Please help me this is serious =(

Question

okay, I dont know what to do anymore. I have a very racist father. I mean he is HORRIBLE, he thinks hitler was a good guy, he wont let me watch any show if there is even ONE black person on it. He wouldnt even let me watch little people big world becuase he hates "little people". He tells me what a worthless peaice of s**t I am becuase when he tells me he wants to murder my aunt and watch her die because she is dating a black man, and I dont agree with him, and the list goes on and on. He is ruining my life, and I need help. I dont know what to do. I do not agree with him at all.

-I got grounded becuase I babysitted my 3 year old cousin that is mixed.

-he doesnt let me watch biggest loser, becuase he hates fat people.

- I cant even watch stuart little becuase Hugh Laurie is in it, and he is brittish.

I JUST NEED HELP

Answer 1

First thing is your already ahead of your father because your not like him. WOW he is something. Listen your dads a very sick person. He must be very unhappy. And unhappy people always make other people around them miserble too. I feel sorry for anybody that has to associate with him. I'm guessing you can't go to your mom right. Because if you could you wouldn't be here on this site. I would maybe find a good friend to talk to about this. Or even a school counselor. If theres anybody you could move in with that would be helpful also. You have to remeber that your fathers a sick person and you have nothing to do with that. He's very misrable. Thats not your problem. You just keep thinking the way you have. Believe me you'll be a much happier person. Like I said>>>you already have it over your father. As soon as you can get out of that situation I would run for the hills!!!!! GOOD LUCK  stay strong!!

Answer 2

Hey I'll have a show down with your Dad about the British - uneducated

moron! Sorry I know he's your father but what century is he in - not this one that's for sure.

Report him, racism is illegal isn't it? Failing that ignore him completely and save your energy for more considerate people.  

Answer 3

Your father definitely has some anger issues.  If he is physically abusive, call child protective services.  If not, try avoiding confrontations with him.  I know it is hard, but you know what makes him angry and can avoid subjects that will cause arguments.  Not being able to babysit a relative or watch certain tv shows, regardless of the reasons, does not equal child abuse.  Start saving your money and plan how you can move out as soon as you are 18.  When you are out from under his control, you will be able to tell him what you think of him and his beliefs.  Until then, try to keep the peace for your own safety. Try praying and ask God to change his heart!  

Answer 4

Your father is very sick and abusive. Please follow Blueberry's advice as she had the best answer to your problem. THis kind of  abuse will cause irreparable damage to you and it is very hard to reverse.

Answer 5

I feel so bad for you.  At least you have the sense to have your own opinions and views and do not go along with his.  Can you go to live with your mother? Tell a school counselor.  You should also call the National Child Abuse Hotline for advice.  This seems to me like it could be verbal and mental abuse.  

Answer 6

You should talk to anyone who will listen. I mean friends, other family, people at school.Go stay with friends. If you can't move in with family or friends, report the abuse. You don't won't the abuse to hinder your future goals or make you depressed. You could even write dr.phil or move in with your aunt. There are articles on wikihow (on the internet) talking about how to deal with parents and people like this. Whatever you do, know that you deserve to be respected and treated well and as a teenager not a child. Do not let him brainwash you. You are more sane than he is. Remember you and your future are more important than him. Find your way out,soon. I really hope everything turns around for you.  

Answer 7

slowly try to stand by your own than move out of the house

Answer 8

ok well....... first you just got to say that u dont judge people by colour and by race....... u judge them all as one...... he shouldnt be so hard on you because #1 its your life not his and he shouldnt control..... just tell him that if he wants to be racist, he should be racist to himself.... ask him to just imagine if he can say thing about other colouredpeople what are other going to say about him, i mean come it is UR LIFE.......... i was happy to help and what does ur mom think of him???

xoxo

Answer 9

WOW!

Firstly, you have my respect for having the guts to post this. I'm sorry you have to go through that. Your father is a very ignorant man to still be thinking like that as those days are OVER!! I'm a mixed race girl, half black/indian/white. Yes - you're only 16, i'm 28 and have seen alot of racism in my day. .All I can say to you is to pray my dear - I know it sounds futile, but it helps. People like your father get no where in life. Just stand strong in what you believe - even though you dont agree with him - you might want to keep your head down for now. Is there not a chance of you going to live with your Aunt? And if worse comes to worse - youcuold always get the social sevices involved - they would place you with your Aunt or another adult in your family they trust you with or who you feel comfortable with, but this would probably mean you losing touch with your mom & dad for a while. Also - try talking to your Aunt for support - talking helps alot.

Let us know how you get on...God bless.

Answer 10

Hmm, your dad seems awful sorry to say. and i'm british so i'm quite offended by him, erm maybe threaten him or something

Answer 11

Do you have relatives you can go and live with?

Your father is the one who needs help.  Sounds like that he thinks he is the only perfect person when in fact none of us are perfect.

He is looking at black people and little people and fat people like they are were not made from God.  I have never know anyone to be as prejudice as he.

