Please help me... answers very much appreciated?

Question

Hi, I am 17 years old and will be turning 18 in 6 months and will be graduating from high school in 4 weeks. Also, I just figured out I am pregnant. I have a great boyfriend and I am going to keep the baby. My boyfriend and I have made a plan to get married before he gets stationed (he is the navy) next year and we will be getting base housing and I will be doing online college courses. I am not so much worried about having the baby as I am telling my parents. My dad has been to jail 4 times for battery and domestic violence (beating me and my mom) and my mother is severly bipolar. I know that if I tell them that nothing good will come out of it and I will be hit. I really need advice on what to do. And please, please do not call me a "s**t" or a "w***e" ect. I know that I did not make the right decision and now I have to take full responsibility. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend too soon and I can't take it back. Please explain to me what I should do because eventually my parents will find out, I am just really scared I will get hurt or worse. Thanks.

Answer 1

first of all,  you are NOT a s**t or w***e at all, teen pregnancy is really common.  it is nice to hear that you and your boyfriend are getting married and you are keeping the baby, you will cope fine. as for your parents, have a mediator with you when you tell them, make sure the mediator is someone you know, and have someone there that can protect you against your father, your parents have the right to know and you have the right not to be abused so just take the appropriate precautions so you dont get hurt.  and dont be upset if they get mad, pregnancy is a beautiful thing and no one can take that happiness away from you

Answer 2

Best thing is to Graduate first, and maybe you can move into someone else's place, while you have your baby, maybe his mom's or a cousin, or rent a room else where..but do tell your parents when you move out..good luck..it is tough...but have your boyfriend find you a safe place...

Answer 3

Wait until you graduate highschool, move away with your man, have your baby, and then tell your parents!!! you will be grown!!! they wud no longer have a say so in your life!!!! and im so sorry to hear about ur past!!!  

Answer 4

This is a hard situation usually I would suggest for a young girl to tell her parents right away but in this case I would try and wait until you are moved out of their house. Maybe you can go live with your boyfriends family until you two can get a place of your own. I don't think its safe for you or your baby to be around an abusive person who you're afraid of. If you must tell them please don't do it alone, bring your boyfriend and maybe another friend along as well! Let them know that you plan to take care of everything as a responsible adult. I wish you all the best and hope everything works out good for you!

Answer 5

Maybe you could try telling them over the phone.  Then if they seem cool, you could talk to them about it in person but only if you have someone with you (ex. your boyfriend, his parents).  I wouldn't go alone or with a female friend.  And if they don't seem cool...then I guess you have to decide what to do.  Now that a baby is in the picture, you have to worry about his/her safety first and foremost and if that means less contact with them, then so be it.  Once you become a mom, protecting your child becomes an instinct.  I'm a single mom and had to tell my parents but fortunately, they are extremely supportive.

Best of luck.

Answer 6

If you want them to know soon, then i suggest having everyone together, his parents and yours. If you are not comfortable with that, then relax, and graduate and map out that later, dont put to much stress on yourself you have a little one to think about now. Telling them the marriage part first may be another option. Like I said focus and you and your baby. That little one  is depending on you. Congrats on finishing school. As far as people judging you, I think it takes a real woman to take responsibility for another life. You have your plan, go for it. Continue to thrive and focus on giving that baby a great life. All  the best to you and your new family.

Answer 7

go to the police and let them know u are in fear of being abused that is terrible, please go some where safe

Answer 8

If your boyfriend is working, you should get a job too and find a cheap apartment and move in together IF the age of majority in your state is 17, you can move out if you can live somewhere safe and support yourself. Get to the nearest free clinic and get medical and prenatal care. Don't move out until after graduation, you need that diploma!

Answer 9

Hun if your scared of being hurt, why don't you take your boyfriend along with you?

Too me you seem like your being responsible about it all, studying online, so make sure you explain it all to your parents. Who knows, this may be something that they will be happy about