Please help me my mom is so mean it makes me want to cut myself. i did once but only once. help me!?

Question

im 13 years old and a girl. i am very very emotional but still... my mom is so mean to me and when her boyfriend and her were sitting on the couch and i was on the floor infront of them me and him were talking and i said how i accidently walked away with the wrong familey once cause i wasnt paying attenetion and moms like "yeahh well i never lose you.. i've tried and it doesnt work" and it like made me cry. its not just this once and i know shes joking but it really hurts. its all the time. and everytime i do something not perfect like if i fold my clothes inside out or put the bread in the toaster wrong she screams at me. and if i try to talk to her or spend time with her she calls me a little sh** and tells me to fu***** get out of her face and leave her alone and i spent the whole day away from her and she went outside and i came with her and she tells me not to come and im like why? i've been gone all day i just want to spend time with you and she said "whatever" and her boyfriends like "what? thats not nice" and shes like "it doesnt matter". and thats the worst part. she makes me feel like a dont matter and it would be bettter without me andim starting to beleive it myself. i have a big scar on my arm from when i cut myself cause i was feeling depressed and worthless and stupid and she still hasnt noticed it. and it was really visable and she didnt even ask. and i sat on our roof for an hour and she didnt even notice i was gone. i also ran away once and she didnt come looking for me untill her friend called and told her that i was half way across town. what should i do i try to talk to her and shes just like "whatever" "t doesnt matter" and im so upset i cant live with my dad caz he works full time help me please!

Answer 1

get a hold of your dad anyways.  Do you ever see him on a regular basics?  You should let him know what is going on.  If momma gets mad at you for telling him tell her she wouldn't listen to you & you had to confide in someone, then tell her how you feel, is she doesn't give you the chance i would try to live with my dad, so what if he works full time, most people do.  Is your mom using drugs?  Sounds like it.  I wouldn't trust the boyfriend anyone that would stay with someone who treats their kids like that and stays around is a deadbeat in my opinion.  God will be with you just call out his name. He will never turn away from you.  

Answer 2

my mother is the same exact way and trust me cutting yourself will not make it any  better go to a school counselour or something they can help you

Answer 3

My Dearest Royalty...my heart goes out to you.I hear this so often how young people come from broken homes and are crying out for love and attention. I came from one myself and when I was younger, young people weren't cutting themselves. When we have parents that are hard to take we tend to take it SO PERSONAL. You need to look at your Mom and Dad as people first, and what was their life like growing up to now ? Often our parents are messed up and very often immature themselves...so how are they going to raise us properly ? Well that's when our problems start. Your Mother may be like my sister was and didn't know how to show love because of my Father.My niece went looking for love in all the wrong places,if you know what I mean.And some kids want to hurt themselves. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. She needs help in knowing how to love you and that's why she would love her boyfriend first...she doesn't know how to love really. If you can somehow get some counseling,church pastor,youth group,etc....it could at least help you see that it's NOT YOU. To hurt yourself won't change her and depression is going to lead you into negative things.Get around your sincere friends and some family if you have it.I made it through a mean Father and today I am told what a loving,caring person I am and how I am so understanding of people's problems.Please don't cut yourself again honey because your Mother's problems sound like she really needs help that hurting yourself won't change.Please hang in there...I'll be praying for you.

Answer 4

Girl, don't worry....first of all, you HAVE to keep faith in yourself.

I don't know very much about you personally, but, because you're only 13, you have time to grow and develop into a very wonderful, mature, smart girl....you have it inside of you, so keep the confidence in yourself that you will develop into a great person, if you don't feel like you're one already.

For you mom, it seems like she doesn't care very much...but that is NO fault of your own, and you're not alone. Your mom probably has some other emotional problem and so she isn't being a responsible or loving parent. Girl, you need to remember that it's NOT your fault, and you are NOT worthless. There will always be people that say these things to you, but they are lying to you. I know you're 13, so you might now know this fully yet, but as you continue to grow you will realize that there are certain people who are totally miserable and try their best to make YOU miserable too...ignore them.

Like I said earlier, you're not alone. My mother was like this too, she would fight with me when I was 13 and 14 years old.

Just remember, you are a star that will shine...don't let ANYONE, even your mother, make you forget that. Cutting yourself, hurting yourself in any way, is not worth it. I know it feels like a release, but you are too good to be hurting yourself. Listen to music. Go outside. Talk to your best friends.

