Please help me ASAP!!!!?

Question

ok i am babysitting a six year old who refuses to listen to me she has the worst attitude.punishment doesnt work i have tried to make her sit in her room by herself with no tv and NOTHING is helping i have vene used an authoritve voice and she still won't listen to me i need some help please and no rude answers!!

thanks alot

Answer 1

Depends on what she is not listening to you about.  Is it worth the battle?  I agree you've done all you could do.  This behavior is common for this age.

Answer 2

reward her when shes good get a princces chart

Answer 3

Do her parents know about her attitude? They are the ones who have the final say over her and  maybe they can scare her into listening to you?! I think you have done all you can as a babysitter. I would call the mother and ask her what to do. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I think I'd try sitting in the floor with her and just talking. Ask her what her problem is. Maybe she's angry at something you aren't aware of. I know she'll be making you crazy but she just see's you as someone else trying to run her life. My girls at that age were really wanting to be grown up and at the same time were still babies. Its a tough age and she has NO control over any thing in her life. Just asking her or even trying to be her friend will make your day go lots smoother. Its not easy on your part but I bet it will make things better if you are keeping her more than once. Good luck.

Answer 5

Maybe try to talk to her see what she likes to do.... then maybe she won't have a huge attitude around you!!! :)

Answer 6

Hmm well it kinda depends on what she's not listening to you about. Not to be rude but I think you kinda took the wrong approach by punishing her. Here's somethings you could try:

Sometimes kids say mean things to you to see if that will help them get their way. Try telling them like if their refusing to go to bed that it's like I'm sorry you dont wanna go to bed but you still have to do it. If the kid keeps the attitude and the parents ask you to sit again just tell them that you dont think you two are a good fit.

so try to give us some more info about what shes not listening about and I'll help you further. That is just an example ^^^

Hope this helped

Answer 7

Oooh the stubborn princess mode. Common for the age group they seem to think they know better LOL! You're on the right track with the taking things that matter away, but have you taken the "right" things away. Whats important to her TV? Games? Does she care if she is alone in her room for a spell? Sometimes the authoritive voice can actually do more damage because it just sends them into stubborn, frustration mode. Even my 4 y/o when I use that "tone" just folds up his arms and tells me "you are making me so frustrated"! LOL! As hard as it is, stay calm, stay consistent and try and reward her if she can communicate better about why she is so dead set against listening to you. Also I would talk to her parents about it, they need to help you out by reinforcing that she needs to listen to you. Best of Luck :) !

Answer 8

Tell her if she wont listen you will call her mom and dad

Tell her if she will listen you can watch a movie together or go outside

sit her down and ask why she isnt lsitening

last resort-call mom

Answer 9

Sit the brat down and tell her behave or she's in her room with nothing for the rest of her night.

Answer 10

I believe that she is trying to test you and see how much you will let her get away with. Maybe try a different approach and set goals of good behavior with rewards. Like a visit to the park or a trip to the library or read her a book. Maybe she just wants some attention. Some kids will be bad just to get attention. I would let her parents know if nothing works.  I am sure that they will know how to handle her. She just may be lonely and wants someone to notice her.

Answer 11

First of all, "punishment" should never be an approach if you are trying to get a positive reaction.  Secondly your "authoritive" voice, could mean many different things depending on the context.  First of all you need to understand why she is acting the way she is.  What is her motivation, what does she want to get out of it.  Sometimes this is easy, sometimes its not.  Then you need to asses, what it is you want, because ultimately that's what is going to determine your approach.  Think of it like an animal.  If you have no fence, they go running all over the place, put up a fence and you have an area to work with.  Getting the animal to do something, requires motivation and boundaries, it's the same with humans.  Identify the desire, set the boundaries and let her make the decision.  Don't get into a power struggle with her, that's the first and worse mistake people make with children and pets.  You are the authority, there is no question in that unless you question it.  Give her a choice, if she chooses to comply, consequence her positively(give her what your desire is), if she chooses not too, consequence her negatively(deny her her desire).  The key here is to match up your desires so that they match.  It takes some skill and definitely comes with experience.  What you are learning, some parents don't even get.  The moment you punish, or get into a power struggle, you've already lost.  At six, she is looking for you to create a definite boundary so she can feel safe.  Your using an authoritative voice or punishing her defeats the relationship you are trying to build.  Think of it like this:  creating boundaries, encourages the child to grow by giving them the choice to decide on their consequences good or bad, you are simply there to define the boundaries and give the consequence.  You punish her and you belittle her and make her feel "puny".  In all your actions, your motivation should be to model the behavior you expect.  If you can't do that, you aren't ready to provide the care that a child needs.  It's a lot simpler than most people make it out to be, even though it does take some practice.  Here's to your first lesson in working with children, good luck.