Please help me about these problems feeling guilty because of them

Question

Well to start off I have this thing where I can't control my thoughts at all something inside me says the complete oppisite to what I am actually thinking and me and councilers and friends have figured that out.

Anyway recently bumped into a nex and she wasn't nice to me she lied and cheated on me alot and it's made me very insecure about relationships I recently met my soul mate and we've talked about everything I tell her everything and she's fine with everything and I really admire that from her she helps me with alot of the problems anyway here's the story.

Went to a friends house to look around have a laugh and I see that also my friend who is a girl is there and because my friends house was full of crazy party drinkers and stuff I was very nervous and then I saw my good friend outside and smiled because I was glad I wasn't the only one who wouldn't party so I have someone to talk to anyway I have this problem where my thoughts keep saying I fancy other people and I don't at all in anyway because I know what feelings are to me but it really upsets me I feel so bad for it and because I smiled my thoughts thought I liked her and I dont shes just a good friend then I said to my friend I dont think I have feelings for her but I know I don't but I said dont think cos my thoughts think oppisite. Anyway I feel so guilty and disloyal am I disloyal am I a horrible person? I really want help I'm desperate to get help and I just want to be free from these thoughts because it ruins everything and I want to tell my girlfriend about this because I've told her everything pretty much we've been out for a couple months.

Answer 1

Hello,

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Answer 2

You are not a horrible person. These thoughts are likely from a chemical imbalance in your brain, or from some other condition that could be physical, emotional, etc in origin. You should go to see a doctor and tell them what you are feeling. Don't be afraid to tell them the truth...this is common and they have heard it all before. A good doctor will do an exam to rule out physical causes and look at some possible mental health issues. There are millions of people worldwide that have these issues...and you don't have to suffer! There is help available.

If you are feeling in a state of crisis, don't be afraid to call a crisis line where you live to get immediate help and counselling. Your health is worth it!

Best Wishes.

I hope this helps you to get the assistance you need.

Answer 3

just advice your girl on what you want from her but don't force. let her do her thing and you do yours - you don't need to cheat on her. one day she'll remember you