He needs to look at his self on the inside befoe he looks at people on the outside.  is.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

Answer 12

Wow what a man your dad is! He sounds like an opinionated control freak! I doubt he will ever change his opinions, so try for now while living in his home to ignore his racist comments etc and continue to have your own.. Or if you were brave enough you could challenge why he feels this way> usually its down to deep insecurity, weak personality,,, good luck

Answer 13

Horrible in 21 century that ur father is racist,

He need to see doctor or talk to one of his best friend regarding his behavior.

Answer 14

He is a racist sociopath, he needs councelling himself! I'm sure their is some authority in your area you can go to for advice?

Answer 15

You cannot control your father, only yourself. Since he is volatile and your mother won't help you, you should keep your opinions to yourself. If he gets physical, you can tell someone at school or just call the cops.

I advise you to work as hard as you can so that when you are 18 you can get scholarships and grants to get you into college. Furthering your education will allow you the freedom to live on your own. Then distance yourself from this ugly human being.  

Answer 16

idk what to tell you. if things get worse, you're going to have to tell him how you feel. even if that risks a huge argument. you're not like that & his views are wrong.

Answer 17

go to school councelor and get help, sure you mom can do something, she could have not married him, she could kick him out

she Choose to not do something

just as you now are old enough to Choose to do something, of course you can move out, social service can place you in foster care, or even help you become adult through court order as an exception to the law. You can choose to get help to get out.

Posible if your aunt will alow it you can go live with her, and all of you need to get a restraining order against him, he is clearly a dangerous man, do Not try to confront him. You need to go to someone, who can help you so that when you get out you wont have to go back and face him, someone who will send police to fetch your things.

Answer 18

wow, I thought I wasn't lucky..um thats really sad, I can't answer but I hope ur father gets back to reality

Answer 19

Phone the children's protection services in your city and tell them about him. He's clearly unbalanced and dangerous.  

Answer 20

You need help? No offence, your dad is the one who needs help. Speak to someone about it? Your mum?  It depends how old you are. Your dad sounds like a nutcase TBH. He sounds like he's abusive, does he hurt you physically? Or just verbally?

Seeing as you've just said your 16 there is not much you can do except phone the child abuse line thing. I assume you live in the U.S?

Answer 21

Sorry about the situation at hand dear. You both need help and your father needs it most and urgently.

He must have had a bitter experience or grudge with some one of a different race or hes just scared of what they can do and he can not.

He i behaving like this simply because he is afraid of what we don't know.

Does he have friends,who might behave differently from him, i mean who are objective?If so, talk to them, find out why he thinks or behaves

this way.

He is your father and since you said he is already wishing to kill your auntie, then you have to be a little careful.

I think your father needs to see a psychiatrist , because he can easily turn on his own family. He must be have a deteriorating mental disorder. because by the time you reach that level of hatred, then you can no longer view things normally.

Good luck dear.

Answer 22

I'm so sorry...

Your dad needs help get out and away as far as you can go child protection services go to other family members but tell them to tell your dad your not there get a restricting order anything just GET AWAY!

What about your mum confront her if shes not like him and well run away!

If you have other siblings get them out of there to... just seriously get away...before you really get hurt. and wipe your computer internet's memory so he doesn't find this page and gets angry...

Answer 23

your father has really big issues.  he is probably part of the KKK.  what i would do is make him really embarrassed of himself by calling someone that would make it on live tv like mury and tell him about your problem.  in jerry springer there was one episode just like that.

Answer 24

i am so sorry for  you. I tried to put myself in your position and it was HORRIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!

Do you hate him?

Do you live just with him?

Do you get backed up by your family if you ty to say something back?

Look here at england they take racism a VERY serious issue!!!!!!!!

Racism is illegal here!!

Look's like he  is influencing you into becoming one. You woudn't want to become one would you??

You must do something QUICK!!!!!!!!!

Let someone no, not people in yahoo.

I mean people that can do somethng about it.

You shouldn't have totolerate this. He swears at you!!

Don't suffer in silence.

Hope this helped!!!!!!!!!

xx :0)

Answer 25

Your dad is a b*****d. No offense

Answer 26

Sounds to me like he's the one who needs help (not you).

I don't know how old you are, so it's hard to guess your ability (financially) to support yourself.

But judging by the tone of your post, I'd guess that you're a teen or a pre-teen.

If you're a teen or a pre-teen, I'd say keep to yourself right now about this because if you speak up, you face being kicked out (which is the equivalent of being thrown to the wolves). Judging by what you've written about him, I'd say he's not going to listen to much of what you have to say.

Answer 27

telll him he is being racist h**l find out sooner or later and tell him that he is reallt tight and that wat he is saying is rong

Answer 28

Contact race relations & report him for his disgusting behaviour!

He's mad, leave him-get away from him & then write to him without giving your address to tell him he should be ashamed of himself because he's sick

You get dragged into your room & what?  what stuff?  What's he doing?

You can try to leave, if you explain this to connexions-take a copy of this page of Yahoo answers & tell them you really need housing urgently.  Tell them you can't stay with him any longer.

Anyone deserves better than being with that dirt bag