Please help me out from my problem abt my job and life?

Question

Yesterday my FIL called me up and told me that i hvae 2 days time to tell him that i have quit the job for the baby..they are not agreeing on that any maid shud take care of it too...my hubby doesnt utter any word in front of them...they have the ego problem and cant see that i am earning and in dependent...they want to ruin my life....it has been 4 yrs fo marriage now and still my hubby doesnt listen to any of my things and doest teh exact things as said by his parents...what ever i have discussed with my hubby goes back to my inlaws and i get scoldings...there is no privacy between our relationship and everytime my hubby has it in mind that i am doing all teh things against his parents... i have tried to make him understand but he is like his parent's pet ruining my life..plz help me out with a solution that what shud i do with teh job...they want to make me dependent on them and many times it has happened that he asks me to stay with his parents when i didnt have a job and he used to stay away....help me plzzzz

Answer 1

flow with the flow yaar... flow with the flow...

Answer 2

I think you should keep your job, don't lean on someone - it MAY lead to and unstable future, you could be in deb ted to them forever. You don't want that in your life. You should just tell your husband that we are in a recession and you would like to also help provide for the family that you love so much.

Answer 3

This boy is still tied to his mother's apron strings. Because she babies him, he is never going to grow up and make his own decisions....

This you have to live with since you accepted to marry him. As the saying goes: You make your bed and lie in it too....

Answer 4

tell all the points why u value ur job more then ur hubby's wish and take professional help................

Answer 5

I suggest  you leave your Job at the moment and start taking care of your baby, husband and inlaws. Love them so much that they start loving you and then slowly start crating the need that u also need to work to improve further may be financially or in yoy lilfe.

I am sure after some time, they will understand you.

If you go against them, then anything can happen, I suggest you should not do anything which is against your family. Afterall this is your family and it is only you who can win them.

I am not suggesting you to bow down and sit at home and you also become like them, but this is the better way to tackle this situation. Win their ego, boost it and then get their support.



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Answer 6

Your in-laws are not there forever. You have 2 options with you:

1. The everso dutiful wife, truly Indian, sacrificing your career, your likes to care for your husband and child. Wait patiently for the child to be independant (to school) or change of attitude in husband to continue your career.

2. Continue your career, suffering the antagonism and the repeated blames for any matter that may happen, as a result of your decison.Maybe your partner may take it as an open challenge to let the marriage go to ruins

Take a decision and stick on with it.But I would suggest:

A. Make it clear to your partner that you will letgo of your career only in the context that your family stays together, not by dumping you to in-laws house and saving a regular amount for a rainy day in your account.

B. Make your husband understand that its better for your family to have both parents working, so as to have financial stability. Slowly, once he gets more exposure (to society) he will appreciate you.

C. As for privacy in matters, he is just a little boy who runs off to his parents, let him grow out of this habit slowly but steadily, by your dont care attitude.

If you want the marriage to last, do all these in a spirit of love.