office box holders are generally confidential. However, the U.S. Postal Service will release a residential address to any government agency, or to persons serving court papers. The Post Office only requires verification from an attorney that a case is pending. This information is easily counterfeited. Private companies, such as Mail Boxes Etc., are generally stricter and will require that the person making the request have an original copy of a subpoena.

Be sure to get a private mailbox that is at least two ZIP codes away from your residence. Use your private post office box address for all of your correspondence. Print it on your checks instead of your residential address. Instead of recording the address as "Box 123," use "Apartment 123." If you must use a traditional home mailbox, make sure it has a lock.

2. Do not file a change of address with the U.S. Postal Service. Send personal letters to friends, relatives and businesses giving them the new private mailbox address. Give true residential address only to the most trusted friends. Ask that they do not store this address in rolodexes or address books that could be stolen.

3. Sign up for your state's address confidentiality program . Nearly half the states offer a no-cost mail-forwarding program that enables victims of domestic violence and stalking to protect their residential address. A few states limit the program to just the driver’s license or solely voter records. For a list, visit: www.sos.state.ok.us/acp/confidentiality_...

4. Obtain an unpublished and unlisted phone number. The phone company lists names and numbers in directory assistance (411) and publishes them in the phone book. Make sure you delete your information from both places. Do not print your phone number on your checks. Give out a work number or use an alternate number such as a voice mail number when asked – that is, a message-only number that is used solely for receiving recorded messages from callers.

5. If your state has Caller ID, order Complete Blocking (called "Per Line" Blocking in other states). This ensures that your phone number is not disclosed when you make calls from your home. (See PRC Fact Sheet 19 on Caller ID, www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs19-cid.htm .)

6. Avoid calling toll-free 800, 866, 888, 877 and 900 number services. Your phone number could be "captured" by a service called Automatic Number Identification. It will also appear on the called party's bill at the end of the month. If you do call toll-free 800 numbers, use a pay phone.

7. Have your name removed from any "reverse directories." The entries in these directories are in numerical order by phone number or by address. These books allow anyone who has just one piece of information, such as a phone number, to find where you live. Reverse directories are published by phone companies and direct marketers. Contact the major directories and request that you be removed from their listings:

Haines Criss+Cross Directory, Attn: Director of Data Processing, 8050 Freedom Ave. N.W. , North Canton, OH 44720.

By phone: Call [phone] and ask for extension 312.

Equifax Direct Marketing Solutions (formerly Polk):

By mail: Equifax Direct Marketing Solutions, Attn: List Suppression File, 26955 Northwestern Hwy., South Field, MI 48034.

Include your name, address, ZIP code and phone number.

By phone: [phone]

8. Let people know that information about you should be held in confidence. Tell your employer, co-workers, friends, family and neighbors of your situation. Alert them to be suspicious of people inquiring about your whereabouts or schedule. If you have a photograph or description of the stalker and vehicle, show a photo or describe the person to your neighbors, co-workers, friends, family and neighbors.

9. Do not use your home address when you subscribe to magazines. In general, don't use your residential address for anything that is mailed or shipped to you.

9a. Do not accept packages at work or home unless they were personally ordered by you.

10. Avoid using your middle initial. Middle initials are often used to differentiate people with common names. For example, someone searching public records or credit report files might find several people with the name Jane Doe. If you have a common name and want to blend in with the crowd, do not add a middle initial. In fact, consider using your first initial and last name only in as many situations as you can.

11. When conducting business with a government agency,only fill in the required pieces of information. Certain government agency records are public. Anyone can access the information you disclose to the agency within that record. Public records such as those held by a county assessor, county recorder, registrar of voters, or state motor vehicles department (DMV) are especially valuable to a stalker, as are business licenses.

Ask the agency if it allows address information to be confidential in certain situations. If possible, use a post office box and do not provide your middle initial, phone number or your Social Security number. If you own property or a car, you may want to consider alternative forms of ownership, such as a trust. This would shield your personal address from the public record. (For more information on government records and privacy, see PRC Fact Sheet 11, www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs11-pub.htm .)

12. Put your post office box on your driver's license. Don't show your license to just anyone. Your license has a lot of valuable information to a stalker.

13. Don't put your name on the list of tenants on the front of your apartment building. Use a variation of your name that only your friends and family would recognize.

14. Be very protective of your Social Security number.. It is the key to much of your personal information. Don't pre-print the SSN on anything such as your checks. Only give it out if required to do so, and ask why the requester needs it. The Social Security Administration may be willing to change your SSN. Contact the SSA for details. (See PRC Fact Sheet 10 on SSNs, www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs10-ssn.htm .)

