Please help...my mum 'found' something and it's really awkward between us...

Question

My mum’s always going on about how I go on the computer too much…I’ve always said I’m doing coursework but really I role play and write/read yaoi (boyxboy s*x/love using anime/manga characters) stories on here, roleplaying with other people. She’s really awkward about stuff like this so I’ve had to hide it from her.

So this morning she told my little brother to turn off the computer and went “tell your sister she can’t go on to do these rubbish things, computers should only be used for good things”.

I asked her what she meant, and she was really angry and went “you know what you’ve been doing” and after I persisted she went “you know, you’re just obsessed with b-o-y…” here she stopped because my brother came in, “just focus on your studies”.

I have NO idea what she found but it’s really awkward because I don’t know what it is…we’re not talking and I have no idea what to do because I want to know what she’s talking about, but I don’t in case it’s awkward…

What can I do?? She’s saying I can’t go on here but I DO haverole playingo do and I can’t ditch my roleplaying partners. I could NEVER tell her about them because she has a heart attack if I talk to anyone over the internet.

Please help! I hate this...

Answer 1

sometimes parents don'tt understand.I'mm a parent myself of a baby girl, and i'm sure there will be times coming up that i will do the same- from a parents perspective here's what shes thinking-

   shes not stupid. she knows not everyone who plays the role playing or erotic on linee chats and games has something bad happen tothem. but, even if there's a 1 percent chance in a hundred that doing something will hurt my kid, i (as well as your mom) will always tell you not to do something.

its not because s doesn'tsnt want you to have an outlet of some sort (who knows? maybe your mom has sexual secrets too...eww, i know, but EVERY human does). its she doesnt want ANYTHING bad to happen to you or to damage your learning and personality, no matter HOW small the chance.

yes, i even know that makes no sense, and it feels like youre being sheltered. but until YOU are a parent, you have no idea how horrified we are that our kids are alive in todays world, so we tend to play it TOO safe.

unfortuneately, the only resolution to this is- wait till your 18, move out, then do what you want. your mom will still ***** and moan at you, but you'll be on your own and nothing she can do about it.

until then, maybe buy your OWN computer, and put passwords on it so she cant get into it. sorry to say, no easy fix for a parent protecting her kid- no matter HOW silly it seems.

Answer 2

Hmm that is really awkward. Is there any other computer you can roleplay on, besides that one? If you can, do it on there. And then delete your history afterward.

:)

Answer 3

Honest X,

Are you really honest, maybe somewhat with us , but you aren't telling all, to us and certainly to your mom.

these games you play are dangerous and your mom realizes it and only wants the best for you.

I would assume that the computer was bought for educational purposes, not sexual games at your age.

Can't you and your role playing friends find some area to role play, why not a newer version of Romeo & Juliet and you be the main role person and don't do the suicide thing, find another ending and make it for this day and age.

You seem to have a good imagination and that's good , but put it to good use.

My sister started writing her versions of different plays from the Canterbury Century and making them her own. They were used in a  New PlayHouse In the Park in her home town and use as a directors assistant for writing the play and having her input. Would this appeal to you? This could be a real future for you.....................

Answer 4

HOW OLD ARE YOU IS THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION..

THEN ILL BE ABLE TO GIVE YOU AN HONEST ANSWER

[[EDIT]] WTF?? THUMBS DOWN.... SOMEONE DISAGREES WITH ME. THIS GIRL COULD BE 13.. AND SHE IS ROLE PLAYING SEXUALLY ONLINE WITH PROBABLY GROWN @SS MEN...

IS THAT ACCEPTABLE??

I DONT THINK SO...

NOW IF SHE IS 18 OR SO.. THEN HER MOM CANT REALLY SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HER DECISIONS.. ALTHOUGH IF IT IS HER MOTHERS COMPUTER SHE DOESNT HAVE TO LET HER ON....

BUT BEING THATS HE IS STILL IN SCHOOL.. SHE IS PROBABLY A MINOR.. SO s*x/ROLE PLAYING ONLINE WITH STRANGE MEN IS SOMETHING HER MOTEHR NEEDS TO DEAL WITH

"I’ve always said I’m doing coursework but really I role play and write/read yaoi (boyxboy s*x/love using anime/manga characters) "

YOUR WORDS.. NOT MINE... YOU SAID YOURSELF ITS LOVE/s*x ROLEPLAYING...

SO WHICH IS IT??

Answer 5

Start with this

" Look mom... Its really aqward between us. And it shouldn't be this way! And Im really sorry about what ive been doing, but.... i don't want to feel like your angry at me forever. So mom. will you forgive me? "

Answer 6

she probaly found the yaoi thing o well big deal my brother cant use the computer for a year cuz he was watchin p**n if that yaoi thing is liek p**n the worst thing she can do is ground you

Answer 7

Your mother has a good reason to not permit you to be on the computer; you've been lying to her from the start, and she found out about it.  It doesn't matter what she saw or what she thinks.  The only thing she knows is that you lied.  Betraying her trust by tricking her into thinking you're doing something else is what got you into trouble.

Now I'm sure that telling her, "I pretend to be a boy and have s*x with other people, but it's not real" is not going to be successful, but you need to be more honest about what you do.  Let her know that you participate in a roleplaying game, and your presence is expected; if you don't show up, you've basically ruined the game.  Roleplaying can be a good learning experience; it shows you how to be creative and use your brain.  And because it's roleplaying, you're not giving out your name or address, so other people aren't going to be stalking you.

Whatever you do, coming clean is the way to go.  She's already eliminated your computer privileges, so you have nothing to lose by trying.  Plus it'll help repair your relationship with your mom.  In the meantime, email your roleplaying buddies and tell them that you won't have computer access for a while and that you're sorry.  No need to give a detailed explanation.

Answer 8

Tell your mom to shove off and leave you alone.

:)

Answer 9

lol how lame, why bother with online role playing, get a boyfriend.

i'm not suprised shes annoyed to be honest, wouldn't you be?

Answer 10

delete your browsing history go to tools and delete browsing history go to delete all.

Answer 11

Let her camp over your shoulder and see that your RP sessions are harmless.   If they're not harmless and you are underage then you ought to do as your mother wishes.  

Answer 12

the best i could tell you to do is save up and buy yor own that way she cant say anything because it is your computer

good luck!