Please help me with this problem?

Question

i m stuck in a rut and i don't know wht to do/ currently i am junior at san francisco state university/ my background; i m east indian/ ok geting back to my prob, i am living at home and my older sister( divorced with a child) has made my life a living nightmare/ she is so horrible that i can't stand her for a second/ for starters, she is extremely jealous, extremely negative, makes rude remarks, taunts/ lashes out at me/ throws tantrums when i am around/ i m so sick that i can't stand the very sight of her's/ every time i see her in the house i try to leave/ her behaviour ..so... wants me to hurl/ i m so hurt tat now in my mind and in my heart i don't consider her family/ i simply avoid her in conversations/ my parents know that she is wrong but hardly stick for me up n e wy i want to leave but dnt knw whr to go??? i am east-indian so i m torn between leavin home and goin and living on my own/ also it's cheaper for me to live at home...since i m in sch....but al tat negativity and abuse is bringing my self-worth down/ i am afraid it will be very hard for me to get thru school/ i am afraid i might fail/ the only way to escape al this is to get into a sane environment???i don't know wht to do???HELP????

Answer 1

first of all, get out of that housing situation. is there possibly a friend that you could stay with? becuase right now, your sister is holding you back. your unhappiness, is revolving around her and if it wernt for the fact that she was so nasty to you,. you wold be in a better position. if there are other family mebers or fa mily that you could stay with? secondly, try concentrate and focus, get yourself to finish school and by that time, im sure that yourt situation would have cleared up heaps.

hope i helped and good luck

Answer 2

Move into the dorms and/or see your school counselor.  Moving into the dorms will allow you to surround yourself with your schoolmates, who are often times can be a source of support and encouragement.  My college friends were almost like a family to me.  The counselor (at the health center, NOT the guidance counselor) would be good to speak with because he or she can help you resolve some of the frustration you are feeling and, perhaps, help you find ways to negotiate your sister's behavior.  You might also alert your guidance counselor so you can map out a plan of action for the immediate future (i.e. Should you drop one of your current classes due to the stress?  Should you take a lighter load next semester so you can work on these issues/moving into the dorms/etc...)  Good luck with everything

SFSU Counseling and Psychological Services Center:

http://www.sfsu.edu/~psyservs/

Office hours are 8AM to Noon and 1PM to 7PM Monday through Thursday and until 5PM on Friday. Appointments may be made by phone [phone] or in person at Student Services Building Room 208.

SFSU Dorms:

http://www.sfsu.edu/~housing/welcome.htm...

(P.S. I don't know what being east indian has to do with anything, but I didn't get along with what little family I had and cut all ties with them when I left for the university.  It was one of the smartest moves I made.  I'm assuming that being east indian means that there would be great shame if you left your family or something like that?)