Please help me....i'm in all sorts of trouble..?

Question

I’m 19 years old and I stay in india and have some terminally serious problems and I spent a lot of time on this as it has got all the details of my problems as stated below-

1. i have got no friends because-

a. I don’t go to college very often and there are no guys of my age near my house (may b there r girls,but,I cant talk to a girl.infact I never talked to a girl and even if I do, I think, I’ll be embarrassed if my parents know it and I’m sure every girl will hate me) and i don’t go to college regularly coz m getting bald…It sux..infact I suk…

b. i don’t have communication skills (I cant start a convo or even carryon a convo that some1 else starts)

c. i used to have a lot of friends intil I was 15 and after that v had to go to some other city and thus, I lost all my friends….and in the new city, I really struggled to make a friend and when I made a few, I underestimated the value of friendship and blew my chace….

d. i am in 2nd year of engineering now, and in first year, my attendance was just 7% coz I lost a lot of hair (I was 18 then) and I was 2 young 2 get bald….and I consulted a lot of doctors, but, to no avail….so, I didn’t want to showup with my pathetic bald head in the class….

2. my mom doesn’t love me because-

a. i really caused a lot of inconvenience to them by involving in some very very very very very seriously bad deeds(which are unforgivable)

b. i had a big fight with my dad last year and v ended up exchanging blows…my dad apologized many times but, I don’t want to buy them…I wont talk 2 him again until I die….and my mom doesn’t appreciate that…

c., most of my relatives like my grandpa, uncles,etc were seriously troubled and pissed off by me

3. i feel really miserable because-

a. most of the guys I know have girlfriends and I too always dream of having 1 everynight but, its not possible coz I don’t look good…and I’m not funny either…so, y wud a girl hangout wid a total loser like me….

b .i cant even end my disgusting life coz I don’t have the guts to do that….i’m a big loser

c .to add insult to the injury, I thought dat since I cant get a gal in real life, I’ll try to make a friend online so that I can feel a bit more comfortable and cheer myself up…but she too said that I totally suk and no girl will ever like me…..

d. I’m under enormous pressure coz since I scored very poor in last year, I need to score really well in the next two years to secure a good job..or that will b the end of my pathetic life…but, I suddenly lost complete interest in studies

e. infact, I lost total interest in life…I even don’t like playing video games anymore despite being a gaming freak…and nothing really interests me now except the inner urge to make friends and a gf and live a decent life…..

f. I’m an atheist….coz I don’t find a proof to the existence of God…..

g. I cant even change myself to get rid of all the above drawbacks with out some serious help of others.. and I have no positive aspect in me….

I know…that one cant really trust any1 online but still, I’m really hoping that some1 helps me out coz, my mom wont take me 2 a psychiatrist or some1 who councels anymore and I don’t get any pocket money at all…no, v r not poor but, a middle class family…so, since I’ve got no other option left, I’m asking for help online..can some1 give me some tips though I don’t deserve and might not follow…I actually don’t know what to do….m seriously confused and helpless…I feel I’ve got no one in this world who cares about me…its like..i’m all alone…..this is pretty important for me..so, I posted this in more than one category..

Answer 1

Hi

At your age most of us behave very arrogantly...i know so many people who have gone thru so many ups and downs and later they became really successful.. See its the attitude what makes us feel positive or negative..

whatever happened in the past, u have to forget it slowly and so will others....but at the same time u have to prove yourself in front of everyone that u r not a worthless guy...time will definitely heal everything..

If u dont have friends then its ok...But in the future try not to tell about ur personal details to each n everyone u know ..

As far as your hair r concerned,  if it hereditary then it  cant be cured without a weaving otherwise go for some homeopathy treatment, i am sure it will help you and believe me depression can make u bald.. so its totally fine if u want to chat but u log into the right rooms .Meanwhile u can wear a cap...

read jokes, watch movies and exercise too...i am sure it will help you,if u need any help i am here for u..

Answer 2

wow. dude. this totally puts my life into perspective... ok wel dude what I would do is WORK ON YOUR JOB. hard, try your best to finish your college degree, and then when you get a decent job you can afford a psychiatrist, and hopefully they will help you. actually you might have depression, which is a disease and then its not you really but you just feel bad for no reason. just hang in there dude, dont kill yourself!

if u wanna talk my gmail is [e-mail]

oh and dude, for your head, wear a hat! just MAKE SURE YOU SHOW UP FOR CLASS.

Answer 3

Please do not consider ending your life. Though I know you feel like you are useless and worth not even a penny. Don't be negative. I know you probably don't care what I have to say. But please e-mail me? You blocked you mail, so would please e-mail me?

[e-mail]

Answer 4

Get a job and pay for your own counseling.

Answer 5

Just forget about the past and look toward to the future.....

Focus on your study for now and forget about your problems if you think about those problems you might fail your class and it would be very bad. your 19 so you still  young so be happy and..

YOU NEED GOD....

Answer 6

Find local groups to join.  You could become a Buddhist since belief in God is not required and you would meet a lot of people at the temple.  Also does the newspaper there have a weekly section of groups and events that you can join or attend to meet people who share the same interests?  You could take some personality tests on the internet and find out more about your strengths and personal qualities.  From what I see you communicate very well in writing, even superiorly.  here are some sites for exploring your personality:

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTyp...

http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

http://www.careerkey.org/asp/your_person...

One of the things that you'll learn from studying your personality is that there are millions of compatible mates out there who are looking for someone just like you.  You just have to steer clear of those who have opposing personalities because they will make you feel like s***.  If you learn Buddhist principles you will get along better with others including your family.

After you learn about your personality you could place an ad in the personals section of your newspaper for a date.  Perhaps you could use that same medium to find male friends to play video games with, even though it's kinda radical, that might be just what you need.  

Good luck!

Answer 7

Here u go

take it or forget it

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CkK5pCqp_...

Answer 8

i think you need a personal help and care .

don't think lot on these problems , more you think more you get tense.

so i suggest you just start ot enjoy your life as it comes day by day.

dont try to solve thses problems .

try to do some thing different in your life. if you do what you done in past then you will get same things and same problems .

try to do  some thing differnet in your life.

Answer 9

K well there's nothing wrong with wanting an online friend.

You can e-mail me at   [e-mail]

ill be your online friend :)

don't give up on life, thats the worst you can do.

i feel bad for you felling alone but i was there once and things worked out.  but yeah, work on your job or get a paper route.

So yeah e-mail me please

Bye for now

Answer 10

Well firstly, you're never going to be able find a gf, make friends, live that decent life so long as you continue to despise yourself and worry so much about what you think others will think of you. Who freaking cares if you're going bald? It's not a big deal. You're the only one who cares so much. Life is what you make it, so the way I see it you will do one of two things:

1. Continue to do what you're doing now, avoid social situations, stick to yourself, and continue to hate yourself and your life or

2. Get out there, make the most of what you've got and actually TRY.

Your life can't get better unless you challenge yourself, so go do it since what you're doing now isn't working for you.

And forgive your dad already. Holding grudges is such a waste.

Answer 11

Ok... first thing if u loosing hair and if u can affort a good doctor do so... if not shave off completely as thats inn these days...

I think u have created problems for urself and u need to solve them.

God exists it upon u too belive or not???? Know urself first take time to write down ur strenght weaknesses and work on them and stop cursing urself. Everyone makes mistakes not sure what unacceptable misktakes u have done !!! but try correcting them now.

Complete ur studies if u dont help urself no one will help u and taking, pressurising urself @ this age is not good :(

Just think that worst is yet to come

All the best dude and go for it :)