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Question

leave in Nigeria. I finished high school 2yrs ago. my parents are separated, I wanted to study medicine in Nigeria but the only comfortable place is the private schools cos there is strike and cultism in the public schools so i went to Ghana to school and offered Biomedical engineering. During my first semester break, i realized the school is not wat we call a real University. it had a lot of problems to numerous to mention. When i came back 4 the winter break my dad said i should school in Nigeria(If not in Nigeria he wouldnt pay my school fees) until i am 20 and by then i would have almost finished my university. He promised me a car,a house and a laptop in my first semester and also my masters in any part of the world and i know he would do it. Any way the point is when i came back due to some reasons i realized i didnt want to study medicine again. I also realized i had the flare for fixing and repairing.But some times i still want to be a doctor. To tell u the truth as i am typing this, i dont know what i am saying i dont know what i want to be anymore.My mom says i should school where i want to but right now she doesnt have the cash for it until i dont know when this year(but its going to be this year) . Right now i am searching for a private school in Nigeria but there is none cos they have started a section already. and i cant wait till January cos i have waited 4 six months already, cos my dad and mom where arguing about where i would school but now its my choice and because of everything that has happened i travelled to another state so my mind would settled on what i want to be but it is to no avail. i have no answer and this is my second week away from them.(They have been seperated 4 over 10 years so i am not confused because of them) And i dont know of any councellor in Nigeria that could councel me besides i dont have cash to pay for their services and i dont want to ask my parent for the cash. The first problem is WHAT DO I WANT TO BE,the second is WHICH school. if u need to chat with me to help me out its [e-mail]. But i need help and i need it fast.

Answer 1

WOW.  Everybody faces these questions when they start school.  I don't know much about schools in Nigeria, but there has to be someplace you can go.  (Your father should pay for your school wherever you want to go, but then, parents aren't always rational people.)  Perhaps HE can make a suggestion as to where you can go?  If he can't, then maybe he should help you search for a school.  After all, he's limiting your options by insisting you go to a school in Nigeria, so he should help you find someplace.  If you still don't want to go to school in Nigeria, you should wait until your mom has the money to send you somewhere else.  Your parents should both come to terms with the fact that you are growing up but you still need their support in order to fulfill your potential.  In order for them to help you effectively, they need to work together, but you also need to know what it is you want.  Sometimes it's best to go to a larger school for a year and take a lot of different classes in different disciplines.  You may find something you like.  This is poor advice, but it is the best I can give.  Good luck, Rosabelle.

Answer 2

its tough to make decisions like these...

so first of all its between medicine and another career in possibly the trades repairing/fixing things?

well either way youre gonna make yourself lots of money with each. people in the trades are in high demand everywhere right now. obviously, youre interested in both...so either choice will capture your interests. its just choosing one thats the problem. im not sure how to help you exatly...try making a list of the pros and cons of each career...think about your future...youve had abit fo experience with both. which SUITS you the best? which can you picture doing 10 yrs down the road?

and as for the school...its between nigeria which isnt very good? but then you get your school paid for if you go there...so between that and a school in the states or cnaada or the UK? somewhere else?

i think you should have a serious conversation with you parents about what you want to do...so first of all try to figure out which career youre leaning slightly more towards, adn then talk to your parents about this. there might be one school that will be better for you medical degree....etc. im sure if youre very mature and calm and you have good reasons to back yourself up, you might be abel to work out some type of agreement with your parents...

im sorry, i dont feel as if i was too much help but this is a very confusing situation!

i truly wish you all the best of luck!

Answer 3

Well First off you need to center yourself and clear your mind, focus on only what you are deciding on, ignore the parent issues, or anything else that will block clear thinking. Think of the good things for each and think of the bad things for each, and write them down on seperate pieces of paper (one for medical and one for fixing things) Draw a line down the middle of both pieces and write bad on one side of the line and good on the other side and write the things you think of in the designated spaces. The decision you should make is the one with the most good things and the least bad things. I use this on really hard decisions. I had to decide in high school if I wanted to go to art school (I could get a scholarship and student grants) or if I wanted to persue my dream to be a masseuse (no grants, no scholarships, no support for my school councelor he tried to talk me out of it and wouldn't even let me take anatomy in hs to prepare me for college) In the end I decided on being a Masseuse. That is what I am meant to do and that is what makes me happy, I am due to graduate in November of this year. Do what will make you happy, don't worry about money, what others want, do what is best in the long run and decide if you will still want to do it 5 years from now. If you already are having doubts about med school, that tells me that is not what you truly want. But it is your decision in the long run. Best of luck to you.