15. Alert the three credit bureaus--Experian, Equifax and Trans Union. Put a fraud alert on your credit reports to avoid fraudulent access. (See PRC Fact Sheet 17a on identity theft for information on establishing fraud alerts, www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs17a.htm .)

16. If you are having a problem with harassing phone calls,put a beep tone on your line so callers think you are taping your calls. Use an answering machine to screen your calls, and put a "bluff message" on your machine to warn callers of possible taping or monitoring. Be aware of the legal restrictions on taping of conversations.

If you have harassing or threatening messages left on your answering machine, tape record them in case you need them as evidence for a restraining order or in filing a police report. (See PRC Fact Sheet 3 on harassing phone calls, www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs3-hrs2.htm . See also PRC Fact Sheet 9 on wiretapping and eavesdropping, www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs9-wrtp.htm . The Reporters Committee for Freedom of the Press offers a 50-state guide to laws regarding taping phone calls, www.rcfp.org/taping .)

17. If you are a victim of cyberstalking, act promptly and firmly to defuse the situation. Take potential threats seriously. Very clearly tell that person to stop, saying something like, “Do not contact me in any way in the future.” Sometimes it is helpful to copy your “stop” message to the abuse department of the harasser’s Internet service provider. (If you have trouble determining that ISP, contact www.Cyberangels.org or www.Haltabuse.org .)

Do not respond to any further messages from the harasser nor have anyone else contact the harasser on your behalf. Change your e-mail address if necessary. Do not enter any personal information into online directories.

See cyberstalking resources at the end of this guide and the PRC's Fact Sheet 18 on online privacy, www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs18-cyb.htm .

For a list of state cyberstalking laws, see National Conference of State Legislatures, www.ncsl.org/programs/lis/CIP/stalk99.ht... .

18. Keep a log of every stalking incident. Building such a paper trail can make a successful prosecution more likely. Examples of evidence that may help build a case include: Caller ID records, logs of phone calls, copies of threatening letters, items sent to you in the mail, pictures of injuries, or even photos of the stalker outside your home. Plus, maintain a list of names, dates and times of your contacts with law enforcement.

19. Consider getting professional counseling and/or seeking help from a victims support group. They can help you deal with fear, anxiety and depression associated with being stalked.

20. Make a police report. Consider getting a restraining order if you have been physically threatened or feel that you are in danger. Study your state’s stalking law to gain a clear understanding of what conduct constitutes an offense under the statute. You should contact an attorney or legal aid office if a restraining order becomes necessary.

When filed with the court, a restraining order legally compels the harasser to stay away from you, or he/she can be arrested. Be aware that papers filed for a restraining order or police report may become public record. Put minimal amounts of information on such documents and provide only a post office box address.

Note: Some security experts warn that restraining orders sometimes lead to violence. Before obtaining a restraining order, consider your options carefully.

21. Be cautious about applying for a domain name. If you use your name as a Web site domain name (for example, www.janedoe.com), it will be relatively simple for potential stalkers to locate your physical address because that information is available in the domain-name databases.

22. Develop a safety plan. Remember, even restraining orders do not always prevent stalking from escalating into violence. Make sure friends, neighbors, and co-workers know about your situation. Show them photos of the stalker. Keep handy the phone numbers of assisting agencies. Set up easy access to a reserve set of money, credit cards, medication, important papers, keys, and other valuables in case you need to leave quickly. Have a safe place in mind that you can go in an emergency. Try not to travel alone. Always vary your routes. Carry a cell phone with you.

23. And these final tips from someone who was stalked for over three years: For your own protection, carry pepper spray. Get a mobile phone and/or beeper. Carry a digital or video camera. Never verify anything like your home address over the phone.

I hope your situation improves honey

Answer 9

Did you do anything illegal or have you transported people who sell drugs?  Also have you done anything questionable online?  If you did anything questionable, the FBI could be taling you to monitor your activities but usually they ride in a van.

Go to the police department and report our situation if you didn't do any drugs or illegal activities.

Answer 10

First of all write down the license plate and a description of the car like the color, any dents, 4 door or two door.  The make of the car Toyota, Chevy, Ford etc...  Then if you can look at the driver and write down a description.  Let your family and friends know what's going on and have someone escort you to your car.  If you feel your being followed then lead them to your local police station and run inside.  Most police stations have surveillance cameras outside and in their parking lot.  Insist upon filing a police report.  It wouldn't hurt to take a pepper spray class.  Take your life back have friends and family come pick you up.  Keep changing your routine.  

Answer 11

Get the license plate and report the stalker immediately to the police.  Take pictures if you can; document everything!  Do it right now, please!!

Answer 12

Call the police. This person could be dangerous! If you think it could be in your head, call a therapist to help you through it. He or she would know better then all of us!