Please help me its very important

Question

i grouded my 12 year old son because his sister said that he took away the guitar from guitar hero 3 and hit her with it shes 9 and she really doesnt lie alot. but my son says she tryed to hit him he grabbed it and pushed it then pulled it and threw it on the ground to stop her from hitting him. she is 9 years old but what do you think?

Answer 1

Little girls can be evil.  I'd say ground both of them until you find the truth.  Kids are kids.

Answer 2

teach them a lesson

take the stupid game awawy from them so they dont do it

or time out

it works :)

Answer 3

Each kid is of course going to blame the other kid.  You'll never know the absolute truth unless you saw the whole thing for yourself.

You need to focus on the issue of why they fight, not on who was right or wrong.  Is either or both child bored?  jealous of the toys/attention the other has?  resentful of parental favoritism?  Think it over.  No one knows your children better than you, so only you can unearth the real source of unhappiness here.  

Once you find it, then try to find a positive solution for it.  Remind each child that if they are upset, they musn't hit or push each other - they should ask you to referee the other's bad behavior.

Also, please be careful to use proper spelling and punctuation if you want people to take you seriously.  If you write like a child, people won't have much faith in your ability to raise children like an adult should.

Answer 4

Ground both of them until you get to the bottom of it.  

Answer 5

Well, maybe grounding just one of them was a bad idea. But grounding no one is even worse because no one learns from it...

I would ground both of them until one of them confesses that he/she lied. But don't get mad at the one that lied, just look on the bright side... 'He/she told me the truth after all and the other ended up learning a lesson, not to make up stories about being hurt.'

Good luck!!!

Answer 6

well do u think that's true if it is then u did a good job of grounding him. but how do u know that's true she might be lying u never know unless u were there. she might just trying to get revenge on him

  hope u find the real answer

  sincerely nicole smith    

Answer 7

i think you need to understand that they are kids and kids fight from what i notice from my kids is that the one who is quick to tell has some of the fault of the fight no its is not right for you son to hit any one

YOU ALSO NEED TO TELL YOU DAUGHTER TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM AND PLEASE TELL HER TO STOP ANNOYING HIM AS WELL you see its not fair in his eyes and he will hate for it

Answer 8

U said ur daughter doesn't lie a lot and U never mentioned anything about ur son lying. Don't choose any sides. SOMEONE must be lying here. They have different sides to the situation so ground them both for 3 days.

Answer 9

well considering they both have dif. storys, and u dont know what really happened. u might be grounding the wrong person. soooo either u can ground both of them for fighting in the first place, or dont ground them, but talk to them about the importance of sharing......  

Answer 10

Sounds to me as they both were at fault...Ground them both...her for hitting him and him for taking matters into his own hands and throwing the guitar down...he could have broken it,he needs to let you know when his sister is being naughty. But just between you and me if I were him I would have done the same thing if she were hitting me with it. This is a scenario straight out of my house with my 12 year old daughter and her 14 year old brother. I have had this almost IDENTICAL situation (Guitar Hero), and I grounded them BOTH!

Answer 11

They sound like typical brother and sister. My brother and I were the same way when we were growing up. I would sit them both down and ask if he hit her and if she hit him and who started it. If they both hit each other then I would punish both of them. It is really great that your daughter does not lie (more kids today need to be raised like that)!!! As a punishment you could take away something that they enjoy like the computer or the tv. I hope that I have helped.

Answer 12

Just take away the game. That way nobody is resentful that your taking someone else's side. And the fact that your daughter is 9 doesn't mean that she's not at fault. If you have that mentality then you're giving her allowance to be a brat.

Answer 13

thats just brotherly sisterly love the boy prob got annoyed and did hit her but boys will be boys