Please help me regarding the child support of my baby..

Question

I am a mother of an 8 month old baby. She is using my surname and we\'re not married but she is acknowledged by her dad in the birth certificate. The father decided not to give financial support anymore because i decided not to bring the child to their house but they are free to visit here at my house. I read that it is the right of the father to visit the child, i don\'t deprive him that but what they want now is for my baby to be with them on weekends without me. Because of this i didnt agree to anything but he decided not to give financial support anymore. Can i sue him for this? what can i do for child support? and what does the court normally rule for this? are they going to allow my 4 month old baby to be with his father on weekends? are they allowed to demand more than their visitation rights?

please help. thank you..

Answer 1

Do you want my advice? My mom and I were getting child support for a long time, and my dad suddenly decided to stop paying when I was 18 because he thought that was what the law said. Well we wen't back after I turned 21 to get him for the missed payments.

Total; 15,000 USD

Answer 2

The courts see visitation and financial support as separate issues, as they should. In other words, one does not effect the other.

I guarantee the courts will order child support payments.

I can almost also guarantee the court will grant weekend visitation rights to the father - unless you can show why that would not be in the baby's best interest.

I think right now you're on the wrong course by saying "you can visit, but it's gotta be at my house". Look what happened, he stopped paying. The t*t for tat has started and can VERY easily get out of control, ending up in deep seeded resentments and ill will between you two - and THAT will be EXTREMELY harmful to your daughter.

It's not too late to get back on the right track, and I suggest you do so quickly. Let him have control over his visitations - they're his after all.

Take a deep breath and do it - things will be ok. I promise.

Answer 3

you are entitled to child support. go to your county's child support division at the courthouse and open a case. if he is working they will garnish his wages.

in california visitation has nothing to do with child support. you pay if you see your child or not. and if he doesn't pay they suspend the driver's license and any professional licenses he hold until the arrears are paid.

Answer 4

No agreements made by you and the Father have any legal standings. You need to go through court to obtain Child Support. When you do this, he will be granted visitation and it may include weekends without you there. Since you will not collect for "back payments", get busy and contact an attorney to go to court. After reading some of the other answers, you will quickly find that the Child Support Bureau has no legal standing except after the Court awards support payments. When you go to court, both the amount of support AND visitation will be ordered.

Answer 5

If your uncomfortable with you baby leaving for the weekend and you have no court order stating you have to, you don't have to let him have the baby. Are you are nursing? If you are there is your reason not to allow it!!! (worked for me) He is still required by law to pay support even if no visiation agreement is made. It is his resonsibility to go to court and request visitation. (but don't tell him that) If you want to you can go to the court first and apply for custody and support. Being the 1st one to apply is better, that way you can indicate what the terms are. Make sure you document everything! Keep a log of phone calls, visitations, conversations and even if he even give you a can of soup lol.  Most judges are easier on the person caring for the child. Remember don't give him any amunition to use against you. Even if your beyond angry don't let him get the better of you & you will come out on top!!!

Answer 6

You can get child support if you bring him to court, but on the other hand, he will also get some rights. I live in La. Here, a father doesn't have the right to take the child overnight or for more than a couple hours until the child reaches the age of one, unless the mother agrees with it. When the child reaches the age of one, the father usually gets weekend visitation rights.  

Answer 7

go to family court..and sue for child support..the court may make you officially prove paternity but once thats done ur on your way.  child support depends on how much the parents make..and they usually take a bit from each parent.  as for visitation..that is a separate order and most courts will allow the non-custodial parent to se their child whether they pay support or not.  good luck

Answer 8

First you need to have parental rights signed over to you-if your childs father doesn't want this then come to a agreement but custodial rights at least. That puts the childs gaudianship and where they are into your hands. It does not take away his rights to visit the child. Also get or set up visitation officially and go to child services and ask them to help you with child support. That is their job. He is resp. to pay you no matter what and they will get it done thru the court system. If he wants to fight it then he has to prove he's not the father etc or they will dock his pay and tax returns to get the funds. In some cases that might be easier for the guiy. Get everything done as officially as you can-start with child services-they do not cost.

Answer 9

Have this mess taken care of by the courts.  Get an attorney and specific visitation rights and child support conditions.

Answer 10

You will have to sue in order to get child support and it would be very helpful to your case to decide exactly how old your child is.  If you do get child support, he may also get some parental rights.