Please help me. I don't know what to do.?

Question

What should I do for my son's first birthday when he really has no family? My fiance's family couldn't care less and always make excuses so they probably won't come. My family consists of my mother, 10 year old brother, and my sister and her 3 children more than likely won't make it either. I need something special because this is our first and only son, as we have lost 2 other children.

Answer 1

Sorry to hear what you've been through hun, and I completely understand you wanting to make this an extra special occasion. Do you have any close friends you could invite, especially ones with babies/young children? If not, still don't worry. It doesn't need to be about the number of people, but the quality of the time had between those people. Just focus on the things that make your son most happy and delighted. Do you have a fun farm or a zoo or anything near you? You could perhaps take him to something like that, or even a soft play centre - at this age it isn't necessary to do something overly extravagant - he's probably more enjoy a picnic in the park than dinner at the Ritz! You don't even need to leave the house to have a good time. You could fill your house or garden with balloons, play his favourite music, play his favourite games, let him play with his presents, build a castle out of all the boxes and have a play, give him his favourite food and make a huge fuss of him from dawn until bedtime. You could perhaps invite a professional photographer to capture the moment and have it printed on canvas or put in frames, if you wanted a special momentum. And don't forget those home movies you should make to play back to him when he turns 18! By the time he's 2 he'll probably be more interested in running around and playing with other kids, but at this age I really don't think he'll notice the amount of people there or what you do as long as he's enjoying himself, and in the next year I'm sure there'll be plenty of opportunity to take him to play groups and things where he can meet other toddlers so his second birthday can be filled with kids. He'll have a splendid time this year because he's with the people he loves most in the world, what's better than that? :-)

Answer 2

you should go out to an intimate family dinner at a nice place.  whether there's 100 ppl or 10 people at the birthday party, the baby won't remember but make it a special day for you, your fiancee and your special little baby boy. good luck.

Answer 3

Make the day all about him, do things that he would like start with breakfast, make him his favorite meal, for lunch go to the park and have a picnic play with him on the slide and swings, for dinner for somewhere kids friendly or make his favorite again. Just make the day all about him, get a special outfit to wear and a birthday pin to wear.

Answer 4

sorry for your losses. i understand you want to make this special. but a one year old wont know one way or the other. spend this next year getting baby involved in playdates and make friends for him. the second bday will be one where you can have a party that will be fun for him.

Answer 5

but he does have family. he has you and his daddy.

do something special as a family. take him out, h**l he's one, he wont remember if you did a huge party with lots of people there. if he likes the zoo, take him to teh zoo on his special day.

we're doing a party in a hotel ballroom and spending all this money and i can guarentee you my daughter will not remember a thing. big 1st bday parties are mostly for the adults. so something special for him  

Answer 6

Just have the people that matter.  While this is an important day for YOU, it means NOTHING to your son.  Don't waste your time, energy, or money on people that don't matter.

Answer 7

Dont make a big deal out of the first b-day, maybe a special dinner that you know your little one would love and get a big bag of mega lego. Other than that, there are tons of other b-days to come when they will have more friends and adopted anties and uncles to join ya

Answer 8

i think thats enough people anyway. they say to only have a small party on the first birthday as too many people can cause distress for them. make sure its people he sees all the time too so he wont see any strange faces on the day.

a party at home with a smash cake (a small cake that he can digs his hands into and eat) for him to have in his highchair will make great photos! hey, its his first birthday, its not like he'll eat stuff like that everyday, just a once off treat.

limit the party time too, say about 2 hrs is plenty.

congratulations on your sons first birthday! im sure he'll enjoy the day no matter what!

Answer 9

make it a special day to focus on him. have all meals together. take your child to a park or somewhere you guys enjoy taking ur child. express to ur child how special he is.

Answer 10

i would take him to a kids place like chuck e cheese, incredible pizza, etc... or get a cake and a few presents some kiddie music to dance to, and have a party of ur own... just know that its a special time for you, your fiance, and your little 1 yr old... it will be fun you just have to set ur mind to it.. i'm sorry your family is like that..  :(  but you can still make it special so you have the memory... GOOD LUCK HOPE YOU GUYS HAVE FUN!!!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your little boy!!!   :)