Please help me with compulsive lying???

Question

I am 19, an architecture student, doing well in school, have a loving and stable home life. No boyfriend drama. No drugs or alcohol. Strongly religious. All in all, the model for the 'perfect' girl.

So why do I lie about everything? I want to cry everytime I do, but I almost believe the things I say. I know lying is wrong. I hate lies. But they just come out everything I say anything. I lie mostly about little things; what someone said at school, a funny story, something I heard on the radio, something a teacher said. Just 'harmless' things. But I lie to the people I love, and they deserve better than that. I hate saying things to my mom that aren't true.

Recently I met a man that I really want to get to know. I met him online, on a dating site. I told my mom, though, that I met him at school. He's not going to college though. I then told her that I met him last semester but he's skipping this semester for work. There are so many truths mixed up in this it is hard for me to even tell what is true any more.

But what if we keep seeing each other and he meets my parents? I now feel the need to stop seeing him so I won't disappoint my mom; so she won't find out the truth and know I lied to her.

This is getting out of hand. I can't stop lying. I also have extreme anxiety and cannot go tho counseling. I want to be at peace with my self. are there any good websites or books that could help me? Does anyone have any suggestions?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I really hope you can help me.

Answer 1

Introspect on your self and work out why it is you lie, why do you need to, what is it that causes anxiety and the need to lie?

It's probably to do with your situation in life.

Improve it!

Answer 2

As much as the thought of counseling may scare you away, it will likely be helpful for the compulsive lying -and- the anxiety. You know that you have a problem and you want to deal with it. Bite the bullet and get the counseling. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

thats bad lying that does seem like its getting out of hand you need to tell your mum family whoever and then get councelling seeing as your an arcitecht student then you should have enough money to afford councelling

Answer 4

just know that lying won't change anything and the more you do it the more you go deeper down the whole. And also remember that the people you lie to will be able to notice it by time.