I hope this helps...as someone who has a mother like yours and who cut himself once before too, take my advice and keep confidence in yourself and your future...you will escape from this pain. Hurting yourself won't help you get any closer.

Stay strong.

Answer 5

I'm not to sure how to help, but ask your mom if she loves you.. if she says yes then say i don't feel loved... if she loseins up then just try to be patient.. but living with your dad would be better... i know he works full time but maybe he can work something out. Try to live with another family member that you ar close to!!

i'm very sorry that your mom does this to you...

don't cut your self.. just know that you are better then that.. you sound like a lovely kid and that you didn't do anything to be treated like this.... im 14 so i know where you come from.

it's not your fault.. your mom probably is depressed or something went wrong in her childhood.. your mom probably just doesn't know what to do..

God bless you..(i almost cried.. i'm emotional just like you.)

Answer 6

Cutting yourself leaves scars and you will have to explain them for the rest of your life.. You mom is mean because she wants to be young and pretty again.. Plus she is an unfit parent..  

Answer 7

I'm addicted to cutting. It's like a drug. Believe me that this is absolutely not something that you want to mess around with due to the fact that it will easily take over your life. There are a ton of other things that you can do rather than cut like listening to music or reading and talking to friends. If you feel urges again, snap a rubber band against your wrist a few times which will make you feel less like cutting. If you ever want to talk to someone with experience in this issue or have more questions tonight, email me through my page or at [e-mail]

Answer 8

first i just wanna say that i am so sorry that u have to go thru this. my mom is the same way and i've been thru so much in my life. there comes a point in ur life when u realize that sometimes even family doesnt care, not because they dont want to but sometimes they cant help it. ur mom could have been this way for a long time and got stuck in her ways and now she couldnt change it even if she wanted to, which means she would first have to admit that she has a problem which i doubt she would, my mom never did. what u need to do is find a therapist/counselor that u can trust and tell them how u feel. if u try talking to ur mom it most likely wouldnt make a difference anyway, believe me i've been there. in some ways im still there. only difference now is that i've come to terms with the fact that its her not me, and thats what u have to tell urself sweetie because trust me its not u its her and u cant change that u have to except that and it will be hard taking all the emotional abuse but u have to learn to let it "slide off ur back" so to speak and i know its easier said then done. but i've gotten to a point now where when my mom b*****s about something or calls me names i take a deep breath and i tell myself that she cant help it, granted im cursing her out in my mind, but it helps to keep me calm knowing that its her personality flaw, not mine and im going to be happy and not let anyone bring me down, mother or not. if u ever wanna talk, u can contact me anytime.  

Answer 9

Dont be a cutter or sucidal in anyway but here are some numbers you can call

Abuse Hotline:[phone]

Hope Hotline: [phone]

Runaway Hotline: [phone]

Suicide Hotline: [phone]

Answer 10

You need to pin your mom down and tell her that she is hurting you and that you want to kill yourself and that you're acting b****y and that you need to treat me better and that you would rather live with a hobo!  Maybe if you tell her in a mean way, she'll listen better and maybe get her feelings hurt.  And if she says whatever or it doesnt matter pull her back and say yeah it does or no this is serious, mom!  (Dont call her mom, call her her first name)  say ur jokes hurt and that you are puncturing my heart with your unkindness.  even run away to your bffs house and ask them to help you.  buy a plane ticket to new zealand if you have to!  Just do something like that to make her stop and listen!!

Answer 11

Oh Gosh,

I would like to say you sound like a very nice girl and it is your moms loss, but i know at age 13 that doesn't help.

please don't ever cut yourself again. PLEASE.

It sounds like your mom has some serious unresolved issues, and she is really bitter about something, and taking it out on you cuz you r there and she can get away with it (i mean she knows deep down u will still love her)

u are neither worthless or stupid. don't let anyone make u feel like that. rise above it. Please try. Go to school, get involved in what ever u can. try to talk to your school guidance counselor who i m sure can arrange to see u once a week or arrange for u talk to someone. do not give up on yourself.  The things you are doing are an attempt to get her attention. It sounds like she is not capable of giving you what u need right now. she may be suffering some sort of depression herself. u are not qualified to or expected to deal with your mom and what ever problems she may have.

do u have a good relationship with your dad? i guess i don't understand why working full time means you can't live with him. most parents work full time.

is there a grandparent, aunt or uncle who could help?

u really need to talk to someone. This environment is not healthy for you and if u don't act now i m afraid of what u may do. does your dad know what u are dealing with, and that u cut yourself?