Please help me! Family issues...?

Question

How can I tell my Dad I need to move in with him without telling him about my alcoholic stepdad. My parents are divorced and I live in NY with my mom and sister. My dad lives in MI with my stepmom. My sister and mom don't want to live in MI and she doesn't want me to go, but I am very sad in NY. It's not really my place and I miss my friends in MI. But I'm afraid my Dad will say no because he's kinda tight on money right now and he and my stepmom probably don't want to take care of a 15- year old. I can't tell him about my stepdad, but how can I get it across that I need to be there?

I wanted to move there last year but my mom said no, so I couldn't. Finally she gave in in December because she saw how much I wanted to go, but my Dad told me to finish the school year. He hasn't talked about me moving there for a while, and never brings it up. I visit him every summer but for some reason I couldn't this year, and I'm thinking its because he doesn't want me to live with him.

What should I do? I'm so depressed in ny. Just ANY way you know without telling him about my stepdad

Answer 1

Your Dad needs to know the urgency of your problem or how else is he ever going to know that you need to move? He is probably thinkinbg that you're homesick and he can't afford you with him. Your Dad loves you and cares about you I am sure and wouldn't want you in that situation. If you have gone to be with him every summer and this is the only summer that you haven't I am sure that something is wrong that you don't know about.

Answer 2

Why don't you want to tell your dad about your stepdad? You should just be honest with your father and tell him what's really going on.  Would you rather let him know or continue being depressed in NY? If it's really bad then I would tell my father I want to spend time with him because I feel like we're drifting apart.  Then I'd ask him why doesn't he want me to stay with him? Let him know that you want to reconnect with him because soon you'll be leaving for college and who knows when you'll get to spend time with him again because you'll be too involved with your own life, etc.  Hope it works out for you.