Please help me...I'm an angry, sensitive, depressed, college student?

Question

Hello. I'm a 21 y/o female. I hate the world!!! I'm the odd, loner type that can never seem to catch a break. People treat me badly. I feel like an alien. I've become very withdrawn & I don't want to interact with people. I just interact with them in my head & spend a lot of time rejecting people that have done the same to me. I have left church b/c I felt the same way there. I'm already in therapy & take meds. What do you think?

Answer 1

You need to try to put out into your environment what you'd like to get back.  Hoky as that sounds.  But it's true.  If you want love and acceptance, then be loving and accepting.  If you want laughter, than laugh and tell jokes.  You don't have to change your whole demeanor all at once.  Just start making small changes.  Say hi to one person every day that you wouldn't usually have said hi to.  Smile as you pass people.  Some people won't smile back.  That's ok.  Maybe they're having a crappy day.  I know that if you are clinically depressed, it's extremely hard to feel better.  Do not be afraid to reach out for help if you feel that you are getting worse.  Maybe you need a change.  A smaller school.  Live at home and commute for a while.  Or if you already live at home, get out of there.  Don't just accept being unhappy.  You're too young for that.

Answer 2

Talk to someone.  If it has to be someone in your family or a therapist (like you are already doing), that is Okay.  Don't go crazy like that dude from VT.

Answer 3

I'm a 19 year old college student who loves people and the world. I think your problem lays in the way you view things. Make the things that make you odd the things that you love about yourself. What major are you? Try sitting outside a lot and watch the pretty things that are happening like flowers or clouds. Join a charity and help people worse off then yourself. Write your feelings in a notebook, and if you need someone to talk to add details, and you can talk to me ;).

cs major :) What made you decide chemistry?

Is it just a couple classes bringing you down? You could probably retake those classes to bring the gpa up if that is what you still want. ^ ^ What sort of stuff are you good at?

Answer 4

You are not alone. You could be describing me. I have friends and I married a good man who loves me. I think you may be taking things way too personally because you are too sensitive. It's a tough world out there. So many things we think and see are misinterpreted. You see people ostracizing you when they may not. It could be the messages you are sending out to them that you don't realize. Maybe you need to work on your social skills. Maybe you need to change your thoughts so they are less negative. Don't let it become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I'm 34. I went to college and had a great time. I just finished my masters. I'm quiet and shy but very friendly.

If you want to be a doctor then it's still possible. You could become a nurse practitioner or even a physician's assistant. (PA)

To have a better life is going to require some hard work for you. Are you willing and able?  Believe me, I still have work to do. It's hard to change. You took a huge step by seeking professional help. That is something that I did not do.

But don't worry so much. No one is out to get you. I'm sure there are a lot of people interested in you and that would like you if you opened up more to them. I have found that to be true. Sometimes it's the people that you would never think otherwise. Here's an example from my life. I went to NYC on a fashion trip in college. I hung out with a group of girls that I didn't really like (weren't very nice) but they were in my classes. It was either hang out with them or be by myself. On the bus ride back to home, I met a girl that was in the same position as me and she said, I didn't know that you were alone like me. We should have hung out. I liked her because she was nice. I'm kicking myself for not having looked outside my comfort zone. Have you made an effort to get involved in campus groups? I did that in college and made some great friends. Don't be afraid to try new things. This is the time to do it. You won't have this opportunity (not the same) when you leave college. You will but this is a good time to explore.

Just get out there. Smile. It increases your face value. It does. It makes you more approachable. What interests you? Find groups on your interests. Try new things. Keep a positive attitude. Don't let your past define you.  

Answer 5

Find another church that suits your style better.  Then, get your therapist to change your meds.  Keep a journal of how you feel.  Then, see what your life does.  Perhaps you should volunteer to work at a zoo so you can enjoy the animals.  They don't judge you.  They just love you once you become familiar with them.