Please help me convince myself....?

Question

I have been fostering a *perfect* dog for around 2 months now (Ayla, Boxer) she came to me shy, skinny and fearful..but now she will go up to a stranger in a second (kinda bad)

I need help giving her up, I have the room for her, I can afford to keep her, she is so loving...but I know that if I keep her I cant foster anymore...I have 5 dogs and 6 horses now

Help me find the downside of keeping her...please

♫♪ BB♫♪

Answer 1

Easy answer - there is a boxer in Louisiana at CAAWS that needs you desperately if you have a foster space - please email me if you have room...

You should be so very proud of the job you have done with Ayla (great name, I know where that came from!)...and if you can, you should let her have a person of her own.  Unless, of course, you are done with fostering, and can honestly you would be ok with retiring from rescue.

  But I do know a boxer that needs you...

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  Are you kidding?!  If you have a slot, I can have someone find transport...NC is nothing.  Rescue dogs go up the East Coast every week!  PLeeeease?

They are a kill shelter, and overcrowded - need urgent help after a second recent seizure case - and there IS a boxer there...that needs foster NOW...

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Answer 2

She'll be happy and in a forever home, you can have even more fun with a new foster!

Yay!  

Answer 3

Downsides:

-She'll cost a lot more money

-She'll be hard to socialize better

-She'll take up more space

-Your other dogs may get jealous

-She might not like living with horses (but I don't know)

-She'll take up a LOT of time

And the biggest one:

Someone else may be looking for that perfect boxer that they've been searching for for a long time. A loving home that will have more time for her and more time to socialize. Someone who has REALLY been wanting to rescue and is a responsible owner.

When she finds a new home, you can ask to keep in contact with the owner and see her whenever possible.

Adopting her out doesn't mean that she'll be gone forever!

Answer 4

I can't. You're a great person and an awesome dog owner...Ayla loves you and you love her. Sorry...I suck! :*(

Argggg....FINE:

The only downside is you won't be able to foster anymore, but that doesn't mean you can never foster again...oh wait...I'm supposed to be going the other way. You won't be able to help any other dogs...really can't think of any other "downsides" :)

Answer 5

there is no downside other then you couldent foster anymore...look i posted a question about a foster i had that was wonderful and fit in so much i hardly knew he was there so i adopted him out with the reasurance id groom him for free every month so i could see him,, he now has a wonderful home and i see him whenever i want two weeks ago we all met with our dogs totaling 5 at the beach it was great...make friends with the new owners befour adopting her out...at first "eddie" my foster was so excited to see me and didnt want to go with the new owners after grooming well after 3 times he was jumping at teh gate to go home to them...its more rewarding to give to them a forever home then give yourself a good dog...seeing as though you seem to have so many..ps..give someone else a good dog!  

Answer 6

Here is one in Reidsville,NC. (Not sure how far away that is from you.)

http://www.dogsindanger.com/dog.jsp?did=...

Tell yourself... *If I take in '1' dog... I can't help save '10' dogs. Do I want to save 1 dog? Or 10?*   You will have the joy of showing she went to a good home and then you will enjoy fostering many more dogs to come!

Answer 7

You won't be able to give another temporary home to a dog in needs of one and some basis training.

Some family who would be perfect for her and vice versa will miss out on a sweet and loving albeit trusting boxer

Answer 8

If you kept her, then you wouldn't be able to foster and help save other dogs. If you keep her, that is keeping one more dog from being trained into a lovable, perfect pet for another family.

I know that giving up a foster is hard, as I have had to do it several times. You just have to tell yourself that you will be making another family very happy with their new addition, that you helped bring out of her shell. She will be fine and will make a great dog for other people.

Keep doing what you are doing. Fostering and giving up great dogs is so hard, but very rewarding in the end. It takes special people to foster, and we need more out there.

So basically, my rambling is: If you keep her, you can't save more lives.  

Answer 9

This is really tough. I actually work at a Doggy Day Care and we foster Boxers in particular. Aside from the fostering, Boxers are very popular dogs in my area, probably second to Labs. I see why you want to keep her, but also that you want to give her up so you can foster and rehabilitate other dogs.

I think Ayla will find a loving home fast, our dogs are only there for a short period of time. If not, at least you have given her a slight comfort in that you have gotten her healthy and have made her less fearful of her surroundings... And now you can give another dog that comfort.