Please help me im so upset.?

Question

hi my name is Rocia. and im 14 years old. im suppost to be entering high school in 2 weeks. but i got held back. its my first year of failing. 8th grade was terrible for me. i fell in love wit a boy. lost my virginity. got pregnant the guy left me and then misscarried. got called a ****, the pregnant w***e, so many mean names. i got cried everyday of the reputation i got. i was so happy to be out of that school started something new. i just got a call from my school today saying im going back to 8th grade. i cant take this all the girls just make me want to run away and never come back. i hate my life. my older sister got pregnant the same month that i did and i know it might seem selfish but it hurts me when she talks about her baby kicking and no one in my family knew i was pregnant and they are all buying my sister stuff and always ignoring me. i dont know what to do anymore. i want to leave my house. is there any place that i could go in new york? thts where i live. and what should i do about school i CANT go back there!! ?

Answer 1

I feel so bad and sorry for you. You must be having a lot of stressful moments. I think the best and only good thing you should do is reveal the truth to your family, you can't lie to them forever. Take care of your baby and I don't know if you should go to school, maybe a private teacher, I don't know. I don't think you should leave your home, what about the baby? You do what is best and good for you. Hope your life will go better on.  

Answer 2

wow, you need to sit down with yoru parents and talk to them, tell them whats been goin on and how you feel.if you don't tell  them how will they know they are upsetting you?

Answer 3

I think the school counselor should be your first stop. Make an appointment to see him/her right away, and don't take no for an answer. If you want, a parent can go with you,  just to make sure you understand everything.

When you see the counselor, ask why they didn't tell you until now that you'd go back to 8th grade.  That should have been decided in June, at the latest. Find out what is going on.  If you do in fact have to repeat 8th grade, see if you can transfer to a different school.  Many school districts allow this in situations where the student would benefit from a fresh start.   But you might also keep in mind that the girls who bothered you in 8th grade last year will no longer be there, and anyway, people's memories are short.  By now they probably have other things on their minds. You will make new friends no matter where you go to school.

The pregnancy and miscarriage must have been devastating, especially when having to live with someone else who is pregnant. I'm sure you're still in pain over that, and you should try to find someone to  help you through it.  If your parents have accepted your sister's pregnancy, they will surely be sympathetic to what you have gone through and will want to help. Trust me, no mother wants to see her daughter in such pain.  Your family should know so they can be sensitive to your needs during this time and get you some help if you need it.  

And although you have suffered a great loss, don't be in a hurry to get pregnant again.  You are so young.  The emptiness you're feeling will go away faster if you can find value in yourself as a person of worth. No  one else, not a boyfriend or a baby or anyone, can give you that.  No one else can make you happy.  It's very hard, but everyone has to be secure and comfortable with themselves before they can be truly happy with someone else or take care of someone else.  Be patient and have hope.  Things WILL fall into place.  

Answer 4

sounds like a troll

Answer 5

Well for your own good please just tell your parents don't run off its really lonely i tried it.Its ok to be pregnant it will hurt but that means you have given 1 life to someone.Just tell your family they'll understand and look after you self nicely.

      P.S Congratulations on being pregnant

Answer 6

school can be tough but if you get at least 3 bff youll be good. people to talk to and hang out with and if you need a night away you can go there. i know its the same grade but theres a different class and people that probably dont know your story. good luck!

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear that...

Why don't you talk to your parents about your problems...I'm pretty sure if you go to them for need, they would be willing to help you.

If not...

You should talk to your school counselor or principle, so he/she knows what you are going through; he/she could help stop those people from calling you names or bothering you.

OR...

You could just transfer to a different school, start a new reputation and make new friends.

Answer 8

are there any socia support services like department of human services, there are many agencys that help out in situations like this, grab your local yellow pages look in the white pages or something and look under community services and youll find something in there