Please help me? im such a d**k?

Question

ok well i need people that used to get mad/jelouse at there gf/bf to easy? what do you guys do to stop it? because i need to stop being a d**k towards her for smal lstuff cuz i know if i dont stop i will lose her and i dont wanan lose her:( so i need help. what do you guys do to calm yourself down?

Answer 1

I'm still a jealous person. Sad, but true.

I'm still trying to realize-NOT ALL GUYS WILL HURT ME.

I'm in love with my husband. Him and I both have jealousy issues.

But we deal with it.

It's hard to calm down- I barely ever can...especially about other girls.

I guess it's insecurity. But there are days when i sayin my mind "Eff It"..if he leaves me, he wasn't worth my time.

I think it's basically impossible to grow out of being jealous- you just have to talk to yourself at times when your getting over heated...but sometiems it hard to not get hurt...

Good Luck.

Answer 2

if she is with you, obviously she likes or loves you enough, just think she is with you not them, you got her, girls hate ***** thats why i hate boys now girl go lez because of that **** =/

but remember you have her not them

Answer 3

Each time you feel yourself getting mad, take a deep breath, force yourself to think why you love her and make her a compliment for it. it will get easier each time you do it.

Answer 4

Work on your insecurity.  I'm only so much help here since I'm not that type of person.  My girlfriend can go dance with another guy, have guy friends, whatever.  It doesn't bother me because I know that if I didn't trust her, I wouldn't truly love her.  So if I love her, I must obviously trust her.  See how it works?

I don't have insecurity with girlfriends.  I know they're with me because I'm a good person who will treat them well and do the right things.  I feel that way because I'm not an insecure person and know who I am, how I act, and why I am that way.  I'm confident in myself.

I also know that, if a girlfriend did cheat on me or leave me for someone else, then it's her loss because of what she passed up on.

See, none of this applies if you're a "d**k" as a person.  You don't give the girl anything to want to stick around for.  If she leaves you, it's probably because you're a d**k in the first place.

Sure, I've had breakups, and I've had girlfriends leave me.  And you know what?  About 90% of them have come back down the road, wanting forgiveness, saying they messed up, talk about how they missed me, etc.  Not that that really helps down the road, but it once again reassures me that I'm a good person who treats women well.

Until you stop being insecure in yourself, there isn't much you're going to find to "calm yourself down when it happens".  If you do have these issues, maybe you should worry more about being less of an insecure person and a "d**k" than worrying about your girlfriend.

That's not a slam on you, simply using your own words to explain how I'd handle it.

Answer 5

I just think in my head... "He/she chose me, not them"

Answer 6

I guess it sounds like more of a confidence issue.  You probably get jealous because you don't think you're good enough...whether you know it or not.  I guess work on your self-confidence and the rest may follow.  

Answer 7

The best thing you can do is try to figure out why you are so jealous. It usually boils down to you being insecure about yourself. You worry that she will leave you because you are not good enough. What you probably need to do is to tell yourself "I am a good guy and I attract good people to me." Say this enough times and you will start to believe it. Once you believe it, you will be amazed at how you treat others and yourself because you are more confident, more relaxed and you are not worried about who is going to leave you or do you wrong.

Answer 8

awww.



i was the same way!

..and he ended up breaking up with me after like 9 months! :(

im just NATURALLY a jealous person!

but, what i tried doing is..like not think jumping to conclusion and think about the bad things! .

...like if he was talking to another girl..i would automatically question him about.. but, NOW i know it doesn't really matter he can talk to who ever he wants and it doesn't me he doesn't like me or is cheating on me!  

so, just take it easy..don't jump to the conclusion..or you'll lose  the person you love..like me! :(

haha.

  

Answer 9

Well, being jealous is not gunna get you anywhere.

My boyfriend had the same problems, && it used to drive me crazy.

&& i would just tell him, that if i wanted to be with someone else i would. && that i love him so much. && since i have never been a jealous person, and i don't care if  he looks at other girls and stuff. I think he realized that i wasn't going to cheat on him and that i trusted him, so he calmed down a lot. But yeah. just think that shes not going to hurt you, and that being jealous is just gunna ruin your relationship. Remember that trust is the key to a great and healthy realationship.

Answer 10

please help me? i suck a d**k?

ok well i breed people that used to get mad/jelouse at there bf/bf to queasy? what do you girls do to stop it? because i need to stop needing a d**k towards him for smal lstuff cuz i know if i dont stop i will lose him and i dont wanan lose him( so i need help. what do you girls do to calm yourself down from me?

Answer 11

It's called TRUST. If you learn how to trust her there shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 12

Omg, my boyfriend does the same thing it gets so annoying.

Well same thing i tell him, I chose you, not any other guy. & I'm not the cheating type so if i was interested in someone else you would defiantly know because i would break up with you. If she says she's in love with you and that she's being faithful then you have nothing to worry about. Just think about that the next time you get jealous.

Let her do anything, and everything that she allows you to do. Relationships have to be equal.

Good luck dude.